I am so upset right now. We miscarried our first pregnancy last July, but because of not knowing better and a stupid doctor, I bled for months and finally had a D&C in Sept. Our new dr had us take provera twice to regulate my cycles. I am irregular naturally with 2-3 months cycles. In December it looked like I ovulated but my period came on its own almost like a regular 30 day cycle. In Jan and Feb I didn't seem to ovulate, then had a 2 week long period. Our dr discovered I had pcos and gave me metformin and provera. She wasn't clear on when to call her, just said to let her know I was on my period so I could start my first round of clomid. So I called today on day 7, the last day, and they told me it was too late to take clomid. I was not aware that cd are counted from day 1 being when AF starts. I know she wanted me to do CD 5-9. It is just heartbreaking to wait another month now. I don't understand why starting clomid 2 days late would hurt, when I normally don't ovulate but maybe twice a year as it is.

I called my husband in tears, and while he is normally really supportive, he just kept droning on and on about how I should not stress or get upset and a month is not a big deal and I should not be focused on pregnancy so much. I am 32 and we both really want kids(he was pushing before I was to start trying), but I feel like I have waited almost a year to have a shot at getting pregnant. My husband is not really taking an active role, just keeps telling me to stop being so focused on it. I basically just want him to say, "It will be ok. I can understand why you are frustrated, but in 3 or 4 months when we are pregnant this will all be behind us." On top of that, he mentioned that we should have a plan on how long we are going to try(we are just really starting to try now) and know that in a year or 2 we are going to give up and seek out adoption or fostering, claiming it would help us have a better timeframe. To me, giving a timeframe when we haven't even really started makes it more stressful. It is added pressure to know I only have 12 months or 18 months to make this work or else. I am worried if I am too emotional or too stressed he is going to think that to be a male and "fix the problem" is to stop trying to get pregnant and look at alternatives.

Hi,

Didn't want to read and run. I am really sorry to hear you missed your chance this cycle. I can really symapthise with a month feeling like a lifetime at the moment. Your doctor should have been a lot clearer on when to call as cycle days do make a difference with Clomid. Having said that, different doctors prescribe it on different days. For instance, i take it CD2-6. I guess next month you will be calling on the day you get AF?!

As for your hubby, it does sound like he is trying to be the man and 'fix it'. They don't get that we just need sympathy and there is no fix. Explain the deadline is very unhelpful, i would hate to have that hanging over my head. In my head, we are trying until we suceed!

Clomid worked for me last time, so i am keeping my fingers crossed for us both