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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:07 PM   1
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Worried about behaviour at 8 months old...warranted??


I'm a fIrst time Mum and I'm not sure if what my 8 month old is doing is normal or not and if I am dealing with it in the correct way or not!
Ella has started flapping her arms a lot, seems when she's excited/happy and when she's frustrated. She has also started getting really angry about stuff, like having a nappy changed or being stopped from doing something naughty/dangerous. Sometimes she grabs my face really hard or smacks me for no reason. Is this "normal"?? I have not been around any children of this age before so have NO idea if it is or not. When she does something like this I tell her "no, that's naughty!" and give her a stern look. Is this the right way?! I'm so confused! I had no idea she would behave like this at this early age!! Help!



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:08 PM   2
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Yup, normal

Also, at 8 months, they don't really get the word "No." I found just redirecting or sitting Alex aside for a moment worked best



 
Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:11 PM   3
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Yep, normal as normal can be. I did the same as Ozzi, but I also say no also so it becomes an association, (well in theory, I have yet for it actually to work )



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:14 PM   4
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Mine does this, my first was an angel so he seems like some psychopathic child in comparison! He grabs my face and pinches my cheeks so hard, scratches me ,pulls my hair, smacks my face... And looks like he's enjoying it! Hoping it's a phase and hell become a bit more lovey soon! It's all very normal I'm sure, I've heard a lot of babies are the same!
Nappy changes are impossible now, he screams the place down every time, same with getting dressed.

Stressful time this time around!!!



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:15 PM   5
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Thanks for the replies! I've been really worried, thinking I've done something wrong!



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:20 PM   6
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My nearly 10 month old is the same. She pinches, hits my face, grabs and throws herself backwards when angry.

I Googled her behaviour as I was getting worried about her violence! It appears that at this age they don't understand that it hurts people when they are rough. Mind you, my little girl seems to swipe harder and get angry if I tell her no.

As frustrating as it is I tell her "gently" whilst using her hand to stroke my face. If she gets annoyed and does it again I put her to one side where she can't reach me to do it again.

I do worry about her around other children as she is rough and grabs faces/pulls hair. She made my friends little boy cry the other day.

I'm seriously hoping she grows out of it very soon. I had/have similar issues with my little boy as well and my nerves can't take much more

Good job I love them both so, so much!!!



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:23 PM   7
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My LO is about the same age as yours and sometimes acts like this too. It seems like she's being naughty but I don't think she really knows what she's doing. I try to avoid saying 'NO' to her though because I think that it just teaches them to eventually say 'NO' back to you all the time (there's a reason why toddlers like the word no so much!) If she hurts me I usually say to her something like 'be gentle please' Obviously she doesn't understand yet but hopefully eventually she'll get it. It's often a good idea to tell kids what you'd like them to do rather than what they shouldn't do so for example instead of saying 'don't hit' you say 'be gentle' or instead of saying 'don't run' you say 'walk sensibly please' It's like if someone tells you not to think of an elephant then that's automatically what you think of so if you tell a child not to run then all they can think about is running! All this is just advice I've had from others as I have no experience yet as LO is only 8months! I'm trying to get into good habits now with LO even if she's too little to understand!



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:28 PM   8
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I think it's just cos they can't understand your reaction, they won't link a stern face to you being upset and process that to mean 'I should stop doing this'. Reaction is just attention to a baby that young so it probably becomes a fun game. I just used to show my son how to do something nicer so if he's pulling my hair I just help him stroke it nicely instead basically diverting the situation. He loves funny faces my cross face would prob spur him on even more! Obviously as they get older they will learn but I thik if you overuse 'no' they'll just switch off from it.



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:29 PM   9
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Thanks again everyone

I guess its also because I love her so much and I feel upset that she hurts me. I really do understand that she doesn't know what she's doing!!



 
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Old Jun 10th, 2012, 16:32 PM   10
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I think it's just cos they can't understand your reaction, they won't link a stern face to you being upset and process that to mean 'I should stop doing this'. Reaction is just attention to a baby that young so it probably becomes a fun game. I just used to show my son how to do something nicer so if he's pulling my hair I just help him stroke it nicely instead basically diverting the situation. He loves funny faces my cross face would prob spur him on even more! Obviously as they get older they will learn but I thik if you overuse 'no' they'll just switch off from it.
Yes, I was worried about her associating it with attention and that's why I wondered if ignoring would help?! But I know she's still young so I won't get hung up on it. Many of you are having/have had issues at this age so i feel better now that she's not the only one! :-)



 
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