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Old Mar 2nd, 2012, 09:47 AM   11
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Wow good luck for panel hope it all goes well for you. I bet your so nervous I'm already nervous and I have ages to wait please let me know how you get on Monday xx



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Old Mar 2nd, 2012, 14:03 PM   12
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Good luck Curly!!!!



 
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Old Mar 2nd, 2012, 14:11 PM   13
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Hi lolly what dates your interview? We had sw out last night again all went well every visit seems like a step closer.



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Old Mar 4th, 2012, 05:21 AM   14
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Thats great must be getting excited now how many visits do you have for home study? We were told 8 but i guess that is flexible. Our initial interview is on tuesday, cant wait to get going



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2012, 11:23 AM   15
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We where told about 12 think we have had about 10 so far, husband has 2 sons so a different social worker comes out to see them twice a week as well as they live with us. I think the visits depend on how long they come out for each session ours are an hour and a half approx each visit but another couple from our prep course gets 3 hour sessions but not as often so all depends. Good luck for Tuesday and even though they don't say it that's where your report starts. We have another session in the morning and we don't know any more till after tomorrow. Let me know how Tuesday goes and try to relax x



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Old Mar 5th, 2012, 12:35 PM   16
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Well sw was out this morning and we just had a general chat and answered a few questions. We are finished form f and he doesn't need to see us no more now till he Has spoken to all the references and typed up report. Will be back out for 2-3 visits to fill in any blanks then he will finish report ready for panel



 
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Old Mar 5th, 2012, 16:21 PM   17
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Great news You are so nearly there now So glad it went well, lets hope he gets typing asap!! xxx



 
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Old Mar 5th, 2012, 16:32 PM   18
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Good luck for tomorrow lolly1985, first day of a new journey x



 
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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 14:15 PM   19
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Hello!

Just a quick update on today. I think it went well, but after a 101 questions my brain is a bit frazzled! She was a bit concerned though about the last failed cycle being quite recent (6 months) She said that we were young and she was a bit concerned about whether we had grieved not having a birth child. We assured her that we had talked about this long and hard and knew it was a path that we would follow. It's so hard as she can only take our word for it and can't see in our heads and hearts. I think her fear is we will trn around and say we changed our mind and want more treatment. I was very ill for one of my cycles and can't physically put myself through it again, and we don't have the money so I hope she was assured that it is just not an option.

She has to talk with her manager and will get back to us regarding next steps. I really hope they don't make us wait as I think that would be very detrimental and rather than helping us would be emotionally a hard blow to take.

But she said everything else was good, and if they do make us wait its not a no, its a yes but in a couple of months. Does that make sense?

Will let you know!! Hope you are well, take care, love Lolly xxxx



 
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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 14:55 PM   20
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That's sound like it went good for you's, I had a few thing with my social worker like that at first and he kept bringing up in initial interview about me never being pregnant and not experiencing those feeling was I ok and was adoption definitely our last option. I think as long as you reassured her it should be ok fingers crossed for you. We just been doing some homework that our sw emailed us today and the agency has been in contact with husbands employers today as well, now we have nothing booked in and won't be seeing sw for about 3 weeks so won't know what to do with ourselves. Keep me informed and it's really nice to have someone to talk to wish I came on here earlier lol



 
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