Over 30's Assisted Conception Club for Baby Numero 1 - Page 3

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:24 PM

Honestly, it is very hard to understand. My mom has 6 kids and sister has 5. I never had any doubt that we would have kids. I just try to stay positive, that's really all I can do. I pray a lot. I know it is going to happen for us but I just wish I could have a timeline, would make things so much easier. Everyone around me has popped out 1 and even 2 in the time we have been trying. I try to be happy for them but again it is hard. I don't want to deny anyone else their happiness but I certainly want mine, too.

MrsHowley81 · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:26 PM

Well I can understand with your circumstances why you wouldn't want the Spanish inquisition , I tend to just tell people that everything is moving along nicely and don't give too much info IFYKWIM. I'm not keen on the word chemical, it sounds like you were never really pregnant and you were, was a totally viable pregnancy and I am sure you felt a massive loss, but I can see why you would say use that word

I am grateful that I was never able to get pregnant as my FS said it would definitely end in m/c/Ectopic, You girls have had a tough time xx

africaqueen · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:26 PM

MrsH- I think it is unfair. I know LOTS of women who have a IVF baby and then a natural pregnancy later on. I struggled a lot with losing both tubes as both times i went from BFP and being so happy with dh to utter devastation and life or death situation with the ectopics. With the 2nd one i was in theatre 4hrs whilst they tried to stop the bleed and nearly died so i am thankful to be alive but i am empty without my baby. The 2 failed cycles were soul destroying too as it came to light i have low ovarian reserve and im only 31. All heartbreaking but il keep hoping an praying. xxx

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:29 PM

I am not keen on chemical either. I had to research after they told me that. I am very confident in my dr. This is our year.

MrsHowley81 · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:31 PM

If only we had a crystal ball hey, I am also like you I know we will have our baby, just don't know when or how many goes it will take. I too am surrounded by fertile Myrtles, My brother and his wife have 6 and my mum had 3 but was pregnant 5 times, I don't tend to conform why should this be different, but it will be all the more special when it does happen xx

SweetCarolina · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:32 PM

I agree Mrs.H. will definitely be more special.

MrsHowley81 · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:38 PM

It is lovely to have a DR/FS that you can trust mine is great too, it is the first time in this whole journey I have come across a Medical Person who is so Honest and straight talking, she was the first person to say that I will have a baby and I totally trust in what she says

africaqueen · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:48 PM

My mum an dad ttc for 10yrs before having me an my mum was told her tubes were totally blocked an then got her miracle so altho i have no tubes i pray for my miracle thru IVF one of these days. My mum passed away 8mths ago so i long for that mother child bond more than ever now. xxx

MrsHowley81 · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:52 PM

Oh Africa I am so sorry to hear about your Mum, I bet you will miss her even more when you have your own baby

xx

africaqueen · Apr 6th, 2012, 13:55 PM

Thank you MrsH.
I miss my mum every day as we were so close with me being a only child. Im lucky i had 30 wonderful yrs with her and i pray i have my own miracle and share the love an bond like me an my mum did. Our baby will heal our hearts again after such sadness. I pray we get our bundles of joy xxx

Apr 6th, 2012, 13:24 PM	#21
SweetCarolina Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 168	Honestly, it is very hard to understand. My mom has 6 kids and sister has 5. I never had any doubt that we would have kids. I just try to stay positive, that's really all I can do. I pray a lot. I know it is going to happen for us but I just wish I could have a timeline, would make things so much easier. Everyone around me has popped out 1 and even 2 in the time we have been trying. I try to be happy for them but again it is hard. I don't want to deny anyone else their happiness but I certainly want mine, too.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:26 PM	#22
MrsHowley81 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 742	Well I can understand with your circumstances why you wouldn't want the Spanish inquisition , I tend to just tell people that everything is moving along nicely and don't give too much info IFYKWIM. I'm not keen on the word chemical, it sounds like you were never really pregnant and you were, was a totally viable pregnancy and I am sure you felt a massive loss, but I can see why you would say use that word I am grateful that I was never able to get pregnant as my FS said it would definitely end in m/c/Ectopic, You girls have had a tough time xx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:26 PM	#23
africaqueen Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Liverpool England Posts: 6,160	MrsH- I think it is unfair. I know LOTS of women who have a IVF baby and then a natural pregnancy later on. I struggled a lot with losing both tubes as both times i went from BFP and being so happy with dh to utter devastation and life or death situation with the ectopics. With the 2nd one i was in theatre 4hrs whilst they tried to stop the bleed and nearly died so i am thankful to be alive but i am empty without my baby. The 2 failed cycles were soul destroying too as it came to light i have low ovarian reserve and im only 31. All heartbreaking but il keep hoping an praying. xxx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:29 PM	#24
SweetCarolina Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 168	I am not keen on chemical either. I had to research after they told me that. I am very confident in my dr. This is our year.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:31 PM	#25
MrsHowley81 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 742	If only we had a crystal ball hey, I am also like you I know we will have our baby, just don't know when or how many goes it will take. I too am surrounded by fertile Myrtles, My brother and his wife have 6 and my mum had 3 but was pregnant 5 times, I don't tend to conform why should this be different, but it will be all the more special when it does happen xx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:32 PM	#26
SweetCarolina Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 168	I agree Mrs.H. will definitely be more special.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:38 PM	#27
MrsHowley81 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 742	It is lovely to have a DR/FS that you can trust mine is great too, it is the first time in this whole journey I have come across a Medical Person who is so Honest and straight talking, she was the first person to say that I will have a baby and I totally trust in what she says

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:48 PM	#28
africaqueen Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Liverpool England Posts: 6,160	My mum an dad ttc for 10yrs before having me an my mum was told her tubes were totally blocked an then got her miracle so altho i have no tubes i pray for my miracle thru IVF one of these days. My mum passed away 8mths ago so i long for that mother child bond more than ever now. xxx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:52 PM	#29
MrsHowley81 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Gloucestershire Posts: 742	Oh Africa I am so sorry to hear about your Mum, I bet you will miss her even more when you have your own baby xx

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Apr 6th, 2012, 13:55 PM	#30
africaqueen Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Liverpool England Posts: 6,160	Thank you MrsH. I miss my mum every day as we were so close with me being a only child. Im lucky i had 30 wonderful yrs with her and i pray i have my own miracle and share the love an bond like me an my mum did. Our baby will heal our hearts again after such sadness. I pray we get our bundles of joy xxx

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