Hi, just wanted to start a thread for anyone who has failed IVF/ICSI this year just as abit of a support and to discuss ways of moving forward, with lots of positivity. Also, tips on finding PMA. Obviously if anyone wants to add a success story that would be great after 1st or 2nd failed attempt or more.

Just abit about myself. I am 34, very nearly 35. DH and I have been trying to concieve since October 2008. We found out at the beginning of this year husband has a sperm count of 3million with virtually all abnormal everything. Fortunately I am okay. Roll on September 2010 and 1 failed IVF/ICSI. The emotional toll this has taken on me has really hit me by surprise. Anyhow, am determined to move on and look towards the future. So please join me.

In order to make myself feel better the first thing I have done is book myself some pampering activities. What have others done?

June 2011
Just wanted to edit this and let you know I'm pregnant now. 21 weeks infact. I eventually got pregnant on the second round with frozen embroyos. There is not one day when I don't forget the journey that I have experienced. Its still quite raw. Despite being pregnant, everyday throughout this pregnancy I am scared. Also I think we spend such a long time wanting a baby that when we are pregnant alot of us can't enjoy it. This makes me sad.

Anyway, when I created this thread I was unbelievably low. It helped me a great deal. It also helps to know you aren't alone in the world. I gained great comfort from other people's strength. I hope others will continue to get support like I did. Bye for nowxx


Just an update again. February 2012

I havent been on bnb for a while. I just haven't had time. Harriet Georgina was born on the 30/10/11 weighing 7.7IBS. She was delivered by emergency c-section and she is now nearly 4 months. Just wanted to edit this thread and change the date because I still haven't forgotten the support it I gained from it. I hope you too will get support from it. xx

This is meant as a support group so please reply.

heya Inky,

didn't wanna read n run - I'm just about to have my 2nd round of IVF. i think this will be a really good thread, and i shall come and visit if i'm second time unlucky x x x x

Hi Inky

Good idea for a thread. I have just had an ICSI cycle cancelled due to poor response - I only got 1 egg!!! I am 37 so time is running out for me. I had my first round on the NHS but am paying for my next round as I have to wait 6 months for my next NHS one - even though the first didn't even go ahead!! I just don't have time to wait that long and am going to appeal against that decision.

This whole thing is just truely horrendous! I am trying to take things a bit easier in work and to be healthy to keep myself going. Tryng to stay positive is so hard at times xxx

Great idea! As you know, hubby and I just did ur first round of ICSI, all went well but then I got my AF! So now it's all over.

We've been trying for 3 years. Hubby has amazing sperm (!) but I have a low follicle count (usually about 7 found) and thin womb lining.

We're gonna speak to our FS in a week or so, then look at an NHS-funded round in the New Year. Not sure what after that. We're coping okay but I wonder if I'll fall apart this weekend?

Hi Inky

Sending you big

DH and I have had both a failed fresh ICSI cycle and failed FET this year I understand how difficult and crap this journey is

Arranging some pampering sessions is a great idea, DH and I went on holiday after our failed attempts, just so we could spend quality time together and have some fun.

Somedays I find I cope ok but then other days I feel like everything is a total nightmare, we just try to plan nice things to do at the weekends, a trip to the cinema, a drink in a village pub - I find planning stuff like this helps me stay a little positive.

We've just started down regging today for our 2nd fresh ICSI cycle - self funded this time, what are your options for future treatment? xxx

Hi ladies, just wanna wish all of you a safe and quick recovery, and a hopeful positive during your next try.

I will join, I know how heartbreaking it is when it fails - something us ladies should not have to experience seeing all we go through to get what should happen naturally!

I'm currently on my 2ww for the second treatment and feeling doubtful.

Time heals a little bit and then focussing on the next treatment really helps to move forward.

Oh thank you everyone what a great response, I have just got in from work so thought would check.

Mrs F - I really hope it works for you this time. If it does come back and let us know - because successes give hope. If not come and commiserate.

Hi Silarose - I know how you feel - I have to wait a further 6 months for NHS treatment as well. It leaves you in abit of a LImbo. I think you get so pumped up with the process you want to start again quickly. I feel as if the sands of time are running out for me also. Although everyone reassures me they are not it just feels like that.

Miss Monty - I really hope it works for you this time, got my fingers crossed. It is crap isn't it. For the past week I have been crying like there has been a death. It feels like a bereavement. Today I am back to my old self again. My husband told me last night he wanted me back (the woman he married) so resolved to try and move on and be positive. Sounds like you and your husband have done some nice things together. Me and my husband have rejoined the gym - so hopefully we can do some bonding in the running machine together. LOL.

Janet T - thank you and congrats - it looks like you went through it to get to where you are now - so you really appreciate how we all feelx

Hi TrixieLox - I know I have followed your story and you always seem so positive - I think will be good if you can get NHS funding as you rightly deserve it. Don't give up just yet - I have heard lots of stories like yours with happy endings. I'm not giving up.

Mummy - you will get your baby this time - I am sure of it. Thanks for the support.

Thank you all for replying and over the coming weeks hopefully we can support each other and spur each other on.

As for me I have just gotten in from work. This weekend I am going to the theatre. I did contemplate cancelling because yesterday could not stop crying (really glad I have stopped today ) This is quite out of character for me and my mum was really worried. My husband just didn't know what to do. He is lovely. Anyway, the tears have stopped and I feel like I am moving in the right direction. xx

Hi can I join too? Feeling the need for support.
I've just found out I miscarried. 2nd go at ICSI and shocked at how devastated I feel.
Am taking time off work to grieve and get back to normal. I keep changing my mind about trying again...its so hard.
You never know though...maybe next year..when I'll be 41!!!
xxx