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Old May 29th, 2012, 09:29 AM   1
Swanny
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Sick of people asking when you are having another!!


Doesn't it do your head in?

I just think it's so rude! I'm really suprised at some people who have been asking me blunty if I am planning more and saying when is the next one coming along!

I had 3 m/c's before I had LO and some people know about it but they seem to think that just because I know have a LO that everything is fine and that I can somehow just magic another baby out of no where.

When I know that in reality I have to be psychologically ready for the fact that I may experience more problems when trying to concieve no.2.

Sorry about the rant, just think people don't think and it annoys me.



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 09:33 AM   2
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Yep,same here,I have Pcos it took 2 1/2 years to get dd and I'm not going through that heartache every month in a hurry. Also I'm not as confident as I first thought,every day I wonder if I'm doing things right.think this might be it for me. I'm not sad about it I'm blessed with dd.



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 09:41 AM   3
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Yep. It really bugs me because me and oh have pretty much decided on not having another one due to what happened last time and on going health problems. Someone really upset me the other day saying when are we having another one when I replied were not he said you have to what if you both died she would be alone! I was gob smacked! It could kill me having another baby so then she wouldn't have a brother/sister or me! Sorry for the rant xx



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 09:44 AM   4
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Yep. It really bugs me because me and oh have pretty much decided on not having another one due to what happened last time and on going health problems. Someone really upset me the other day saying when are we having another one when I replied were not he said you have to what if you both died she would be alone! I was gob smacked! It could kill me having another baby so then she wouldn't have a brother/sister or me! Sorry for the rant xx
I can't believe someone would think it's ok to say something like that!!! Arrrrrrgh people are really stupid!



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 10:13 AM   5
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Don't worry, they stop when if you have another one of the opposite sex to your first. I believe they carry on if you have the same sex as your first asking if you'll "try again".



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Old May 29th, 2012, 10:21 AM   6
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Don't worry, they stop when if you have another one of the opposite sex to your first. I believe they carry on if you have the same sex as your first asking if you'll "try again".
When my mum had my sister after me, someone asked her what she'd had, when she said girl they told her 'never mind, you can try again!' my mum was quite happy with two girls. Also when my Sis found out she was having a second boy people kept asking if she was disappointed it wasn't a girl. People can be really rude.



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 10:30 AM   7
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It annoys me too. I'd been TTC #2 since last May, and had a MC in December. Now my DH has decided he doesn't want any more kids so we have stopped trying. I've lost count of how many people have asked, I think I'll tell them the truth just to shut them up



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Old May 29th, 2012, 11:20 AM   8
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I don't understand people asking me this. This is people with children of their own so I would think they would understand. I always say, "Well not until I'm done with nursing school!!" I had to take a semester off from school which was an awesome time to bond with my LO but I really want to finish school.



 
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Old May 29th, 2012, 11:28 AM   9
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It's such an insensitive thing to ask! I wouldn't dream of asking someone that.

I always wanted 2 girls, I'd have been happy with boys or one of each but 2 girls is what I used to dream about and just what I always imagined me having so when I actually had 2 girls I was over the moon. But when we told people we were having another girl we got comments like 'ah never mind, third time lucky' - wtf, like I'm not lucky to have my 2 girls?!? And 'so when will you be trying for a boy' when we say we're done it's always 'really?!?, don't you want a boy' - its not that we don't want a boy, but we already have what we wanted! Those comments nearly always come from people with no kids or people with one of each. It really frustrates me because it's as if I shouldn't be content with what I have, like they're not good enough!

Mini rant over

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Old May 29th, 2012, 12:19 PM   10
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A couple weeks ago someone asked me if DH and I were trying to have another... LO is only 4 months!! I texted my best friend about it later, and was like, Since when is it ever appropriate to ask anyone about that?!

Let alone the fact I'm terrified of getting pregnant again, after the hard time I had before LO. Like you said, I can't just magic another baby



 
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