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Old Apr 7th, 2016, 00:12 AM   51
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Oh, and tomorrow starts our classes!! The last class is May 7th. This month is going to pass by so quickly!



 
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Old Apr 8th, 2016, 14:12 PM   52
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Ooh that's exciting Hun! Time will fly!
Yeah it's Amazing how well the matching works. You'd never realize our little boy wasn't our biological child unless you were told! He looks a lot like us both!



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2016, 11:02 AM   53
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Hi all,
We have had our SW round meeting our Birth son today. Went really well but we have had to move our panel date back to July as they haven't had chance to meet our references yet. Quite disappointed but hoping time passes well.
Hope your all doing well.



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2016, 12:19 PM   54
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Ah glad it went well! Time will fly hun, a month is nothing. Just think... Maybe your baby isn't ready yet x



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2016, 13:58 PM   55
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I guess so...last time they were here they hinted that they had a child in mind but today said there were much fewer babies so may take longer after approval than previously thought. Its great for those children i suppose



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2016, 15:16 PM   56
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I find it really frustrating as unfortunately it's usually not 'great' for those children. They're generally not being returned to birth parents, just waiting on foster care longer whilst a judge tries to decide what to do :/
The picture nationally is fewer children with placement orders so people are generally waiting longer for a match. I guess time will tell for us all...



 
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Old Apr 20th, 2016, 06:01 AM   57
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Grrr I hate delays, I'm sorry that you guys are all experiencing delays too - I wonder when our first little one on this thread will arrive! I'm following all your journey's with such enthusiasm!

Obviously no news from us (there wont be now until August at the earliest) but actually, getting deferred until the Sept prep groups I think was good as I was soooo happy that we didn't end up driving back from our hol for a day - we had such a lovely time there with Elliot it would have seemed a real shame to leave him there and miss out on a day with him! And I'm looking forward to a lovely summer with him - next up is Geronimofest! http://www.geronimofest.com/

Last weekend we had some friends round who were in a similar situation to us - well, it was someone I used to work with years ago who I know had adopted after having a biological child. I got back in touch with him recently after years! he was more than happy to share his experience so him and his wife and 2 kiddos came round on Saturday afternoon - it was so lovely to see their adopted son so integrated into the family,and so happy! They got on brilliantly with Elliot and we had such a lovely afternoon they didn't leave until after bedtime! It's absolutely reassured my vision that this is the right path for us.



 
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Old Apr 22nd, 2016, 09:07 AM   58
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I don't think over here they actually meet the references, they just give them a call. Thank goodness bc most of our references are about 5 hours away.

Srb, it's always great to have that affirmation! I have had days where I question if I'm doing the right thing and other days where I absolutely can't wait!

We were supposed to have our first home study yesterday and meet our social worker but the rain has been ridiculous so she had to reschedule. Apparently during the first meeting they inspect your home top to bottom, inside and out. I'm actually glad she rescheduled bc there's a particular closet in my house that's a little....inaccessible ...from being used as storage. And that's saying it nicely. It will probably take all week to sort through everything in there!!

Our 4th class is on Saturday. After that we have 5 left, including a CPR class. There's so much to get in order!!



 
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Old Apr 23rd, 2016, 15:21 PM   59
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I wish they just rang ours, it is really hard to ask a friend (who will not benefit one bit) to take time off work to meet with our social workers. I know my dad was a reference for my aunt to foster her grandchild so it is done with some LA's here.
We are having a bit of a problem organising the references on my side as they want to meet all 3 and my cousin is struggling with dates (one SW just gone part time so not many to choose from). The most recent one they gave was mid june but I think if they wait that long then we will be deferred to August as they won't be able to get paper work done. I have emailed our SW asking if this would be the case hoping they will decide to just see the two references I can get to agree to dates.



 
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Old Apr 24th, 2016, 06:12 AM   60
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It can be so frustrating can't it? Is there nobody you could ask to be a referee? Our sw has only visited 2 of our 3 this time, unsure whether she plans to visit the 3rd or not.
I think the hardest part of the process is just handing over control completely. I know I found it so difficult the first time, I agonised about every aspect. This time I've far more relaxed.,.. But still have my moments



 
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