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Old Mar 20th, 2012, 15:25 PM   31
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Step sons social worker been out tonight all went well. She's back on thursday then not again till end of April so it's fresh for panel. Two references been visited so far they seem to have gone well another two getting visited tomorrow. Been talking to our social worker today and he said hopefully we will have a child placed with us early summer feeling quite excited. Hopefully nothing goes wrong x



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 16:53 PM   32
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Well social worker visited mother in law today should have been yesterday but there was a mix up. Anyway it all went good and he visited my friend today which went good as well. He also called in to see me today as he was in the area to tell me how well everythings going and he said he has a little girl in mind for us and he can't see any problems at all. Next reference is getting visited on Monday and there's another one still to organise. The crb for step son is peeing me off though got 4 out of 5 of the id needed having to chase headmistress up for last one don't think she's ever at work.



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2012, 16:24 PM   33
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Children's sw been out tonight that's her finished now, next time she come she will have the report written up for boys to read then she finished with us. Other reference is booked in for next Friday then they are all finished. Bought a lovely book today called my family, my journey it's a baby book for adopted children love it. Also got a bookcase for the nursery shouldnt have yet but who cares I'm excited.



 
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Old Mar 23rd, 2012, 12:15 PM   34
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Wow this is all so positive and exciting Can't believe they already have a little girl in mind, talk about dangling the ultimate carrot!! So glad all is looking so promising, you must be beside youself Nothing will go wrong!!!

Sorry not been around much, have had crazy uni deadlines. Have been working all day and then assignments at night. Have sometimes been up early and doing bit before 8am, and during my lunch break Its so overwhelming but am finally starting to see the light, under 9 weeks to go now It has been taking my mind off the lack of contact after our initial interview I know its only 2 1/2 weeks but I would love to know if they have even considered us yet or just put the notes in a pile somewhere for another day I keep thinking I will ring, then change my mind as I don't want them to think I have unrealistic expectations about how long things may take I will be so upset if they say its a no until we have had more time after last fail. What do you think?

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Old Mar 23rd, 2012, 13:10 PM   35
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Just phone them shows your interested and thinking about it. I phoned mine every two minutes lol. Pleased your nearly finished with your uni your lucky to have something to take your mind off things. I got the crb sorted the letter has been posted to me and I should get it tomorrow yeah. Agency been on the phone today asking me if I can try and have it to them by Monday. Ring them Monday morning or when you can it won't hurt anything and if you have to wait at least it's not a no! Love laura



 
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Old Mar 26th, 2012, 02:09 AM   36
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If you phone them today lolly I hope you get some answers to your questions and good news x



 
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Old Mar 26th, 2012, 14:00 PM   37
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Well crb has been accepted after driving about like a crazy lady today lol. Another reference done as well seems to have gone well, last one on Friday



 
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Hello!!

Great about the CRB, you are ticking things off and getting closer all the time. Good stuff!!

So had an up and down day. Or should I say down then up. So I rang them. I said who I was and that we had had our initial interview three weeks ago and were wondering if the case had been discussed yet, or whether we could be given some rough time frames about next steps. The woman actually scoffed, I mean she did a little chuckle to herself, which clearly said without the need for any more '3 weeks, you're having a laugh, will be a damn slight longer than that before you know whats happening' She said she would look into it and ring me back. I waited in for 6 hours but no call Not good at all

All this got me thinking about the VA we had approached last year immediately after cycle 3 failed. I dug out our info pack and looked online and thought I would give them a ring, explain everything and see what they said.

The lady was lovely and said that they didn't have a time scale like that as all were judged as individuals and they didn't exclude anyone for not meeting a set bunch of criteria. She was positive about our circumstances and seemed impressed that I already work with children. She made me feel like they would be lucky to have us as opposed to the other way around and said that they were crying out for people as all the loopholes instilled means that there are simply not enough adopters at the moment. So we are meeting with them Saturday as they are coincidently running an open day and will take it from there.

She said that they run prep groups every 3 months, but if we have just missed one we will start the home study in the meantime so that we are not just sitting around waiting. I know its only a call but it felt more right if you can understand that. So off we go on Saturday, and if the LA do get back to me, then we are able to realistically weigh up what is best for us. Feeling a lot better



 
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Old Mar 27th, 2012, 02:04 AM   39
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Sounds a bit like us phoned la first they where awful, got local va recommended to us phoned them and have never looked back since first phone call they are fantastic. So happy for you and from everything I have heard va seem to be much faster than la. which agency have you contacted? Private message if you want to x



 
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Hi Loski

Thank you for the message. It is very interesting to hear that you have been in the same boat also. I did hear back from LA today, and to be fair it must have been the first thing she did as she rang at 8.32! But no news really. SW has started the report but has been on holiday (back Thurday) She couldn't tell me any more, ie, time frames, content etc and said I would hear back soon. But how soon is soon? I know that the SW we met with said she would have to feed back to her manager but this is unclear as to whether that part happens before or after the report. I guess I am open to all avenues now but still very keen to gon Saturady and excited about the prospect of a VA.

I will PM you the name of the agency.

Hope all is good with you and the week is flying by xxxx



 
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