how is it insulting for me to say that for ME twins wouldnt work? that is no judgement on you. perhaps i want to have a child and want to provide the best care and life for that child and feel that i cant do that if i have more than one. everyone makes individual choices. just as i wouldnt judge someone for having mutiples (i have 2 friends with triplets) why would you judge someone for not wanting to do the same?
Why would you say to a person with twins 'rather you than me, i'd abort one' (which is what you insinuated). How is that not insulting? I didn't think i could cope either, but since i was TTC all along, why would i abort a healthy foetus? it's like saying to someone who has a child born with disability 'oh, i couldn't cope with that, i'd have got rid'. No one PLANS multiples (except possibly octomum, but whatever), just like no one plans disability, so how could you possibly judge your friends who have triplets?? Thats like saying 'oh, i don't judge my friend because she has brown hair'.
I'm not judging you for not wanting twins (whatever works for you), i'm just wondering why you felt the need to comment on my situation - it's rude. I came here to support everyone here since i was a member of this thread for a long while; i didn't expect someone to scoff at my life or the fact that i was BLESSED with an extra child.
i dindt comment on your situation. i had no idea you were pregnant with twins (and actually didnt realize you were pregnant with twins til just now your ticker says baby not babies).. i was commenting on ticking clocks "omg twins id cry" which i had no idea had anything to do with you. and no i wouldnt say it to someone with a child with disabilities (just as i wasnt aware i was saying it to you) but.. i think there is nothing wrong with knowing you would terminate if you were pregnant with a child with disabilities
My son has a "hidden disability" and I love him to bits, he's funny, witty, loving and crazy just like me!
His friends don't believe him when he tells them about his condition as you just can't tell he has it.
Hell I'd be happy with 10 babies right now I just want to make it to a live birth
MECHANICA, congrats on the twins!! Can't wait to see the lovelies!
As for the multiples comment, well, I didn't and don't want twins, but GEMINI put it best. We are going through great lengths to concieve and I have had 2 MCs in less than a year. If I was pregnant and told I had two in there, I would jump for joy!!
part of my reasoning is also the risk factor. yes high multiples are far higher risk ,but twins are not a negligible risk. i read preterm us all day on twins (and singles too i admit). again, for ME, and ME ALONE. a singleton pregnancy would be my ideal. at this point i havent even achieved a bfp so it is all just talk. we never really know what we will do in any given situation until we are faced with it.
Hello everyone, ok so Im new to this whole forums and posting stuff, and although this has nothing to do with the previous conversation, I fear trying to navigate anywhere else or I might not find my way back to the Lesbians TTC with a donor link I found on this site ( thank u Mrsmm24, I think that's your screen name lol, I suck at this forum stuff lol). Anyways, anyone that wants to give me better instructions, please do so. If I am in the right place, great! Yes my wife and I are using a sperm donor, so does that mean I'm in the right place to talk?
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