if one more person announces their pregnancy im going to scream

lbm2009 · Apr 16th, 2012, 13:22 PM

i have a bad case of green eyed monster, theres so many friends and colleagues announcing their pregnancies there are very few people who know about our fertility problems and i would like to keep it that way. Right now i feel so depressed and fed up. My husband has azoospermia and i have to loose weight before they will let us continue with treatment, 9lbs to go (1stone 10lb gone since xmas) so theres a glimmer of hope there.
i just cant help but wish we didnt have to go through this. Some of my friends havent been with their partners five minutes and they are having children together, i have been with my husband 12 years, we have so much to offer a baby and have had the chance taken away from us. ahh that feels better needed a rant and a good cry....

Melbram · Apr 16th, 2012, 13:31 PM

Hi lbm2009

I know how you feel! it took one of my friends 4 weeks to get pregnant and she already has 2 children, one of my friends had her baby 2 days ago, another due in 3 weeks then niece or nephew due in June

OH and I have been together 8 years now - TTC for 2 years. We have been diagnosed with male infertitility hoping to start IVF probably with ICSI in May/June

It is so unfair how some people get pregnant at the drop of a hat and most of the time its unplanned and they have nothing in place to provide for a child - I know it isnt their fault we have these problems and I truely am happy for each and every one of them but every time there is another announcement the more depressed and obsessed I seem to get about having a baby

One day we will have our baby in our arms and this pain will be a distant memory but one thing will be for sure our child/children will know how very much they were wanted

Baby2867 · Apr 16th, 2012, 20:32 PM

I know this all too well.
Friends would announce their pregnancies and I would go to the bathroom and cry, feeling jealous, and angry, and upset with myself for not being happy for my friends.

Two situations that stand out
1) After already trying for a year, a friend got pregnant on her honeymoon

2) A few weeks ago my Doorman who is not married told me he has a baby coming in June with a friend. They decided that if they weren't married by a certain time they would have a baby together. How long did they try? Not even a month of "trying", THEY HAD SEX ONCE!!

3) Don't even get me started on snooki...

I know it is so hard, there is no rhyme or reason sometimes. Just try to focus on yourself and try not to compare yourself to other people.
It may also help to let some people close to you know what your going through. This baby making can drive you insane, believe me, I have!

Keep up the good work and stay positive. I need a dose of my own advise lol!

Casper72 · Apr 17th, 2012, 15:28 PM

I can totally empathize with you all. My husband and I haven't been together for a very long time, but we sure had to wait a long time to find each other and got married on our 1 year anniversary. We decided that we wanted to have a child together so he had a vas reversal. We've now been trying for 10 months. His ex wife, who in my opinion is not a very good mother to the 2 children they have together, started seeing some guy and within 2 months accidentally got pregnant. We are married and planning, spending a lot of money on procedures because we want nothing more than to have a baby together and she goes out and gets knocked up the second month? The best part is, she doesn't even like the guy and they are not together now, not even dating anymore. How is that fair?!?

Casper72 · Apr 17th, 2012, 15:30 PM

I don't have any words of wisdom for you other than to believe that what is supposed to happen will and while none of us may understand the reasons now, some day we will. Keep the faith ladies. (try to)

purpleflossy · Apr 17th, 2012, 16:17 PM

hi, i feel the same, i have had to loose over a stone, i have lost 2stone now since october, so stick with it you are doing great! :-)
all ok with me, we to have problems on hubby side,
been together 14 years, married for 4. i am to sick of putting facebook etc on for fear of another announcement or pics of a new born.
happy for people but at the same time i feel like screaming, it should be me!!
no one other than close family know we are waiting on icsi etc

Likklegemz · Apr 17th, 2012, 16:35 PM

I'm not at that stage yet, tend to take myself off and have a cry! :'(

2 years ttc and have just been referred forr IVF due to mild haldrosanpix - life's just not fair

lbm2009 · Apr 17th, 2012, 16:52 PM

I feel really guilty one of my best friends had a baby two weeks ago and I still haven't been round. I just don't know how I will react I already made her cry when she told me she was pregnant cos I told her she was so lucky to be able to have a baby.
The last christening I went to I left in floods of tears because when I was leaving my husbands aunty said " I hope it your turn soon" agghhhh how insensitive and rub salt into my wounds.
Im so pleased you girls are here to listen because I feel i have to be strong around everyone else.

Apr 16th, 2012, 13:22 PM	#1
lbm2009 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 167	if one more person announces their pregnancy im going to scream i have a bad case of green eyed monster, theres so many friends and colleagues announcing their pregnancies there are very few people who know about our fertility problems and i would like to keep it that way. Right now i feel so depressed and fed up. My husband has azoospermia and i have to loose weight before they will let us continue with treatment, 9lbs to go (1stone 10lb gone since xmas) so theres a glimmer of hope there. i just cant help but wish we didnt have to go through this. Some of my friends havent been with their partners five minutes and they are having children together, i have been with my husband 12 years, we have so much to offer a baby and have had the chance taken away from us. ahh that feels better needed a rant and a good cry....

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Apr 16th, 2012, 13:31 PM	#2
Melbram Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: North Wales Posts: 599	Hi lbm2009 I know how you feel! it took one of my friends 4 weeks to get pregnant and she already has 2 children, one of my friends had her baby 2 days ago, another due in 3 weeks then niece or nephew due in June OH and I have been together 8 years now - TTC for 2 years. We have been diagnosed with male infertitility hoping to start IVF probably with ICSI in May/June It is so unfair how some people get pregnant at the drop of a hat and most of the time its unplanned and they have nothing in place to provide for a child - I know it isnt their fault we have these problems and I truely am happy for each and every one of them but every time there is another announcement the more depressed and obsessed I seem to get about having a baby One day we will have our baby in our arms and this pain will be a distant memory but one thing will be for sure our child/children will know how very much they were wanted

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Apr 16th, 2012, 20:32 PM	#3
Baby2867 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 185	I know this all too well. Friends would announce their pregnancies and I would go to the bathroom and cry, feeling jealous, and angry, and upset with myself for not being happy for my friends. Two situations that stand out 1) After already trying for a year, a friend got pregnant on her honeymoon 2) A few weeks ago my Doorman who is not married told me he has a baby coming in June with a friend. They decided that if they weren't married by a certain time they would have a baby together. How long did they try? Not even a month of "trying", THEY HAD SEX ONCE!! 3) Don't even get me started on snooki... I know it is so hard, there is no rhyme or reason sometimes. Just try to focus on yourself and try not to compare yourself to other people. It may also help to let some people close to you know what your going through. This baby making can drive you insane, believe me, I have! Keep up the good work and stay positive. I need a dose of my own advise lol!

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Apr 17th, 2012, 15:28 PM	#4
Casper72 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Washington State Posts: 649	I can totally empathize with you all. My husband and I haven't been together for a very long time, but we sure had to wait a long time to find each other and got married on our 1 year anniversary. We decided that we wanted to have a child together so he had a vas reversal. We've now been trying for 10 months. His ex wife, who in my opinion is not a very good mother to the 2 children they have together, started seeing some guy and within 2 months accidentally got pregnant. We are married and planning, spending a lot of money on procedures because we want nothing more than to have a baby together and she goes out and gets knocked up the second month? The best part is, she doesn't even like the guy and they are not together now, not even dating anymore. How is that fair?!?

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Apr 17th, 2012, 15:30 PM	#5
Casper72 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Washington State Posts: 649	I don't have any words of wisdom for you other than to believe that what is supposed to happen will and while none of us may understand the reasons now, some day we will. Keep the faith ladies. (try to)

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Apr 17th, 2012, 16:17 PM	#6
purpleflossy Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Wales Posts: 84	hi, i feel the same, i have had to loose over a stone, i have lost 2stone now since october, so stick with it you are doing great! :-) all ok with me, we to have problems on hubby side, been together 14 years, married for 4. i am to sick of putting facebook etc on for fear of another announcement or pics of a new born. happy for people but at the same time i feel like screaming, it should be me!! no one other than close family know we are waiting on icsi etc

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Apr 17th, 2012, 16:35 PM	#7
Likklegemz Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Liverpool UK Posts: 832	I'm not at that stage yet, tend to take myself off and have a cry! :'( 2 years ttc and have just been referred forr IVF due to mild haldrosanpix - life's just not fair

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Apr 17th, 2012, 16:52 PM	#8
lbm2009 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 167	I feel really guilty one of my best friends had a baby two weeks ago and I still haven't been round. I just don't know how I will react I already made her cry when she told me she was pregnant cos I told her she was so lucky to be able to have a baby. The last christening I went to I left in floods of tears because when I was leaving my husbands aunty said " I hope it your turn soon" agghhhh how insensitive and rub salt into my wounds. Im so pleased you girls are here to listen because I feel i have to be strong around everyone else.

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