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mechanica · Apr 1st, 2012, 16:31 PM

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Originally Posted by drsquid

how is it insulting for me to say that for ME twins wouldnt work? that is no judgement on you. perhaps i want to have a child and want to provide the best care and life for that child and feel that i cant do that if i have more than one. everyone makes individual choices. just as i wouldnt judge someone for having mutiples (i have 2 friends with triplets) why would you judge someone for not wanting to do the same?

Why would you say to a person with twins 'rather you than me, i'd abort one' (which is what you insinuated). How is that not insulting? I didn't think i could cope either, but since i was TTC all along, why would i abort a healthy foetus? it's like saying to someone who has a child born with disability 'oh, i couldn't cope with that, i'd have got rid'. No one PLANS multiples (except possibly octomum, but whatever), just like no one plans disability, so how could you possibly judge your friends who have triplets?? Thats like saying 'oh, i don't judge my friend because she has brown hair'.

I'm not judging you for not wanting twins (whatever works for you), i'm just wondering why you felt the need to comment on my situation - it's rude. I came here to support everyone here since i was a member of this thread for a long while; i didn't expect someone to scoff at my life or the fact that i was BLESSED with an extra child.

drsquid · Apr 1st, 2012, 20:47 PM

i dindt comment on your situation. i had no idea you were pregnant with twins (and actually didnt realize you were pregnant with twins til just now your ticker says baby not babies).. i was commenting on ticking clocks "omg twins id cry" which i had no idea had anything to do with you. and no i wouldnt say it to someone with a child with disabilities (just as i wasnt aware i was saying it to you) but.. i think there is nothing wrong with knowing you would terminate if you were pregnant with a child with disabilities

ticking.clock · Apr 2nd, 2012, 00:15 AM

My son has a "hidden disability" and I love him to bits, he's funny, witty, loving and crazy just like me!
His friends don't believe him when he tells them about his condition as you just can't tell he has it.
Hell I'd be happy with 10 babies right now I just want to make it to a live birth

MrsMM24 · Apr 2nd, 2012, 15:06 PM

MECHANICA, congrats on the twins!! Can't wait to see the lovelies!

As for the multiples comment, well, I didn't and don't want twins, but GEMINI put it best. We are going through great lengths to concieve and I have had 2 MCs in less than a year. If I was pregnant and told I had two in there, I would jump for joy!!

gemini87 · Apr 2nd, 2012, 16:33 PM

mrsmm - only just seen your post. i am so so sorry for you + family. hope you take your time to deal and recover from this. my thoughts are with you all
xx

drsquid · Apr 2nd, 2012, 16:55 PM

part of my reasoning is also the risk factor. yes high multiples are far higher risk ,but twins are not a negligible risk. i read preterm us all day on twins (and singles too i admit). again, for ME, and ME ALONE. a singleton pregnancy would be my ideal. at this point i havent even achieved a bfp so it is all just talk. we never really know what we will do in any given situation until we are faced with it.

Meishka · Apr 4th, 2012, 00:32 AM

Hello everyone, ok so Im new to this whole forums and posting stuff, and although this has nothing to do with the previous conversation, I fear trying to navigate anywhere else or I might not find my way back to the Lesbians TTC with a donor link I found on this site ( thank u Mrsmm24, I think that's your screen name lol, I suck at this forum stuff lol). Anyways, anyone that wants to give me better instructions, please do so. If I am in the right place, great! Yes my wife and I are using a sperm donor, so does that mean I'm in the right place to talk?

Thanks so much to anyone that can let me know!

ticking.clock · Apr 4th, 2012, 01:37 AM

Well it's not just lesbians who post/are trying to conceive using donor sperm, but yes you are in the right place

Welcome xxx

Meishka · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:30 AM

Oh ok I see

as long as I'm in the right place for anyone using donor sperm. Thanks!

ticking.clock · Apr 4th, 2012, 02:38 AM

That you are, and welcome to the donor TTC family,
All rants/happiness/tears are welcome here, and we support each other fully xxxx

Apr 1st, 2012, 20:47 PM	#5622
drsquid Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 3,577	i dindt comment on your situation. i had no idea you were pregnant with twins (and actually didnt realize you were pregnant with twins til just now your ticker says baby not babies).. i was commenting on ticking clocks "omg twins id cry" which i had no idea had anything to do with you. and no i wouldnt say it to someone with a child with disabilities (just as i wasnt aware i was saying it to you) but.. i think there is nothing wrong with knowing you would terminate if you were pregnant with a child with disabilities

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 00:15 AM	#5623
ticking.clock Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: North East, UK Posts: 2,526	My son has a "hidden disability" and I love him to bits, he's funny, witty, loving and crazy just like me! His friends don't believe him when he tells them about his condition as you just can't tell he has it. Hell I'd be happy with 10 babies right now I just want to make it to a live birth

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 15:06 PM	#5624
MrsMM24 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Maryland/D.C. Posts: 3,894	MECHANICA, congrats on the twins!! Can't wait to see the lovelies! As for the multiples comment, well, I didn't and don't want twins, but GEMINI put it best. We are going through great lengths to concieve and I have had 2 MCs in less than a year. If I was pregnant and told I had two in there, I would jump for joy!!

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 16:33 PM	#5625
gemini87 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: uk Posts: 99	mrsmm - only just seen your post. i am so so sorry for you + family. hope you take your time to deal and recover from this. my thoughts are with you all xx

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Apr 2nd, 2012, 16:55 PM	#5626
drsquid Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 3,577	part of my reasoning is also the risk factor. yes high multiples are far higher risk ,but twins are not a negligible risk. i read preterm us all day on twins (and singles too i admit). again, for ME, and ME ALONE. a singleton pregnancy would be my ideal. at this point i havent even achieved a bfp so it is all just talk. we never really know what we will do in any given situation until we are faced with it.

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Apr 4th, 2012, 00:32 AM	#5627
Meishka Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Arizona, border near Mexico Posts: 69	I'm new here, can I join? Hello everyone, ok so Im new to this whole forums and posting stuff, and although this has nothing to do with the previous conversation, I fear trying to navigate anywhere else or I might not find my way back to the Lesbians TTC with a donor link I found on this site ( thank u Mrsmm24, I think that's your screen name lol, I suck at this forum stuff lol). Anyways, anyone that wants to give me better instructions, please do so. If I am in the right place, great! Yes my wife and I are using a sperm donor, so does that mean I'm in the right place to talk? Thanks so much to anyone that can let me know!

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Apr 4th, 2012, 01:37 AM	#5628
ticking.clock Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: North East, UK Posts: 2,526	Well it's not just lesbians who post/are trying to conceive using donor sperm, but yes you are in the right place Welcome xxx

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Apr 4th, 2012, 02:30 AM	#5629
Meishka Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Arizona, border near Mexico Posts: 69	Oh ok I see as long as I'm in the right place for anyone using donor sperm. Thanks!

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Apr 4th, 2012, 02:38 AM	#5630
ticking.clock Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: North East, UK Posts: 2,526	That you are, and welcome to the donor TTC family, All rants/happiness/tears are welcome here, and we support each other fully xxxx

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