My husband has no sperm and we are waiting to find out if we will find some by biopsy. Just this weekend, DH told me that he is finally open to using donor sperm if he cannot use his own.
Just wondering a few things...
1. How many units (straw?) did you order for IUI?
2. Who did you tell about using donor sperm?
3. What will you tell your child about it?
4. Is there anything else you would like to share or suggest? I'm still trying to accept the idea 100%.
Me and my husband have had to use donor sperm because of his low count. We have dont 3 iui cycles and all of them have failed. Frozen sperm seems to have a low count after thawing but all times we have had at least 10 million. We are on our 4th and last cycle that we can afford. So hope this works!!! Everything is normal on my end that I know of. I have 3 children from a previous relationship. The first cycle was a natural cycle, second with trigger, and 3rd with clomid and trigger. That time I had 3 follicles but still BFN. Just a word of advice for you going into this just know that it can take many cycles before success. My RE wasn't really forthcoming about this and after the fact I find out that there is only a 20% chance of success per cycle. We have spent thousands of dollars between the procedures and sperm and still nothing to show for it. I'm not trying to be the bearer of bad news just want to make sure you have a realistic view point on it I think that will help you going into all this. Good Luck to You! If you have any other questions I can try and answer them for you.
My husband and I are using DIUI to try and concieve as he has low t. At the fertility clinic in vancouver bc we first had to go to phychologist to talk about the issue of what you would tell a child concieved by donor sperm ect... Personally we have chosen to be completly honest with possible child that may be concieved because what could be worse than lying to your own child and who knows them finding out by accident and hating you for lying to them. All our family knows although i cannot say that they all support us in the decision to use donor sperm. (for the most part his mother) There is a wide variety of donors to choose from. This is a very common thing ppl do apparently for a long time even but in this day and age anything seems to go. I have a child that is not biologically my hubbys but they have been together years now and they are so close to each other. Blood doesent mean as much as bonding
We are about to start our first DIUI with injectables in about a week, we too had to have implication councilling as the law has changed in the uk making donors identifiable once a child is 18. We have not yet told any of our family about the DIUI or my husbands klinefelters as he simply isn't ready to, he is quite unsure about telling a child as he is worried that it will run off to its biological father or something silly. I think really he just doesn't want to be judged as a failure by people which is really sad as he'll make the most wonderful father. I think that if the IUI proves successful then we will sit all the family down and explain everything to them.
Thank you for your responses. We finally got our urologist appointment for May 10 and then I think we will find out if the urologist recommends TESE, meds for his low T or donor sperm. I keep going back and forth about it but know that I would want to progress if we know DH has no chance of having a bio child.
We're talking to the psychologist on Wednesday to discuss the possibility and will probably see him again after we see the urologist.
Thank you for your replies. I wish you all the best with your choices.
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