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Old May 29th, 2012, 06:12 AM   1
Lynzeigh
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Invited to a lone parent group interview by Jobcentre


Has anyone else had one of these offered to them also? Did you attend it, my baby is only 4 months old at the moment and already it seems they want top harrass me about looking for a job, it's not worth my while I think and is a darn nuisance at this time attending a group interview with a young EBF baby who feeds often.

Honestly I plannned to be a SAHM until baby is school age as finding a job would be pointless, the wage would not even cover childcare costs so I would be worse off for sure and I am a family kind of person who strongly believes in staying with my baby while they are very young, these early days will be gone forever soon so I want to enjoy this precious time with my baby.

I cannot bear the thought of someone else looking after my baby and cannot trust anyone to be honest.

So my question is, did anyone else get offered one of these appointments to have group interview with personal advisor, what was the group interview like and is it ok to take the baby there with me if I have to attend?

Thank you. PS also want to add that I am hoping to move abroad permanently once baby is 18 months old so don't really want to commit to getting a job etc, I have so much preparation to do already.

I hope my post does not offend working mothers, I have nothing against you but it just isn't for me personally as an individual. Many thanks



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 06:16 AM   2
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I have the exact same feelings as you, I intend to stay at home to look after my boy ntil he goes to school too. I didn't have a child to pay someone else to bring them up for me and i'd hate to think i'd miss out on all those firsts too!

So if I was offered one i'd tell them where to go shove their interview!! hahaha!



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 16:42 PM   3
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I feel like telling them where to go too lol x



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 16:47 PM   4
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I'm confused. Why are they offering you an interview if you're not looking for a job? Are you married like your ticker says? If so, isn't your husband providing for the family? If that's the case I'd just tell them and get them to take you off whatever list they have you on.

If your husband isn't providing or you're not with the father, then I'm sorry to say but I think you should go. We all have to provide for our kids and I'm sure most parents would rather stay home with them. I personally hate that I have to go to work too but needs must.



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 16:52 PM   5
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Before telling them where to shove it, make sure it's not a mandatory interview and not going will stop the money. They won't pressure you into looking for work. They would just ask you what your plans are. You can normally take your babies into job centres. Part of claiming benefit from the government does involve having to interact with the job centre though.



 
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Old Dec 23rd, 2012, 19:35 PM   6
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Thank you the lady was nice you were right they just said its to make sure I dont feel "Left on the shelf" and to check that I have plans in the future, they understand and told me not to feel like they are pressurizing me to work.



 
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Old Dec 23rd, 2012, 21:51 PM   7
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Why are they inviting you to a lone parent interview when you're married?



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Old Dec 24th, 2012, 03:47 AM   8
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If you're married (whether legally or religiously) and living with your husband then he has a legal duty to provide for you and your son, it isn't allowed to claim benefits and pretend to be a lone parent, in fact it's fraud.



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 08:37 AM   9
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He lives abroad and does not support me at all money wise.



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 08:49 AM   10
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I must say I agree with Amygdala. I'm fortunate (in one respect) enough to have OH supporting us (even though I'd probably be better off financially if it was just me!) but I feel there's something really rewarding about being independent and self sufficient. I think it's wonderful that they've offered it to you, shamefully I do have a little gripe about those who get everything handed to them for years and years, but at the same time I totally agree that leaving LO so young would feel awful!

Personally I feel they should be offering this when LO is around 7-9 months ish, that seems to be the time most people's maternity pay etc stops and I think that's fairer to 'single' mums to allow them the same chance to have time off before trying to push them into work and also fairer to some working mums so they don't feel put out that they miss time with their babies to work while others get to have more time with them and have more support. That's just my opinion though, hope this doesn't offend anyone - not my intention x



 
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