Originally Posted by vaniilla

I think you're doing an amazing thing by adopting them can't wait to see pictures of you with the two little ones , I'm a bit worried for you about your old friend and his girlfriend getting involved or causing problems,

Originally Posted by xMissxZoiex

Hey everyone

We are in the begining stages of adopting two children! one is almost 1 and the other is due to be born on 11th August I wanted to share what is going on with us, and get advice along the way.

Heres our story so far.

We have lots of support from my family my parents think it is brilliant what we are doing for these children, they are proud of us. My Dfs family arent as supportive as they think we should just have our own children and let them be someone elses 'problem' (Which is horrible, they are not a 'problem' they are two beautiful little babies that need our help)

An old friend of mine and his girlfriend had a baby girl last year who was taken away from them by social services when she was very young, i obviously dont want to go into any details of that because it was not a nice situation. The baby Girl has been in foster car since and is a year old on the 27th.

Now my friends girlfriend is pregnant again with a little boy who is due on the 11th august. Who will be taken by social services at birth.

My friends mother was going to adopt them but was in the very first stages of adopting them. When i spoke to her she said she would be more than happy for me and my DF to adopt them! It would be the best outcome. She wants to be a grandmother, not a mother and raise children as hers are all grown up.

So we have spoken to the social worked involved who has started proceedings! He wants things put in place as soon as possible so i am woundering will we foster them first then adopt them as foster is quicker? Or will they do a fast track adoption type thing?

I want to make this my kind of adoption journal as i have alot of things i have questions about, not only the acctual process of adoption but other things like what to tell them when they are older?.

I wanted to Add a ticker here for each of the children. I cant wait to have them with us


Thank you if you took the time to read this
Zoie

Originally Posted by Mal

oh that is awesome congrats. are you still going to ttc?

these babies are very lucky

Originally Posted by New2Bumps

Surnames are changed yes. The parents will name the baby but you could change it by deed poll (which is quite common practise) If you know the couple (well the dad) and they are happy for you to adopt and don't want the babies then could you ask them if they'd like you to suggest a name? Only you know if this is an option or not!

fI teach in a very disadvantaged area and quite often children get taken into foster care. It's always overwhelming to see just what a difference it makes to these children. They must miss their parents, obviously, but you wouldn't know it. They're so much more overcome with relief, happiness and just joy at the small things in life that they get to enjoy - having a bath or shower, going out for pizza, going swimming, enjoying a book with their carer, having their hair styled etc. It is a total weight off their shoulders and a fresh start. Of course, your foster babies won't know this for themselves, but this is what you've saved them from. I can't imagine what situation the one year old must have been in to be up for adoption as well as the unborn baby having known what it's like for some of our kids who only get to be fostered for 6m and have a taste of the good life, but it is just so lovely. You are thinking of the school they will be in, the area, a new house... just as loving parents do. What a fantastic new life you are offering them. I'll be following this have answered your thread in toddler club too! Can't wait for your happy day!