Erin, I thought I have read that you are supposed to abstain for 2-3 days before to build up the sperm count. I know that sperm donors have to abstain 48-72 hours before providing samples. good luck

With the SA we were told to abstain 2-5 days but with the last cycle they told me too dtd the day after trigger shot and that next morning was the iui.

Has anyone else used the trigger to induce ovulation and told to dtd between the time of trigger and the iui?

Like you, I am single and I will be doing my first IUI next week (most likely Thurs). I am over-the-moon excited to finally be working on my dream of being a mom! I was married for 5 years to an amazing partner who, unfortunatly could not commit to starting a family now. I feel the biological clock ticking for me so I am working on having a little one first.

Good luck to you and everyone who is trying in January!

Oh - Congrats Cellmom! Bring on the BFP's!

Welcome

GL

Looks like I will be a week behind you. Perhaps we could be ttc buddies and support each other in our unique situation

I had a showdown with my mom yesterday. I told her I was thinking about this a couple of months ago and she wouldn't really say a whole lot. When I told her, I also said that I didn't even know if I could conceive. (I did not know any test results at that point) She doesn't know I have seen the doc several times and gone through all of the testing and that I was told everything is fine. Yesterday, out of the blue, she comes out with "You aren't thinking about having a baby are you?" She says she can't think of anything worse than me having a baby.

She throws in my face all the time "You aren't a mother so you don't understand." Her reasons for not wanting me to have a baby is that it is going to be hard. I told her I know that. She says she can't help me. I tell her that I don't want her help. All I would want is for her to love the baby and give it hugs and kisses when we come over. She tells me that she would want to look after the baby while I am working but she can't do that anymore. I tell her that I will get a day home like all other parents and that I am not asking her to babysit. She says she wouldn't be able to accept that she isn't able to help. She would feel guilty for not babysitting my child. She says that she will worry about me and I don't understand that worry because I am not a mother. As I responded, I want to understand but she won't let me. I pointed out to my mom that she raised 3 babies and, even though she had Dad, he was no help and was a like a big kid himself. She agreed. I think it will be easier raising one by myself knowing I am on my own than raising three being frustrated by an uncooperative spouse. If I didn't know what a mother's worry is, I wouldn't have put thought in to an education plan for my unconceived child. I wouldn't have thought about who will be my child's guardians should something happen to me. I get that she is worried and that moms worry.

She says that she is telling me her opinion and begging me not to do this because she is trying to be a good Mom. I feel like she is being selfish. I am willing to make sacrifices. I am willing to put my child's needs infront of my own. I am a simple person with simple needs. I don't want or need a big fancy house or lots of clothes etc. I have a lot of love to give and I don't feel like I should be begrudged that because I am not married. Mom knows I have always wanted children. She also knows that I refuse to settle. I have seen so many people get married or end up with a guy just because they want to be married or because they want to have children and I refuse to be that girl. I pointed it out that I have faced a lot of adversity but I have always faced it head-on and came out stronger on the other side.

I was really steamed yesterday. But now that I think about it, I think being a single mom is going to be hard yes. I highly doubt I will ever regret having a baby but I am fairly certain I would regret not trying.

Good Luck!

Wonderful Cellmom! I am very happy for you.

I am doing my first IUI this month, but my RE told us not to dtd for 2-3 days before my DH gives the sperm sample for the IUI. My RE wants us to come in and give the sample early for freezing so they can already have it on hand. We were advised to dtd the day of the trigger and every other day afterwards.

Nicker, I am sorry to read that your mom is not more supportive. You sound as if you are very strong and you have definately thought about everything that is involved in being a single mom. You have a great plan and your soon to be child will be loved by you and your family. I believe your mother is just expressing her fears for what she believes is a poor decision. Your mom loves you and she will come around and support you.