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Old Dec 19th, 2015, 17:12 PM   1
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The Tucker's Adoption Journey


So I see there isn't much activity in this section of the forums but I still wanted to go ahead and start a thread/journal documenting our journey!

Backstory: DH and I have male factor infertility. It took us 3.5 years to finally conceive our son naturally, and he is the center of our Universe! We have always discussed how wanting a very large family, as we are part of big families ourselves (we both have 6 siblings). We are about 1.5 years TTC #2 and decided we wanted to go ahead and go through IVF.

About a week ago I was looking up specialists in the area and was really not as excited about it as I thought I would be. While I was searching I came across and adoption page. That's when it hit me: I wanted to ADOPT. It was like one of those epiphany moments! I was so excited and immediately discussed it with my husband. He apparently has been wanting to adopt for a while now but didn't want to tell me because I was set on having IVF. We have decided if we are meant to have another it will happen naturally like our son did, despite being told we have a 1% chance of it happening. And if it doesn't, I am 100% satisfied with that and our new decision to adopt.

I have been online nonstop looking up information, looking at children in the system available for adoption. Here in Texas the first step is to attend an information meeting. I have already contacted the lady offering a meeting on January 19th so I'm hoping she answers back soon! I know it's a good month away but from what I've seen the process is full of a lot of waiting. I'm just so excited to actually get started!



 
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Old Dec 29th, 2015, 18:46 PM   2
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So we officially have a date for an information meeting!! It's December 19th. It seems so far away but I know there's going to be a lot more waiting in the next year.

I've been doing a lot of research and some days I'm so excited and others I just get hit by nerves. I know this is going to be such a huge and difficult change! We were at first considering adopting an older girl because there are so many older children in the system waiting to be adopted. After a while, though, I started getting worried about that. We really won't knknow this child's personality until they have been with us for a while. What if they get in and start being mean to our son? I know most of those children have emotional issues and I really need to put my son's safety first, whether it's paranoid or not. Dh and I have decided we will either wait the possible 2 years for a newborn or adopt a child no older than 4. St least this time around

Hopefully the next few weeks will fly by!



 
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Old Dec 31st, 2015, 12:03 PM   3
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Hi there, we started the process in September here in the UK and I have been lurking around waiting for activity for a while now! We decided almost as suddenly as yourself that adoption was for us after conceiving our miracle birth son who is now 3. One of the first things we learnt was that any child you adopt must be 2 years younger than your youngest birth child (or any previously adopted children). I dont know if this is the same where you are but it does limit the age of child you can adopt so I would check this before getting ideas about the "type" of child you would like to be matched with. Good luck with your journey, looking forward to seeing how you get on.



 
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Old Jan 2nd, 2016, 02:42 AM   4
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Just found this thread, good luck with your journey...and keep us posted...
I am a foster carer, and I got approved last year,
it was good for me to get support on here, as I was so excited but didn't want to bore my friends all day about talking about it...
I will say there are lots of people waiting for baby's and some have been waiting 2 years, but babies do come up and I have got twins right now who are only weeks old...



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Old Jan 7th, 2016, 03:27 AM   5
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Ah good luck guys!
This section is pretty quiet at the moment, think everyone is busy being mommies
We adopted our little man in December 2013 and are just starting the process again for a sibling! X



 
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Old Jan 7th, 2016, 03:30 AM   6
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Hi!! Just came across this as we have made the decision to adopt and you stories are relatively similarly to my own. We have been TTC #2 for 2.5 years (DS is 3) and through that time undergone lots of tests procedures etc, and the end of the story is that my EMCS has caused significant damage preventing me from conceiving or undergoing IVF. Over Christmas we made the decision to adopt. I am in the UK too, and like you missk, we were told there must be a 2 year age gap.

I had my first initial call with a social worker on Monday where she went through all her preliminary questions..... her only concern was Elliot's age, so she was going to run through our profile with her manager and get back to me this week with whether they are willing for us to start the process with them.

Since we made this decision, it feels like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders! I know adoption is not an easy process, and that it will be long and drawn out, and there are no 'perfect' children. But I am excited to start just like you guys!

Hopefully we can get a bit of momentum / support going on this thread / forum!



 
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Old Jan 7th, 2016, 06:49 AM   7
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Hun I wouldn't worry too much about his age. There is more than a 2 year gap. Our little man is 3 in feb and we were told that was fine as there will be scope for a child up to about 18 months once we're assessed again.
They always say there are no babies available, but there are. Our boy was 9.5 months when placed.
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Old Jan 13th, 2016, 14:23 PM   8
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Did you get a call back Srbjbex?

We have our prep training next week and I am really looking forward to it!



 
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Old Jan 13th, 2016, 15:34 PM   9
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We did and it was a no straight up from that agency due to elliot's age. It's our local authority and they are a very small agency and they said that due to elliot's age (and fact we would need a child 0-2) we would be in for a very long wait as they are such a small agency. I was gutted but understood.

So then I rang my local large LA (Birmingham) and basically got the same answer!!! I was so upset. Birmingham seemed quite rude about it to be honest.

Anyway I plucked up the energy to call another (Warwickshire) and they were lovely! I had a lovely long chat with them and have been officially invited to their open evening in Feb. they gave me the warning that there may be a wait for a child if we are approved as a single child in the 0-2 range is most desired but they were happy for us to proceed.

So now I'm excited! Info evening on 11th Feb.

How is everyone else?



 
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Old Jan 13th, 2016, 15:39 PM   10
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Hun where was your la? We adopted through Walsall and have just started again with them for number 2 x



 
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