Over 30's Assisted Conception Club for Baby Numero 1 - Page 2

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:00 PM

I was also wondering how many of you tell your family and friends what is going on? I am excited and want to tell but at the same time, when things don't go so well, you have to deliver that news as well. very hard.

africaqueen · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:06 PM

Thats good sweet. Here in UK there is nothing like that but the 2 cycles we had were fully funded by nhs so praying for one more funded due to my circs. I pray they do or we have a long wait before we can save enough to go again xxx

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:08 PM

I hope you get another cycle queen. It doesn't seem fair to have the same protocol for everyone when not everyone has the same circumstances.

africaqueen · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:11 PM

I agree! thank you. I know a lot of women that have IVF have a tiny chance of natural conception but in our case we really dont we me having no tubes and my eggs are declining so we need to move fast really. Good luck to you too xxx

MrsHowley81 · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:14 PM

Welcome Africa queen, You are Lucky to have 2 funded cycles maybe even 3 in my area we only get one go

But we are very very grateful for even that. Carolina I have told my family and friends and occasionally put the odd status on Facebook, I don't see why infertility should be a dirty little secret, after all we need all the support we can get, and of course you get the odd narrow minded shallow person, but I don't expect everyone to understand, and even the people who say they do don't actually have a clue what this is like, I am just so grateful for places like this we can all rant and rave and get a friendly nod back xx

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:15 PM

Thanks queen. I am ready to go already. The waiting is horrible.

MrsHowley81 · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:18 PM

Hey girls it does seem unfair that people who have had babies and might be able to conceive naturally get the same as us ladies who have no hope at all. How did you cope knowing that you can't conceive naturally, I had a really hard time getting my head around it, I knew that we obviously had a problem but in my mind I always thought it would be resolved and we would be able to do it on our own, but I know that will never happen. Also struggled with the fact we would never have the family we wanted, but I would be so grateful for just 1 baby and when that happens it would be like winning the lottery but better, but I still wish we could have a family of more than 1 xx

africaqueen · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:18 PM

MrsHowley- I think the postcode lottery sucks when NICE have stated 3 cycles should be given for best level of success. If your 1st cycle fails, i would deffo apply for more funding due to your circs are majority of IVF women arent in our hopeless situation. I pray it works first time for you tho. GL xxx

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:18 PM

My family knows some but for the most part, they don't really ask so I take it that they aren't really interested. I know I drive my DH crazy with all this so I am glad to have found this board. I read through all the success stories with IVF yesterday. I have about 3 people at work that I talk to, one who is my sister. Another friend and my husband. I just remember when we told with the first chemical pregnancy and then you have to go back and tell people. I feel like next time around we will wait a couple months. I will anyway, DH will tell the world.

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:20 PM

I do agree Mrs.H that it should not be a dirty little secret. I guess it is just easier for me not to answer the odd person's questions about it.

Apr 6th, 2012, 13:00 PM	#11
SweetCarolina Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 168	I was also wondering how many of you tell your family and friends what is going on? I am excited and want to tell but at the same time, when things don't go so well, you have to deliver that news as well. very hard.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:06 PM	#12
africaqueen Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Liverpool England Posts: 6,160	Thats good sweet. Here in UK there is nothing like that but the 2 cycles we had were fully funded by nhs so praying for one more funded due to my circs. I pray they do or we have a long wait before we can save enough to go again xxx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:08 PM	#13
SweetCarolina Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 168	I hope you get another cycle queen. It doesn't seem fair to have the same protocol for everyone when not everyone has the same circumstances.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:11 PM	#14
africaqueen Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Liverpool England Posts: 6,160	I agree! thank you. I know a lot of women that have IVF have a tiny chance of natural conception but in our case we really dont we me having no tubes and my eggs are declining so we need to move fast really. Good luck to you too xxx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:14 PM	#15
MrsHowley81 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 742	Welcome Africa queen, You are Lucky to have 2 funded cycles maybe even 3 in my area we only get one go But we are very very grateful for even that. Carolina I have told my family and friends and occasionally put the odd status on Facebook, I don't see why infertility should be a dirty little secret, after all we need all the support we can get, and of course you get the odd narrow minded shallow person, but I don't expect everyone to understand, and even the people who say they do don't actually have a clue what this is like, I am just so grateful for places like this we can all rant and rave and get a friendly nod back xx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:15 PM	#16
SweetCarolina Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 168	Thanks queen. I am ready to go already. The waiting is horrible.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:18 PM	#17
MrsHowley81 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 742	Hey girls it does seem unfair that people who have had babies and might be able to conceive naturally get the same as us ladies who have no hope at all. How did you cope knowing that you can't conceive naturally, I had a really hard time getting my head around it, I knew that we obviously had a problem but in my mind I always thought it would be resolved and we would be able to do it on our own, but I know that will never happen. Also struggled with the fact we would never have the family we wanted, but I would be so grateful for just 1 baby and when that happens it would be like winning the lottery but better, but I still wish we could have a family of more than 1 xx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:20 PM	#20
SweetCarolina Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 168	I do agree Mrs.H that it should not be a dirty little secret. I guess it is just easier for me not to answer the odd person's questions about it.

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