So depressed 2nd iui failed - Page 5

Casper72 · Apr 9th, 2012, 14:18 PM

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Originally Posted by dde3

I started spotting yesterday and woke up to full blown AF this morning. I am so depressed. I had such high hopes for this cycle and everything seemed to be perfect. I just don't understand why it didn't work. Me and dh have been doing donor iui because his sperm count is under one million. The previous cycle we did natural and this cycle I had ultrasound monitoring with a 17mm follicle on day 16. Day 17 I got my positve opk and they had me trigger that night and iui the following day. (18). I'm surprised I have my period now because I usually have a 14-16 day LP. I thought you got your period 14 days from ovulation??? Can anyone please clarify for me. I was expecting my period on Monday so this was quite unexpeced. We have a huge bill at our RE's office that we need to pay off before doing another cycle. I'm scared to see what it is. That's probably were all our tax refund will go to. It just seems like such a lot for something that didn't even work.

Maybe some of you can get my spirits up I'm just in a bad place right now. I have been questioning the timing of the inseminations and wondering why they don't do a ultrasound right before since they did all of these leading up to this. I have 3 beautiful kids so I know I should be thankful for that. But my first husband passed away and my new dh dosent' have any kids. We woud love to be able to experience this together. He is devastated as well but is trying to make me feel better by saying that we will just try again. It is hard finanically as well because we are gettting by month to month but with not anything to save or put away so paying for all these fertility treatments is a big burden especially when you don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. We don't have any family to help us out and don't want to take out loans that will just add up and we will have to pay back. That's why we decided to go the iui donor route instead of IVF because finanically we just can't affor that plus there are no guarentees it will work, iui either for that matter. If anyone that has had a iui that worked on the 3rd time could you please let me know. Also wondering if we should switch donors???? Thanks ladies. Baby Dust to all of you!!!

I just confirmed that our second IUI failed as well. I am numb. I cannot believe this is happening. How are you holding up? Have you gone for your 3rd IUI yet?

Casper72 · Apr 9th, 2012, 14:23 PM

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Originally Posted by dde3

Sure the more the merrier! Good Luck Casper on your upcoming iui! I am still in so much pain from mine 4 days ago. Have you experienced this with multiple follicles? You said you had 5. This is my first time on Clomid so not sure what is normal and what is not. I just feel so bloated/pressure in my pelvis. It's uncomfortable but not neccesarily painful. My back hurts too. I'm sure it's too early for pregnancy symptoms. I hope 1 of the follicles was a success. Like I said before financially this is our last attempt, sadly. We just can't afford anymore with raising 3 kids and trying to live plus buying donor sperm and iui costs, meds, bloodwork, ultrasounds. It's crazy expensive. I'm stunned at how people can afford I
VF. Unless you have family to help you it seems impossible unless your a brain surgeon or something similar. lol. Anyways baby dust to all of us!!! We all deserve our BFP this month!!! Think Positive girls!!!

I didn't experience any pain with multiple follies either month I was on letrozole.

Nicker · Apr 9th, 2012, 14:49 PM

Ladies here is a link to a thread full of awesome supportive ladies all going through IUI. Some of us on our fourth. http://www.babyandbump.com/assisted-...ne-12-bfp.html

drsquid · Apr 9th, 2012, 15:03 PM

letrozole i had no pain,. gonal f... lots o bloaty etc. finally 4 days out from iui im feeling better. well except for the craziness from progesterone. im post 4th iui but found out at the last one i was using crappy sperm so now i dont know if i have any problems or not.

readyforhope1 · Apr 9th, 2012, 22:26 PM

I just took a HPT this morning and at least I can say they are consistent negative. Can understand where ur at dde3. Were taking a break for a couple months and try again. Cant take the emotions anymore. I am going to do accupuncture to see if we can get my body ready and the next time we will be successful. I just dont know what else to do.

dde3 · Apr 10th, 2012, 22:31 PM

Hi Ladies,
So sorry to hear of your BFN! I can totally understand completely how you all feel. It is emotionally draining and you just feel numb inside. I am so sorry we are all going thru this, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. After crying for 2 days I begged my husband to do another round and he finally said yes. I feel guility for wanting to do it again but I just want it to work. When you have spent so much money, time, emotion, for this it is hard to just give up. I have come to terms with that this will be our last try and I'm going to have to be okay with that one way or another. I just finished my clomid last night and go in for my follicle scan on Friday. I'm hoping I don't have too many and they cancel the cycle. Although last month I had 3 and no takers. I'm considering switching donors at this point. What do you ladies think? Would you switch after 3 failed attempts???? We had 3 favorites saved so it is one that we had picked from the begininng and the pregancy rate is the same 15-20 pregnancies for each donor. If anyone has any advice on this I would appreciate it, as I have to order soon. Good Luck Squid! Baby Dust to you and for all of us that are in this unfair place we have been put in. So sorry Casper! Hugs to you from Minnesota!!!

dde3 · Apr 10th, 2012, 22:32 PM

Ready for Hope...have you got af yet do you know this cycle failed for sure???? Keep the hope, I know it's hard!!! HUgs to you!!!

dde3 · Apr 14th, 2012, 08:20 AM

Hi Ladies! How is everyone doing??? No one has posted in a couple days. I went in for my follicle scan (day 11) yesterday. I had 2 follicles one on each side after my 50mg clomid days 3-7. She said they were small 12 and 13 I think. It had me worried but my estrogen came back good she said so she said they just need time to grow. I go back on Monday for another scan. We switched donor's for this upcoming cycle so I'm hoping that will be what we need for a BFP! Does anyone know what size the follicles should be on Day 11? I'm a late ovulater usually getting a positive on Day 15 sometimes 16 so I thought maybe for me this is normal. I hope everyone is holding up well and keeping the faith even though I know how incredibly hard it is. Also anyone know what the difference is between being on clomid days 3-7 versus 5-9? Last month I did days 5-9 and had a better response. My thinking is starting it sooner would help the follicles get mature faster. Seems I had the opposite happen. Anyways check in gals let me know how you are all doing???

dde3 · Apr 14th, 2012, 08:21 AM

Oh and my lining was 8.3. I hope that's good????

readyforhope1 · Apr 14th, 2012, 08:50 AM

Those sound like good numbers to me. AF started this morning so its officially over. Good luck on this cycle i hope its ur lucky one. Keep me posted.

Apr 9th, 2012, 14:49 PM	#43
Nicker On a break (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Posts: 795	Ladies here is a link to a thread full of awesome supportive ladies all going through IUI. Some of us on our fourth. http://www.babyandbump.com/assisted-...ne-12-bfp.html

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Apr 9th, 2012, 15:03 PM	#44
drsquid Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 3,577	letrozole i had no pain,. gonal f... lots o bloaty etc. finally 4 days out from iui im feeling better. well except for the craziness from progesterone. im post 4th iui but found out at the last one i was using crappy sperm so now i dont know if i have any problems or not.

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Apr 9th, 2012, 22:26 PM	#45
readyforhope1 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Idaho Posts: 115	I just took a HPT this morning and at least I can say they are consistent negative. Can understand where ur at dde3. Were taking a break for a couple months and try again. Cant take the emotions anymore. I am going to do accupuncture to see if we can get my body ready and the next time we will be successful. I just dont know what else to do.

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Apr 10th, 2012, 22:31 PM	#46
dde3 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Faribault, Minnesota Posts: 35	Hi Ladies, So sorry to hear of your BFN! I can totally understand completely how you all feel. It is emotionally draining and you just feel numb inside. I am so sorry we are all going thru this, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. After crying for 2 days I begged my husband to do another round and he finally said yes. I feel guility for wanting to do it again but I just want it to work. When you have spent so much money, time, emotion, for this it is hard to just give up. I have come to terms with that this will be our last try and I'm going to have to be okay with that one way or another. I just finished my clomid last night and go in for my follicle scan on Friday. I'm hoping I don't have too many and they cancel the cycle. Although last month I had 3 and no takers. I'm considering switching donors at this point. What do you ladies think? Would you switch after 3 failed attempts???? We had 3 favorites saved so it is one that we had picked from the begininng and the pregancy rate is the same 15-20 pregnancies for each donor. If anyone has any advice on this I would appreciate it, as I have to order soon. Good Luck Squid! Baby Dust to you and for all of us that are in this unfair place we have been put in. So sorry Casper! Hugs to you from Minnesota!!!

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Apr 10th, 2012, 22:32 PM	#47
dde3 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Faribault, Minnesota Posts: 35	Ready for Hope...have you got af yet do you know this cycle failed for sure???? Keep the hope, I know it's hard!!! HUgs to you!!!

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Apr 14th, 2012, 08:20 AM	#48
dde3 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Faribault, Minnesota Posts: 35	Hi Ladies! How is everyone doing??? No one has posted in a couple days. I went in for my follicle scan (day 11) yesterday. I had 2 follicles one on each side after my 50mg clomid days 3-7. She said they were small 12 and 13 I think. It had me worried but my estrogen came back good she said so she said they just need time to grow. I go back on Monday for another scan. We switched donor's for this upcoming cycle so I'm hoping that will be what we need for a BFP! Does anyone know what size the follicles should be on Day 11? I'm a late ovulater usually getting a positive on Day 15 sometimes 16 so I thought maybe for me this is normal. I hope everyone is holding up well and keeping the faith even though I know how incredibly hard it is. Also anyone know what the difference is between being on clomid days 3-7 versus 5-9? Last month I did days 5-9 and had a better response. My thinking is starting it sooner would help the follicles get mature faster. Seems I had the opposite happen. Anyways check in gals let me know how you are all doing???

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Apr 14th, 2012, 08:21 AM	#49
dde3 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Faribault, Minnesota Posts: 35	Oh and my lining was 8.3. I hope that's good????

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Apr 14th, 2012, 08:50 AM	#50
readyforhope1 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Idaho Posts: 115	Those sound like good numbers to me. AF started this morning so its officially over. Good luck on this cycle i hope its ur lucky one. Keep me posted.

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