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Old Feb 21st, 2012, 02:11 AM   1
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Hi all we started our adoption process in April last year all is going well so far. We have done medicals all ok, police checks all ok, and on to part 3 of form f. We have SMS out 4 days this week so it's all go. Just wanting to share thoughts with other adopters x



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Old Feb 25th, 2012, 00:25 AM   2
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Hi all we started our adoption process in April last year all is going well so far. We have done medicals all ok, police checks all ok, and on to part 3 of form f. We have SMS out 4 days this week so it's all go. Just wanting to share thoughts with other adopters x
That's so exciting!! Good luck with the rest!



 
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Old Feb 29th, 2012, 11:24 AM   3
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Congratulations on your progress Loski It sounds so exciting. We are just stating out on our adoption journey. We have had our telephone interview and have been invited to an initial face to face interview with a social worker from the adoption team next week If all goes well we will start our 3 day prep course in April or May. Keep us posted

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Old Feb 29th, 2012, 12:13 PM   4
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Hope all goes well for you prep groups are good you get a lot more info. It's a bit daunting some of it on ours we got all the heavy stuff first then we met adopters and heard their stories it was really nice. We have finished our form f now and ss is has contacted references and some of them have already wrote reference and sent them back today. Still hoping to get to panel in may but got told on Monday it could be June now.



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I am prepared for the 'hard sell' as I got them when I initially enquired. I guess its to prepare you for every circumstance and make sure you are serious and going in to it with your eyes wide open. It was a bit scary for a few minutes and then I got real and had a little word with myself and it was all good again. In my job I work with so many children who have been adopted, and the happiness in their parents eyes makes me even more determined to make this work

Booo, for the delays. I guess we should be used to things taking longer than expected, but still knocks you down. May would be lovely, everything crossed for you!! How many references did you need? It seems to vary between authorities. We have been told we will need 5, one family member and the rest friends or colleagues. I thought they would need to meet all the family or at least have something in writing from all immediate family members. Guess not

You must be getting excited, does it feel real yet? You are going to be a mummy

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Old Feb 29th, 2012, 13:53 PM   6
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It's funny cause I work with children as well and come across adopted ones at times. They said we needed 3 refs first then they asked for 7. 4 are getting a form with quests on and the rest a interview. I am just thinking June in my head but to be honest as long as everything is going to an I don't mind. Excited now and can't wait to be called mammy x



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7, wow, thats a lot!! I think of our 4 friends only 2 get interviews and 2 get written pieces to complete.

Have you found it hard working with children but not being able to have them? I have struggled to be honest as I went into the role from college as I had a love for the early years, always thought I would be a young mum etc etc. Then went on and studied for my early years degree (finish in May), continued to work and so on. It has been hard to live, work, study children, yet suffer failed treatments and not being able to have my own. Sometimes uni is hard as they talk bonding and attachment, brain development in womb and first few months. Sometimes it tears me up



 
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Old Feb 29th, 2012, 14:40 PM   8
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Some days it's really hard but I have set up nursery and when Im feeling a bit low I just go in and it helps. I'm at the stage now where I know I will never carry my own child and really that is all we will miss out on we will still be mammy. I have just bought a wall transfer for the nursery it says "we made a wish, and you came true". It is so true to our situation just can't wait to be able to put it on wall. Have you gone with local authority or voluntary agency?



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That's lovely, made me go all watery eyed I agree, I feel the same, we will still be mummy in every sense of the word. I don't think I truely ever pictured myself physically pregnant to be honest. Even during all the treatments I couldn't begin to think it would work. I have heard a girl say that conception was her initial interview, the prep course, HS and panel was the pregnancy, and matching was the birth



 
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All in all, we needed five references. We were asked for three, it turned out to be five in the end. They change the goalposts at every turn, it seems. We've got our panel on Monday. I actually feel sick.

Good luck with everything xxx



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