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Old Nov 5th, 2009, 00:02 AM   81
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I think the ones we have used are 5ml too. Not sure though... OH does the inseminating... my job is to keep the soup in the bowl! However, i didn't make a baby this time!! The evil got me!!! I tested on Tuesday morning and it was a and then arrived today!!!!!!

I am really not keen about the idea of finding a donor online but i guess that is my only alternative. I can not afford to get more frozen sperm... if i had gotten pregnant it would have been well worth the $3000 we have spend so far, but i am pissed at the thought of spending all that money and still no baby! I hate to look at it that way... but money is tight for us... and i can't help but thinking i could have used that money to take my son to Disney World which would have been a once in a lifetime opportunity!

Sorry i'm rambling... i just feel so gutted.

Good luck girls... i'm hoping to hear some better news from one of you!

PS. I had the same fear of poking my cervix with the syringe!! LOL



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2009, 02:43 AM   82
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I think the ones we have used are 5ml too. Not sure though... OH does the inseminating... my job is to keep the soup in the bowl! However, i didn't make a baby this time!! The evil got me!!! I tested on Tuesday morning and it was a and then arrived today!!!!!!

I am really not keen about the idea of finding a donor online but i guess that is my only alternative. I can not afford to get more frozen sperm... if i had gotten pregnant it would have been well worth the $3000 we have spend so far, but i am pissed at the thought of spending all that money and still no baby! I hate to look at it that way... but money is tight for us... and i can't help but thinking i could have used that money to take my son to Disney World which would have been a once in a lifetime opportunity!

Sorry i'm rambling... i just feel so gutted.

Good luck girls... i'm hoping to hear some better news from one of you!

PS. I had the same fear of poking my cervix with the syringe!! LOL

Oh honey, I am so sorry the witch got you again

I would definitly be looking for an online donor. As to the money spent, I know what you mean, it is alot of money to gamble with and when you do and you don't win, it hurts and it is frustrating.

Babe, I sure I hope you find a nice donor and you get your BFP soon



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2009, 05:15 AM   83
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Tammy, I'm really sorry to hear about your BFN, and then AF. It's not fun, especially as you're now going to have to go through the process of walking a different TTC path. As someone who found their donor online I can appreciate how unappealing it is initially, but it couldn't have worked out better for us in the end. It will feel good again once you've found the right man, the excitement will come back and you'll be raring to go. I promise.

BFN here yesterday. Still no AF, I'm due today or tomorrow but I'm not hopeful.

Best wishes all round,

Gina. x



 
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Old Nov 5th, 2009, 19:13 PM   84
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I've just got a message off my donor, and I'm really miffed. We live quite a distance away and for the last 2 cycled he has travelled down, once by train and once driving. We have then ttc every other day. This means essentially he travels Monday, we ttc, he stays in a B&B Monday night. We meet on the tuesday in a friendly capasity, he stays at the B&B Tuesday night. Then on the Wednesday we ttc and he travels back home.

Now obviously this has cost implications to him, but they are comparible to what he would spend when he comes down to visit the child and that is planned to be on a fortnightly basis, plus he has intentions of making a financial payment to me on a monthly basis.

So his current costs are aprox 150 based on what he has told me. If we were to conceive once the baby is born this would technically increase to aprox 425 based on 2x visits per month staying 2 nights in a B&B, plus the 125 child support we have discussed. All of the visiting, finances have been discussed quite extensively, with most of the ideas coming from him.

So why have I now got an e-mail that basically states, because of high costs next cycle he will only come down for one day to ttc and will travel back the same day. He has also said that from January we should alternate him coming up to Manchester, then the next month me going down to Oxford. Surely it's ok for me to feel disapointed by this. I don't want to drag Eden down to Oxford even every other month. I'm also in a wheelchair (sorry I haven't mentioned this earlier) so traveling though perfectly possible is somewhat more of a strain for myself with great complications arising from switching trains in an area of the country I am unfamiliar with. The journey is almost 4 hours, and this simply isn't practicle with a 2 year old. I visit my family in Wales every few months and the train journey is a little over 2 hours, this is complicated enough doing 2 hours on top of that seems like a nightmare.

I am so surprised this e-mail has come from nowhere, and shows a sudden lack of comittment from his side that I just wasn't expecting. If he had have mentioned these concerns or made a similar request before we started ttc I am pretty sure I wouldn't have gone forward with him.

Oh what a bother, it sheds a dark light that I am not happy with, and I don't even know if this cycle has worked yet! Hmmmmm.



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Thanks once again for all your encouragement and support girls... it means so much!

Gina - Keeping my fingers crossed that you get your ! You're not out until arrives! Think positively!

I posted an ad on a website looking for a sperm donor... and i got three responses: 1. was very brief with no info on the guy 2. was from an african american man (which would be fine except me, my son, and my OH are all white and i would prefer the baby to be white also) and 3. was from a pervert who wrote perverted things! And then i got an email from the website saying my posting was flagged for deletion due to inappropriate content!!!!! Grrrrr! Granted it wasn't a site for "sperm donors" but it was a personals site!

Edensmummy - Sorry to hear about the complications you are having with your donor! That must be so frustrating! Hopefully you are already preggo and wont have to worry about transportation issues in the months ahead! Lots of for you!



 
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I just found out my brother and his GF are expecting baby #1!!!!!!! They are due July 1st, which is around the time i would have been due if i had caught my little firefly this last cycle! It would have been so wonderful to have babies at the same time! Sigh. But it just wasn't meant to be..........! I am so happy for him, though! He is 35 and i know he has wanted this for a very long time!



 
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I just found out my brother and his GF are expecting baby #1!!!!!!! They are due July 1st, which is around the time i would have been due if i had caught my little firefly this last cycle! It would have been so wonderful to have babies at the same time! Sigh. But it just wasn't meant to be..........! I am so happy for him, though! He is 35 and i know he has wanted this for a very long time!

I know it is hard when other concieve and your trying so hard yourself. However that is just wonderful news, your going to be an Aunt wishing his wife a happy and healthy 9mths



 
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Hi Tammy,

Jayden will have a little cousin as well. That will be really nice for him My cousin is more like a brother we spent so much time together as children. Goodluck to your brother and his girlfriend.

When you find the right donor you may only be due a few months after your brothers child is born. Lot's of nice hand me downs and you'll be able to compare notes.

Have you found another website yet hun? The 2 sites I used (still can't post the links but will as soon as I'm allowed :s are both very good. Have you been able to find them using poodle?!?

Goodluck hun. -x-
p.s. Going to test tomorrow as due on tomorrow. I only have cheapo tests but they do say suitable for early testing so....


Kirsty & Eden -x-



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Old Nov 8th, 2009, 06:47 AM   89
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Didn't need to test witch got me today

So now I just have to fire my current donor and get back to the profile pages, the delay is unfortunate and means that Eden will probably be 3 before number 2 arrives. Hmmm. Will keep you updated anyway. All the best to you all.

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Old Nov 8th, 2009, 07:30 AM   90
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Hoping I can now post links.... Fingers crossed....

http://www.free-sperm-donations.com
or
http://www.conceptiondirect.com

I've not joined these ones (I think :s ) but for a basic sperm donor role I think they may be suitable for you Tammy.

The two I'm a member of are
www.co-Parents.net
and
www.co-parentmatch.com

Both of these have american donors/co-parents on them but out of the two I believe there are more americans on the .com site.

I've struck up conversations with two new guys and have sent messages to a few others. So hopefully the right one is out there.

Kirsty-x-



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