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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 12:36 PM   11
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i want to do it to help children that dont have a home, not make a profit out of it



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 12:43 PM   12
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haha no! you misinterpretted completely what i said. christ no i didnt mean that.

I meant after watching dispatches and things about the NHS the people who work for these places (like social workers) seem to be soo lazy compared to people who work for say a shop or whatever, a business that relies on profit.

Because local councils etc are just handed money. so the staff don't have to work to keep their jobs.

They just seem so complacent.

Gawd im mortified you thought i meant that!!



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 13:30 PM   13
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I saw that dispatches as well and was horrifed, the only thing I could take away from it was that not all social service departments are like that and I'm so pleased to work for a council that isn't like that! Well not from the little I've seen anyway!



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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 14:10 PM   14
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I saw that dispatches as well and was horrifed, the only thing I could take away from it was that not all social service departments are like that and I'm so pleased to work for a council that isn't like that! Well not from the little I've seen anyway!
yeah, of course not all are like that, it was just awful to see the ones that were. like that woman who preffered to sit at her desk than go and see children.

and that woman who had just started and was talking to the reporter about how most of them seemed to prefer paperwork or anything to actually doing visits, just awful



 
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Old Jun 21st, 2010, 15:00 PM   15
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its so interesting to hear peoples experiences of foster care/adoption

All local council/government funded companies seem to be a joke, the way your family were treated doesnt really suprise me, its exactly the same in England.
There was a show on TV lately, dispatches that went undercover to look at social workers and it was pretty horrific, a couple wanted to do a good job, but most were just lazy and did'nt want to work at all.

if they had to function like a proper business relying on profit i bet we'd see a massive difference in the state of the local council/nhs/social workers etc, they might actually be made to get on with some work!
I couldn't agree more, and its such a shame when there are people out there with the hearts and homes for fostering, yet everything falls flat on its face.



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 07:58 AM   16
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haha no! you misinterpretted completely what i said. christ no i didnt mean that.

I meant after watching dispatches and things about the NHS the people who work for these places (like social workers) seem to be soo lazy compared to people who work for say a shop or whatever, a business that relies on profit.

Because local councils etc are just handed money. so the staff don't have to work to keep their jobs.

They just seem so complacent.

Gawd im mortified you thought i meant that!!
sorry hun i got it completely wrong.. having a thick day i think

thats just awful.. why go into that job if you dont wanna help people
i mean i know its prob stressful but still thats just horrid..



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 10:51 AM   17
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id love to foster to one day not sure oh would agree though! x



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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 14:33 PM   18
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I saw that dispatches as well and was horrifed, the only thing I could take away from it was that not all social service departments are like that and I'm so pleased to work for a council that isn't like that! Well not from the little I've seen anyway!
yeah, of course not all are like that, it was just awful to see the ones that were. like that woman who preffered to sit at her desk than go and see children.

and that woman who had just started and was talking to the reporter about how most of them seemed to prefer paperwork or anything to actually doing visits, just awful
I think I'll go and watch this now, sounds quite upsetting really. I'm in two minds about private healthcare/fostering etc. I think the problem would just be solved so easily if we worked for the things we take for granted and appreciated how brilliant they are. So what if you wait in A&E for 6 hours, its free! Even if time was money it'd cost you more than that!



 
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Old Jul 11th, 2010, 17:56 PM   19
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Hi all-
I may be interested in fostering. DH & I are 34 & 36, and have not been able to conceive our own child yet. DH wants to wait until we are at least 40 to think about adoption, as we have only been trying 1.5 years.
I had wanted to possibly adopt in the meantime, but knew nothing about it and reading some posts in another thread by fluffosaur I realize I am not yet anywhere close to being able to stop ttc-for a while at least-or give up hope of my own child, which it never did cross my mind was so important to be an adoptive parent. I always thought I guess adopting was kinda supplemental-I guess you see the media-Angelina adpoting and giving birth at same time.
Anyway-is fostering the same? Should I not foster if I am still dreaming of my own baby? Or is a wonderful kind caring thing to do in the meantime? DH and I are done with "ourself" time-we really feel the need to do something helpful with out time.
Thanks!



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2010, 16:50 PM   20
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hi ya i am a foster carer and have been for almost 2.1/2 years i have 2 children placed with me age 4 and 8 . siblings . i would say my oppinions of fostering are . its a fantastic job , very rewarding , but its the hardest job inthe world , its so emotionaly draining . i started of as a resbite foster carer , then got the girls short term . 2 years on still with me . and soon to be decided if they are to stay with me long term untill adults , the job is so draining tho . as although we know 99% that they will remain with us , it all lies with a judge and we have herd of decisions of the judge to completly throw a spanner in the works and call for the children to be put up for adoption with family waiting . or reunite with bio mum . and in this case we believe reuniting is not the right decision . its so hard to not fall in love with children who live with you and you have got to be super strong incase they are taken away after years of being with u , my own children love there foster sisters very much and they all get on like a house on fire , but we have had placements that have clashed with our own kids and made things very hard , i am lucky to have 4 fantastic children , but i believe, with out blowing my own trumpet that that is down to me , because believe me they dont come shiny , smiling , and full of thankyou s and can i please . ha ha oh no ! most come upset , fret full, with attathment issues , and could buy and sell u in a day . so all i would say is , if you got the time , patience , and are super strong emotionaly go for it . if not and u think u would struggle with any thing i just said then have a big think first . xxx hope this heelps a little x



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