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Megg33k · Jan 19th, 2011, 22:16 PM

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You make a great point, tickledpink... If I'd known what I was in for, I might have chosen not to do it. Its so worth it after the fact though!

Funny, I feel just the opposite.

I would have done it 6 months earlier if I could have. And I'd do it again in a second if I had to (and could make it happen).

Even with the cost and the shots and the travel and the time off work (there isn't IVF where I live, so I had to travel 1500 miles from home and stay there for 2 weeks), I was just thrilled the whole time. I had 8 failed IUIs beforehand and it was awful -- I felt so demoralized and like there was no hope.

I was just so excited to move to IVF because I felt like it could actually work -- it was something that I could truly be hopeful about, and I hadn't felt that in a long, long time. Every time I gave myself I shot I felt like I was taking control and moving one step closer to finally having a baby.

That's true too... I did feel like I was doing something, finally. But, I think I got my hopes up so much with our failed IUI that I refused to believe that anything would EVER work after that. So, I felt like I was probably wasting my time the whole time I was going through it. I would probably feel differently if I went through it again for #2. I would have a lot more hope.

biscuitnodles · Jan 20th, 2011, 03:22 AM

Girls, can I just ask, you mention 'how many days bed rest' in the IVF questions. Is this after the transfer?
Also, how did your employers deal with this? I'm worried my work are not going to be accommodating to time off sick as IVF is 'something i'm choosing to do' rather than an illness. Also, i'm doing my IVF in summer when a lot of people are off on holiday so I might not be able to take the time as holiday.
How did you handle it?

Thanks

Amanda xx

wish2bmama · Jan 20th, 2011, 06:28 AM

Yes, it was after the transfer. Some clinics just need you to rest that day and the day after as it still is a surgery and can be very painful (as in my case).

Not sure about the work question as I stopped working to work on having a baby. But I think most employers are understanding that infertility is not a choice that you made. The need and desire for children is natural and in our biology. My insurence considers infertility as an illness, but I see that work places do not yet. I hope you can get the time off hun! xx

MummyIwanabe · Jan 20th, 2011, 08:04 AM

I'm pretty sure you have rights at work to have time off for IVF treatment. I think even OH's do too as they gota do their part on the day too!

biscuitnodles · Jan 20th, 2011, 08:16 AM

Thanks girls. I have not approached work about it yet, as I have another appointment with FS before we start the IVF so ill know more about it then. I know infertility is an 'illness' but I think people who do not experience it do not fully appreciate how it is to have it.

Hopefully FX it will work first time so ill only have to worry for a short time!

Do you think worry is bad for the IVF process and can have a detrimental effect?

xxx

mrssunshine78 · Jan 20th, 2011, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by biscuitnodles

Thanks girls. I have not approached work about it yet, as I have another appointment with FS before we start the IVF so ill know more about it then. I know infertility is an 'illness' but I think people who do not experience it do not fully appreciate how it is to have it.

Hopefully FX it will work first time so ill only have to worry for a short time!

Do you think worry is bad for the IVF process and can have a detrimental effect?

xxx

I think it completely depends on where you work, my work are being fantastic, i had transfer on monday and was gonna go back to work today, but they told me to stay off the rest of the week with my feet up!! they do have to give you time off for appts and things, maybe after your appt if you have anyone who might be remotely sympathetic have a word with them.

stress does have an effect on fertility they say

good luck

MummyIwanabe · Jan 20th, 2011, 08:37 AM

I agree people do not understand or comprehend what we endure to have what should come naturally. Most ladies choose not to tell their work but it's personal preference I guess.

I don't think worrying helps, I don't think it has a detrimental effect though. I was worried and negative the second time round and that's when it worked so who knows but thinking positive helps well being

mrssunshine78 · Jan 20th, 2011, 08:37 AM

i'm loving this thread, its making me feel so much better that all of you have your bfp's

good luck to all of you xx

Megg33k · Jan 20th, 2011, 08:45 AM

On the bedrest... My clinic only told me to stay on bedrest for the remainder of transfer day. I self-imposed the 2nd and 3rd days. I also quit my job to do IVF though. So, I didn't run into work scheduling issues.

biscuitnodles · Jan 20th, 2011, 09:36 AM

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On the bedrest... My clinic only told me to stay on bedrest for the remainder of transfer day. I self-imposed the 2nd and 3rd days. I also quit my job to do IVF though. So, I didn't run into work scheduling issues.

It looks like the time off worked, congrats!!!

xxx

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biscuitnodles Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Cheltenham Posts: 163	Girls, can I just ask, you mention 'how many days bed rest' in the IVF questions. Is this after the transfer? Also, how did your employers deal with this? I'm worried my work are not going to be accommodating to time off sick as IVF is 'something i'm choosing to do' rather than an illness. Also, i'm doing my IVF in summer when a lot of people are off on holiday so I might not be able to take the time as holiday. How did you handle it? Thanks Amanda xx

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Jan 20th, 2011, 06:28 AM	#83
wish2bmama Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 2,671	Yes, it was after the transfer. Some clinics just need you to rest that day and the day after as it still is a surgery and can be very painful (as in my case). Not sure about the work question as I stopped working to work on having a baby. But I think most employers are understanding that infertility is not a choice that you made. The need and desire for children is natural and in our biology. My insurence considers infertility as an illness, but I see that work places do not yet. I hope you can get the time off hun! xx

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MummyIwanabe Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 2,659	I'm pretty sure you have rights at work to have time off for IVF treatment. I think even OH's do too as they gota do their part on the day too!

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Jan 20th, 2011, 08:16 AM	#85
biscuitnodles Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Cheltenham Posts: 163	Thanks girls. I have not approached work about it yet, as I have another appointment with FS before we start the IVF so ill know more about it then. I know infertility is an 'illness' but I think people who do not experience it do not fully appreciate how it is to have it. Hopefully FX it will work first time so ill only have to worry for a short time! Do you think worry is bad for the IVF process and can have a detrimental effect? xxx

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MummyIwanabe Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 2,659	I agree people do not understand or comprehend what we endure to have what should come naturally. Most ladies choose not to tell their work but it's personal preference I guess. I don't think worrying helps, I don't think it has a detrimental effect though. I was worried and negative the second time round and that's when it worked so who knows but thinking positive helps well being

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mrssunshine78 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: UK Posts: 3,726	i'm loving this thread, its making me feel so much better that all of you have your bfp's good luck to all of you xx

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Megg33k Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Gallifrey! <3 Posts: 35,608	On the bedrest... My clinic only told me to stay on bedrest for the remainder of transfer day. I self-imposed the 2nd and 3rd days. I also quit my job to do IVF though. So, I didn't run into work scheduling issues.

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