I am TTC this month for the first time with a donor. I am. My donor lives a couple of hours from me. We were considering me meeting him halfway to pick up the sperm. Is there any chance of success with a 40 minute delay between him "donating" and me using it? Thank you so much ladies!
If you keep it in a closed container at body temperature there should be very minimal loss of sperm in that time frame.
1. If you used a donor (rather than your spouse), how did you find your donor
N/A. Spouse was donor.
2. What method(s) did you use to track ovulation
Ovia app as well as "[email protected]" ovulation test strips (found cheap on Amazon)
3. What method(s) of insemination did you use
We collected the specimen in a plain, clean (disposable) plastic cup. Then, we used a 5ml luer slip tip syringe to collect the specimen out of the cup. Next, I relaxed in a recliner with my hips raised and we inserted the syringe as far into my vagina as was comfortable. Once the syringe was in as far as was comfortable, I steadily pressed in on the plunger and then waited a few seconds and removed the syringe. I then immediately inserted a Softcup (12 hour feminine protection cup). Once the Softcup was in place, I used a vibrator to achieve an orgasm. After that, I just went about my evening as usual and kept the Softcup in overnight. I removed the Softcup the next morning.
I will note that we tried the "Stork" OTC Conception Aid one month and it was truly AWFUL! Not only was it extremely expensive, it was very difficult to use. The worst part was that I felt like we wasted a perfectly good ovulation day.
4. How many times per cycle did you inseminate and what was the timing relative to ovulation (e.g. 2 days before and day of)?
The month that our insemination was successful, we had inseminated on the day of ovulation, two days prior, and five days prior. Most months prior to that, we had tried on the day of ovulation, the day after, and two to three days prior.
5. Logistics. Where did you meet your donor and how did the donation occur?
6. Did it work? If so, how many cycles did it take?
Yes!!! I am currently 15 weeks pregnant. We began trying in July and were successful in October. I will note, however, that my husband was taking a blood pressure medication (Amlodipine) up until August that has been shown to have some negative effect on fertility. He stopped taking the medication in early September (over a month before we were successful).
7. If you used a donor, what is the relationship you have (or intend to have) with your donor?
8. Anything else you think people should know?
I came on this very site about 7 months ago to read about how people were attempting to inseminate at home. Due to scar tissue issues from a surgical intervention during childhood, my husband was unable to ejaculate from intercourse- thus making "traditional" conception impossible for us. I felt like home insemination was really our best hope for conceiving- but I had no idea if it really worked. My husband was VERY skeptical and was sure that we would have to go the more traditional IVF route. I came back today to post this message because I want other people who are facing similar struggles to know that this DOES WORK! In six months I will have a little girl that proves it Best of luck to everyone who is struggling and hoping to conceive.
I love love love this thread and found it very helpful and reasuring
1. If you used a donor (rather than your spouse), how did you find your donor Donor is a best friend of mine and my wife
2. What method(s) did you use to track ovulation Ovulation app and the cheepy ovulation predictor strips twice a day during ovulation window. Temping didnt work for me because Im such a restless sleeper
3. What method(s) of insemination did you use We used a 10ml oral syringe and diva cup. I would inseminate a small amout of preseed into me a few min before, as well as smeared some inside the Diva cup. We would suck up most of the seman into syringe from the jar our donor brought, My wife (or I if she was working) would push the syringe in as deep as it would go (it wasnt very long) and slooooowly push push it in. We would leave the syringe in for 5sh min with hips elevated and sloooowly take it out (I eventually found it best to use harder couch cusions instead of soft bed pillows) If there was much seman left in the jar we would pour it into the diva cup and insert that. I would lay around for another 20 min before getting up. I would try to lounge with feet up on the couch or bed the rest of the eve. I didnt try to reach orgasm as I found it too stressful to think about but we would at least dim the lights, light our fav candle and make out
4. How many times per cycle did you inseminate and what was the timing relative to ovulation (e.g. 2 days before and day of)? We tried 3 times a cycle. 3 days before Ovulation, 1 day before and day of
5. Logistics. Where did you meet your donor and how did the donation occur? Our donor would make his sample at home and drive it over. He woud drop if off, go grab a drink at the local bar and come back to hang out and have dinner. Sometimes I would pick up the sample and inseminate at home. One time I did it at his house and then hung out with him with my hips up watching a movie. We used a warmed mason jar or a reusable travel soap squeeze bottle, haha we were very unmedicle about it all.
6. Did it work? If so, how many cycles did it take? IT WORKED!! 2 cylcles, 6 inseminations in total. Im very newly pregnant so hoping is sticks
7. If you used a donor, what is the relationship you have (or intend to have) with your donor? Our donor will have an uncle type relationship with baby. We wrote a contract but didnt go through a lawyer. We are in Ontario and a new law was passed that my wife and I can both be on the birth cirtificate even though we know our donor.
We see our donor weekly and even if it wasn't his geneticly he would still be around to help
8. Anything else you think people should know?
We are so fortunate because we have someone close to us that we trust 100%. He got all his STI testing and was honest when he was even a little bit intamite with someone.
Also, both myself and donor were taking supplements to increase fertility a couple months before we started. Coq10, Vit E, Vit C, Omega 3, Vit D, and myself a prenatal multi. Not sure if they helped but it was worth it cause we didn't have to spend money on IUI. We were thinking that if I didn't get pregnant in four months then we would get prepped for IUI. In Canada there is a very striked 6 month quarentine for the sperm.
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