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Old Oct 14th, 2009, 16:35 PM   41
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Hi Tammy,

Yep, sounds similar. We were really nervous about looking online for a donor but it was our only option and it has worked out so well. We placed our own ad and had 8 responses. Six of them went straight into the bin as weirdo/not suitable but two were possibilities. We met with both of them at which point one just shone out and he has been fantastic. Hugely committed to us yet happy to stick to his word about remaining uninvolved in the parenting process. And he helped make once super cute baby too.

He showed us certificates from his sexual health screen and it was part of our agreement that he get retested every 3 months, which he did. Once we'd known him for a bit we developed sufficient trust in him to be really comfortable in this. This time I haven't even asked to see certificates. I probably should and maybe I will now you've made me think of it, but that trust is so secure now that it actually hadn't occurred to me until this conversation.

Good luck next month! Maybe we'll both get lucky and can have our rainbow number twos at the same time.

Enrisa, I'm 30. I was 28 when I got pregnant with our daughter. However, we tried with my partner for our first 12 cycles and she was 36-38 in that time. She got pregnant once, but unfortunately miscarried. I have several friends who have got pregnant this way in their late 30s though, so it can be done. 35 really isn't that old.

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Old Oct 15th, 2009, 15:35 PM   42
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Gina, thanks for your support. Period came today, so Im feeling low.
Glad to hear you have friends who got pregnant this way in their late thirties. Gives me hope.

Do you use softcups? And your friends?

Congratulations for finding a good donor online x

Tammy, are you going to search online?

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Old Oct 15th, 2009, 18:36 PM   43
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Aww... Enrisa, so sorry to hear that AF arrived! Such a nasty prank she pulled by being late! I hope next cycle will be your lucky one! And i def agree... 35 isn't old! I know of many moms who concieved later in life... and you will too!

As far as looking for a donor online... i am hoping and praying my next attempt is successful......... if it is not, yes, i will def start looking online!



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2009, 22:05 PM   44
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I am pregnant with donor sperm. My husband and I ttc for 14 months before getting him a semen analysis and discovering that he is infertile. In that time I was charting and temping- using fertility friend, and I highly recommend doing so. It is so worth it to know exactly when you ovulate for the timing of at home insemination.
so- the first two cycles we did at home insemination from frozen sperm from a sperm bank, it didn't work. The third cycle did yay!!!

I think because we got the timing right that time. I knew when I ovulated because I had been charting for many months- and I inseminated- I think 18, 24 and 48 hours after getting my first positive opk. I think it was important to do the three insems and I think either the 24 or 48 hours one worked. I think sometimes people inseminate too close to their + opk. Best of luck to you! Oh- and I am 36.
Also- I did use those cup things (are they called instead cups?) the cycle we got pregnant- I don't know if that helped or not! Maybe.



 
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Old Oct 19th, 2009, 23:15 PM   45
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Hello ladies
How is everyone? I am feeling a bit.. well.. dodgy! We are not ttc yet (next month) and its totally not related but I'm so tired, yet I can't seem to sleep. not good.



 
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Old Oct 21st, 2009, 07:44 AM   46
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Yayy GardenPath... Congrats on your ! That is such wonderful news!!!!! Gives me hope that this method can (and will!) work! Do you know what you're having yet? Any names picked out?? Our frozen sperm arrived yesterday... just waiting on the OPK smiley face!! We have two vials, so will be trying twice this cycle! Fingers crossed!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello Hr - I have been having trouble sleeping too!!!!! I actually left work a bit early yesterday just to take a nap!! This BnB site keeps me occupied late at night when i can't sleep!!



 
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Old Oct 21st, 2009, 07:50 AM   47
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Oooh, exciting times Tammy. How long will it 'keep' in the container? Frozen sperm at home feels like a totally alien concept to me, the thought of having it sitting there in the corner just waiting seems bizarre. It must fill you with anticipation and itchy fingers to get going. Roll on the smiley face!

Enrisa, I've never used softcups. I'm empted to get some for next cycle if this one doesn't work because it always feels as though quite a lot 'escapes' when we take the syringe out and I know others that swear by them. It makes sense that it might help. At the very least it can't hurt can it?

Hr, I'm having sleep issues too. I remember I used to have them when we were TTC last time, particularly during the 2ww. I guess we're all just a bit hyped up for this and it's keeping our brains active when they should be snoozing. I suppose it's good practice for when the little ones do come along...

Best wishes to all,

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Old Oct 21st, 2009, 14:53 PM   48
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Garden Path, thanks for your post. It gives me hope!! Im 35, and trying at home insem. with my boyfriends sperm. Im definitely going to try the instead cups. But, I did the timing right last cycle, and not preg... I was temping and opk, and it was very clear when I ov, however it didnt happen...

Your third cycle, when it worked, did you use fresh or frozen sperm?

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Old Oct 21st, 2009, 14:54 PM   49
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Tammy, good luck with this try



 
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Old Oct 21st, 2009, 17:17 PM   50
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enrisa we used frozen sperm each of the three cycles, including the one that worked. For the first cycle we used "washed " (iui type) sperm and the second and third unwashed.
I think what helped make it work is two things-
One, I think the instead cup helped. It felt awkward and messy and I wasn't even sure if things were dripping out, but at least it helped keep the sperm up there or something. also, I think the first two cycles we inseminated too early. I thin ki twas like- 6 and 18 hours after my +opk, becauseI was waiting so long and there was this frozen sperm tank in the basement that when I got my +opk I was like- let's do this! but by the third try- I was like- okay, we HAVE to wait! I had gotten advice (online) from others about this- to wait until at least 24 hours after the +opk or better 36 or 48 hours.

Tammy- the above advice was for you too. What timing are you planning to do for your inseminations?

Also- on another forum I am on I just got a message from a woman who just had a baby from donor sperm and she said he is perfect and beautiful and healthy! Yay. So that made me feel good.

Great luck to all of you!



 
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