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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 12:59 PM   51
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Ended up not going to Alton towers it was closed due to the weather, our tent blew away lol. Pleased the va is doing good for you I think ours are brilliant. I cannot wait to get our par will be strange reading someone else's opinion of us. Pleased to hear its running smoothly for you so far x



 
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Old Apr 7th, 2012, 06:08 AM   52
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Oh that's a shame, hope you hadn't told them. Otherwise you may be making a trip there soon to avoid too much disappointment!

It will be strange reading the PAR, will be like a 'this is your life' book! Sure it will reflect you and your family well. Exciting times for you, you must be very anxious tp get things wrapped up now you are nearing the end.

Thank you, so far VA seem lovely. it has been over a month since we met with LA and I'm starting to think that they are stalling us as if we sailed through this initial stage they would then suddenly be adhering to the 8 month time frame and this is not possible for them at the moment. Its nice having that tick along in the background, but not be solely relying on it. Things are moving so quickly with VA that we will have finished prep by the time anyone from the county council get back to us

Hope you are enjoying the easter weekend, Lolly xxxxx



 
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We going back in 6 week holidays as the boys where rather disappointed. Looking forward to getting to next stage as feeling a bit in limbo at the moment. Have you got a date for prep group with va yet? Loving your ticker as well



 
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Oh no, they knew. That's gutting, glad you have planned to go back. Is that when its half term week?

Thank you, had some ticker trouble at first, ie, had no clue how to do it Google helped! No prep dates yet as we haven't met them other than open day and we hadn't given them our details yet. Hoping we will know a lot more after friday, fingers crossed! xxx



 
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Old Apr 11th, 2012, 14:05 PM   55
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Bet your starting to feel nervous now for Friday hope it goes well for you and df. We have been speaking to our sw today and he doesn't need any more information off us and he is coming to go over our report on the 24th April. He told us today that he has given our details over to other authorities regarding children in the system. Feeling really anxious at the moment about everything and sick of waiting lol x



 
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Old Apr 12th, 2012, 16:24 PM   56
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Thank you! Suprisingly I feel ok... Sure the nerves will kick in once I finish work at lunck time tomorrow!

Oh I'm sure you have nothing to worry about. It must be surreal that you are nearly there, but I am so excited for you. Roll on 24th!! xxxxx



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2012, 12:51 PM   57
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Hi lolly hope today has been ok for you and that you get a bit further along with va. let me know how it's gone been thinking about you all day x



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2012, 15:41 PM   58
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Thank you for thinking of me

SW was amazing! So lovely and positive and keen. The only sticking point was a bit of debt we took from previous relationships after selling houses each as the credit crunch was hitting. She said if it wasn't for that she would have booked us on the June prep course there and then. But we all talked and she will refer back to her manager and ring back next week, and in the meantime we were going to approach my parents to see if they would pay off the loan so we would be debt free (although paying them back a set amount each month, it is just not legally binding). SW said that it would be questioned at panel, what if we lost a job, what if we had a sibling group placed, what if mortgage went up, what if I needed to take additional maternity leave etc etc etc. Its best not there if we can help it. She was lovely to be so open, and very pleased we proactively want it sorted. I am so lucky to have amazing parents who are in a position to help, they have said yes and we have spoken to the banks to get them settled asap.

I'm not sure if this will hold things up until we have confirmation in writing they have been cleared, or whether we can progress in the meantime. I guess they are just relying on our word though, so may need evidence first But she said she was happy we were a younger couple, in her eyes a great thing, thought we were good together, good house safe and secure and ready to fill with a family, good pay and jobs, all was so good other than debt. Honestly thought it would not be a problem as we have savings and surpluss monmey each month, but she said it was looking outside the box, and as I said before, the what if scenarios. Hoping all will be fine once we explain to her next week.

But me and DF happy with agency, SW and the ethos of VA, so all in all it has been a positive day xxxxxx



 
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Old Apr 13th, 2012, 17:31 PM   59
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Sounds like its gone brilliant, we have loans that end in dec this year and nothing was said about them pleased about that. Pleased your parents are going to help them out that will also show sw how supportive they are of you's adopting. When's the next prep course after June or are you going to phone her and tell her you have got debt sorted and see if you can go on June course?



 
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Yeah she said that if they were ending sooner it wouldn't be a problem, but I don't want to wait 3 years! Nexts steps wise she is ringing next week and we will confirm our plan with her. The next prep after June is July, not sure after that. It may be that we have to wait for prep but start some other checks like CRB, medical etc (assuming they are happy with what we tell them) If they need written confirmation I guess we wait and ring when they are cleared and post them the paperwork and then crack on. Hoping this will not delay things too much, but feeling positive that this is a good move all round. So thankful for family.

Have you got any plans for the weekend? I'm meeting a friend for lunch and then think I need to crack on with the dissertation, boo!

Love Lolly xxxxx



 
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