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Old Mar 6th, 2012, 15:30 PM   21
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Yeah it is good having someone to talk to!! It sounds like they have to double and triple check. She did say about going on to the pill to show 100% commitment. Feels totally crazy seen as medically there is no way I can get pregnant unless my body does a full 360 turn, and my uterus magically changes shape to accommodat a baby But whatever it takes.

It will be so strange for you having to wait now. Hope time goes quick but from experience I know waiting usually makes things drag a bit. Hope you can keep yourselves busy getting everything as ready as you can for LO's arrival in hopefully the not too distant future. Do you mind me asking what ages, how many children you have said you will accommodate. We said 1 or 2 and preferably under 2 but also acknowledged that may be unrealistic and are open to discuss. She actually asked if we had a gender choice which surprised me. DP said a boy straight away but I felt a bit wierd about having a preference as it felt like 'designer baby/child shopping' I just want to be a mum

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Old Mar 7th, 2012, 01:55 AM   22
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Because my husbands sons live with us full time and have for 8 years now we only have 1 room and I feel like I already have 2 sons myself as I have brought them up. So we have asked for 1 little girl under 2. Our social worker doesn't think this will be a problem. He has told us there's more and more children going into the care system and less people adopting so he's not expecting the process to take too long, but time will tell. Think we have gone pretty quick so far compared to other peoples stories. I think going on the pill is a good way to reassure them or you could get your doctor to write something saying that there's no chance you could fall pregnant naturally. We going to paint up stairs and landing to keep us busy.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2012, 03:33 AM   23
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Well we might not be getting visits, but we are getting emails with homework in so still feel like we involved and moving in tiny steps towards the end. We have done the homework straight away and emailed it back. Wonder if we get anymore.



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2012, 16:43 PM   24
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Hiya

Sorry been MIA!! Been away and only got back last night! Still no news on the adoption front, but only been a week I suppose! But in other news we got enged while we were away. DP (now DF ) sorted a romantic night away to Dublin, drinks, meal and sparkly diamond ring

Little girl sounds perfect for your family. Makes sense given your circumstances now and I can see in this instance why you would give a preference. Hope they are not working you too hard!! Nice to be kept busy, makes time go that little bit quicker amongst all the waiting!

Hope you all well, Love Lolly xxxx



 
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Old Mar 13th, 2012, 17:30 PM   25
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Congratulations I bet your so happy and your df sounds so romantic
Been on phone to sw today just to sort a few things out stepson is nearly 16 so he has to have a police check done and a few other things that needed clearing up and crb forms to fill in when they come. Sw keeps in contact which is good but he still hasn't contacted references as he's too busy he said today that he will do it end of this week or next week hope you hear something soon but don't worry as you said its only been a week



 
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Old Mar 16th, 2012, 13:53 PM   26
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So today has been a productive day stressful at times though. Crb forms arrived for stepson so they are filled in. Had a bit of a panic about his id having to get 5 pieces from section two as his passport is out of date and we don't have his original birth certificate. Got 3 out of 5 so far and will have the rest next week hopefully. Then had phone calls from all references saying that social worker has made appointments with them 1 on Monday and two of them on Tuesday then they are all done. So nervously waiting for them to be over he's going to see mother in law who I don't always get on with so a bit nervous.



 
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Old Mar 16th, 2012, 15:07 PM   27
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Sounds busy your end! It is always a nightmare with CRBs, you will know from your job, getting all the bits together. When I did that in the summer for my promotion they ended up losing my birth certificate Hope you get all sorted for stepson asap

All sounds good with the referees! Sure MIL will be fine, at the end of the day i'm sure she wants the best for her family. So even if you don't always get on, whatever she says will also affect her son and grandsons. Good luck!

Still no news. Busy with uni so that is taking up my time and even though I am majorly stressed it is good in the sense of distraction! Had a lovely suprise at work today and got a card, flowers, champers, choccies and lunch out for engagement

Love Lolly x x x x x x



 
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Old Mar 16th, 2012, 16:21 PM   28
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Hope you hear back soon, you sound busy with uni. The surprise sounds lovely and pleased you are getting spoilt. It's strange at the moment cause there's stuff happening but we aren't having much contact with sw so feel a bit at a standstill. Xx



 
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Old Mar 17th, 2012, 13:41 PM   29
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It's all going on behind the scenes, sure they are busy getting everything in place and ready for you to go to panel asap! Hang in there

Hope you are having a nice weekend xxx



 
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Old Mar 19th, 2012, 04:52 AM   30
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Yes we had a nice weekend it was my nephews baptism yesterday so that was a nice family day used to find stuff like that hard but doesn't bother me now so I can just relax and enjoy the day. Another one of our references are being visited on Wednesday morning so that's four so far this week being interviewed. Exiting



 
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