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Old Jan 14th, 2016, 02:48 AM   11
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Solihull. I'm not surprised they said no to be honest but was really quite upset with Birmingham. How big is Walsall LA in comparison? Did they say there was much of a wait for younger children?



 
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Old Jan 14th, 2016, 02:57 AM   12
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It's not huge but it's part of the Black Country consortium with sandwell, Dudley and wolves.
They said that nationally there's a shortage of children with placement orders and people are waiting a long time. However, Walsall are one of the few authorities that still have more children waiting than adopters approved. They don't give timescales as it all depends on individual cases. We have said we want a child as young as possible but no preference around gender. Walsall generally have far more boys than girls, so we'd probably have a longer wait if we stated a girl only x



 
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Old Jan 17th, 2016, 01:03 AM   13
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Don't feel down hearted! I rang about 10 LA's and was rejected from all but one. Turns out the one that accepted our application has alot of children needing placements, quite a few little ones included.



 
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Old Jan 18th, 2016, 12:32 PM   14
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Hi guys! I'd love to jump in here too if that's okay. DH and I started TTC #1 in June of 2014. After awhile with no luck we started the testing process and discovered male factor infertility. We talked it over and decided that IVF is not for us, but decided to proceed with adoption! I'm excited but I must admit, we're both completely overwhelmed and nervous about the whole process. So much so that I really haven't done anything to even start the process...I think I'm kind of paralyzed by the nerves. I am planning to finally try to get started soon though, and I'm happy to see some activity in this thread as maybe this is something we can go through together! Good luck, ladies!



 
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Old Jan 20th, 2016, 22:00 PM   15
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Oh wow hi everybody!! I haven't posted in a while because I noticed how slow this section of the forum is and didn't think anyone would reply lol!

It seems adoption is a lot different in the US than in the UK. There doesn't have to be any kind of age difference so we can go for whatever age we choose Our case worker will offer suggestions about which age they think would fit best I our family, though.

We attended our information meeting and learned so much! Unfortunately the process is long like I thought it would be. They offer the classes to prepare us for adoption/fostering quarterly so the next session doesn't start until April. When those start we have to get in 36 hours of class time, which can take several months. It seems like such a long time away!! In the meantime I'll be filling out our application for and getting our background check complete. We also have to take a CPR class and get a lot of things for the house, such as a fire extinguisher and medicine and gun safes.

Good luck to the rest of you! How long does adoption usually take in the UK?



 
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Old Jan 20th, 2016, 22:20 PM   16
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Hi guys! I'd love to jump in here too if that's okay. DH and I started TTC #1 in June of 2014. After awhile with no luck we started the testing process and discovered male factor infertility. We talked it over and decided that IVF is not for us, but decided to proceed with adoption! I'm excited but I must admit, we're both completely overwhelmed and nervous about the whole process. So much so that I really haven't done anything to even start the process...I think I'm kind of paralyzed by the nerves. I am planning to finally try to get started soon though, and I'm happy to see some activity in this thread as maybe this is something we can go through together! Good luck, ladies!
I've been super nervous as well! Thankfully there's so much time in between each process that you have time for the nerves to settle lol. At least in the US!



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2016, 00:53 AM   17
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It's frustrating it can take so long isn't it?
In the uk the new guidelines are 6 months to be approved but then you can wait a long time to be approved, it really varies.
With our first adoption It took 16 months from the first phone call to our little boy coming home.
We have our first appointment with our social worker tomorrow so will hopefully get an idea of timescales this time. We have the same social worker this time too so should hopefully be easier x



 
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Old Jan 21st, 2016, 11:46 AM   18
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Great to hear back from you, ladies! Adoption really does seem to be quite different in the US vs the UK! I have a friend who adopted the end of 2014 and is currently going through the process again, and having her to give advice and even tell us where to START has been a huge help. She also gave us the info for a consultant that they used, he's located in Illinois but works with people all over the country. It sounds like he was a HUGE help and while a little pricey, it sounds like it's worth every penny. He not only assembled their profile book completely for them (with their final approval, of course), but he even filled out the whole adoption application for them! And gave tips of the best states to consider adopting from, the best agencies in each state from his experience, etc. We're planning on setting up a free consultation with him soon, to begin the process. DaTucker, if you're interested in looking his website over (since you're also in the US), let me know and I'll send you a PM with the info!

We also got the info for an attorney that specializes in adoptions so we're going to reach out to her soon as well to get some info. After that, I guess we need to figure out where we want to contact for our home study and get the ball rolling! Eek, it's so scary!

Good luck to everyone, this seems to be a scary but fun (maybe? haha!) journey!



 
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Old Jan 22nd, 2016, 18:26 PM   19
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Dream: We don't even get assigned a case worker until after our classes. Which I guess makes sense if they are wanting to make sure you're committed. How did the appointment go??

Turtle: I might be interested in it! I know going through an attorney or a private agency is the best way to get an infant, which is what my husband really wants. I might be able to convince him to cough up the money lol.

We're going through the state right now, and other than a few expenses such as paying for the fingerprinting, etc, it's completely free! I think I'm going to request a specific sibling group, 11 and 12, if they are still available when everything is ready to go. I'm also going to request they keep us on the list to receive and infant, even if it's days or weeks after our new child/children come to live with us! I can handle 4 kids surely lol



 
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Old Jan 23rd, 2016, 01:48 AM   20
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All went well thanks was lovely to see her again and we have the forms for our medicals etc now. She thinks she'll only need to make another 3/4 visits to complete assessment as she knows us very well anyway
Datucker, would they allow that in the US? Here we had to wait 2 years from when LO was placed until we could even apply to adopt again. It gives LO time to settle etc. The only time they will bend rules is if a birth sibling is born and needs to be placed x



 
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