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Old Oct 12th, 2015, 05:07 AM   1
missk1989
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Initial visit tomorrow....


And I am terrified! I am so worried I will say something stupid or they will say we are not committed enough because we could not get out of work earlier than 4pm, (on future occasions we will take half days off work).
Worried we will not be able to commit to the dates they suggest due to my job and that they will see us as being awkward and also worried because I have to be back in work an hour away from home at 6pm and they are coming at 4pm! Any idea how long it takes? I don't really want to tell my boss just yet but I think I will probably be late back so have no choice!



 
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Old Oct 15th, 2015, 01:36 AM   2
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Sooooo, it went really well I think. We have officially applied now so need to wait and see if our application is accepted. Quite nervous but all fingers crossed. We need to start telling people as if we get accepted they will be called upon as references. I am starting with my boss on Friday.



 
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Old Oct 15th, 2015, 15:22 PM   3
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Glad everything went well, exciting times but worrying times ahead as well.
You will be fine, take one day at a time. Xx keep us updated ..



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Old Oct 19th, 2015, 13:05 PM   4
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Thanks, we are eagerly waiting to hear if it has been accepted.

My only concern is that I could only think of one friend to put down as a reference and so put 2 family members and one friend rather than the other way around - it ws a cousin though the 2nd family member. My friends are just in very different places right now and most of them wouldnt have the capacity to write us a serious reference, (I don't have many friends).
Fingers crossed it will all be fine.



 
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Old Oct 20th, 2015, 13:13 PM   5
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Hey missk1989, I know in Canada we have to have 2 friends and 1 family member for reference. If we don't then they will send it back. I hope they accept it tho.

Good luck!!!



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Old Oct 26th, 2015, 03:04 AM   6
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I am assuming they have accepted our application as they have sent us the paperwork for the medical checks.



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2015, 20:37 PM   7
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Well that's good!!



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Old Oct 28th, 2015, 10:50 AM   8
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Yes, unfortunatley I cannot get to see a doctor for over 2 weeks which is frustrating. I may start our family tree to pass the time.

I am wondering how honest I should be though... I have an uncle who has one biological child and 3 adopted children who ended up back in the care system, would you put them in and hope they dont ask questions? I also have an aunt who is fostering her grandchild as her son is in a psychiatric hospital and the mother had the child removed from her care. Would you avoid mentioning this?



 
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Old Oct 28th, 2015, 13:24 PM   9
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DBS complete. You think things are going to halt but there is always something to do it would seem!



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2015, 06:10 AM   10
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Never, ever lie or avoid mentioning something during the process. The truth often comes out and it will be far worse if your Social Worker sees you as somebody who lies. They need to know you're being completely honest from the start.



 
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