Age of your adopted child

Loski83 · Mar 8th, 2012, 11:01 AM

I was just wondering with all the changes coming up in the adoption system what age child are you wanting or have got. Not many in adoption area but hopefully will get some responses.

Loski83 · Mar 8th, 2012, 11:02 AM

Forgot to say we are hoping for under 2 or as young as possible.

mbm25 · Mar 11th, 2012, 20:44 PM

Hi, I'm 21 now but my parents adopted me when I was 4. It took them 3 years, and I'm not sure how long it was till the adoption was legalised but, I moved home at 4 years old. They did orginally want to go through surrogacy as they're gay, but felt it was unfair and went through adoption. And well, here I am!

Loski83 · Mar 12th, 2012, 05:47 AM

That's lovely, think the process should be quicker now with all the changes but that might just be wishful thinking x

CurlySue · Apr 26th, 2012, 07:02 AM

My little girl is 16 months. Her brother (who is still up in the air at the moment and we're totally unsure if we're going to proceed with him) is three months.

Loski83 · Apr 27th, 2012, 05:20 AM

Hi curly sue I bet your little girl is adorable, that is the same age we hoping to get as well.

CurlySue · Apr 27th, 2012, 16:12 PM

Have you been linked, Loksi? It's so lovely to hear a foster carer talk about a discussion with her family in which she said "Oh, I've met her new mummy and daddy."

Loski83 · Apr 27th, 2012, 16:39 PM

No we haven't been approved yet we at panel 14th June, our sw loves us though and says he doesn't think we will be waiting very long once approved I hope he's right.

CurlySue · Apr 28th, 2012, 15:53 PM

Hopefully you will not be waiting too long. You'll start getting an inkling by the questions they're asking if they've got a child in mind for you. I know we did. Then again, our social worker is pretty blatant to be fair.

We're still kind of struggling with our little one's brother. The thought of a boy and girl is just wonderful and, as he's only three months old, that's even better - but we've been told it could be VERY quick and I don't think it's fair on her to disrupt her settling in and attachment by bringing in a younger, needier child.

I've seen him now though and it kills me to turn him down

Big decisions come June, I do believe.

Good luck and PM if you feel like chatting.

Loski83 · Apr 28th, 2012, 17:13 PM

Sw has already told us he has a few children in mind for us and has said he thinks it will go very quick. It might unsettle her now, however if you can deal with it just think when she's older how grateful they would be to be together must be hard for you though and I'm sure whatever decision you come to you will do what you think is the best for your daughter.

Mar 8th, 2012, 11:01 AM	#1
Loski83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 382	Age of your adopted child I was just wondering with all the changes coming up in the adoption system what age child are you wanting or have got. Not many in adoption area but hopefully will get some responses.

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Mar 8th, 2012, 11:02 AM	#2
Loski83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 382	Forgot to say we are hoping for under 2 or as young as possible.

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Mar 11th, 2012, 20:44 PM	#3
mbm25 Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Cambridge, England Posts: 9	Hi, I'm 21 now but my parents adopted me when I was 4. It took them 3 years, and I'm not sure how long it was till the adoption was legalised but, I moved home at 4 years old. They did orginally want to go through surrogacy as they're gay, but felt it was unfair and went through adoption. And well, here I am!

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Mar 12th, 2012, 05:47 AM	#4
Loski83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 382	That's lovely, think the process should be quicker now with all the changes but that might just be wishful thinking x

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Apr 26th, 2012, 07:02 AM	#5
CurlySue Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: UK Posts: 2,006	My little girl is 16 months. Her brother (who is still up in the air at the moment and we're totally unsure if we're going to proceed with him) is three months.

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Apr 27th, 2012, 05:20 AM	#6
Loski83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 382	Hi curly sue I bet your little girl is adorable, that is the same age we hoping to get as well.

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Apr 27th, 2012, 16:12 PM	#7
CurlySue Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: UK Posts: 2,006	Have you been linked, Loksi? It's so lovely to hear a foster carer talk about a discussion with her family in which she said "Oh, I've met her new mummy and daddy."

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Apr 27th, 2012, 16:39 PM	#8
Loski83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 382	No we haven't been approved yet we at panel 14th June, our sw loves us though and says he doesn't think we will be waiting very long once approved I hope he's right.

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Apr 28th, 2012, 15:53 PM	#9
CurlySue Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: UK Posts: 2,006	Hopefully you will not be waiting too long. You'll start getting an inkling by the questions they're asking if they've got a child in mind for you. I know we did. Then again, our social worker is pretty blatant to be fair. We're still kind of struggling with our little one's brother. The thought of a boy and girl is just wonderful and, as he's only three months old, that's even better - but we've been told it could be VERY quick and I don't think it's fair on her to disrupt her settling in and attachment by bringing in a younger, needier child. I've seen him now though and it kills me to turn him down Big decisions come June, I do believe. Good luck and PM if you feel like chatting.

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Apr 28th, 2012, 17:13 PM	#10
Loski83 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 382	Sw has already told us he has a few children in mind for us and has said he thinks it will go very quick. It might unsettle her now, however if you can deal with it just think when she's older how grateful they would be to be together must be hard for you though and I'm sure whatever decision you come to you will do what you think is the best for your daughter.

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