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Old Jul 20th, 2012, 18:12 PM   1
Mummy_to_be87
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Stupid feelings that wont go away!!


I love my baby girl so so much and I watch her grow and play and become her own person and it is so wonderful, she is amazing and I am so thankful and blessed to be chosen to be her mummy!! I cannot believe how perfect she is and I love being her mummy!! I always have had feelings of ''what if....'' and lately these feelings are starting to ruin things for me!! I worry that something might happen and my gorgeous little girl wont have me around, how would she continue to grow up without me? Would she have the life I always wanted for her? What if she got abused because I wasnt around? What if...what if....what if!!!!! I hate these feelings and they make me feel so down, I just want to be here for my LO for as long into her life as possible, I would love to meet her children some day and be here to offer advice etc!! Then I worry about what if something happened and my gorgeous little girl was taken from me!! That hurts me real bad!! How can I get over this horrible feeling?! I look into my health for things that could happen to me! I had a chest infection recently and now Im paranoid that I am going to get something else, I worry that I would be taken into hospital and have to leave my LO at home, how would she cope if I was in hospital for a week etc?! I spoke to my GP who said that it is normal for mothers and not to worry about it, she said that there are two ways to think about it, one that my LO wont have any recollection of me until she turns 3!!!!! That upset me...I would want her to remember me and two dont think about it until or if something was to happen!! Can someone help me with this?



 
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Old Jul 20th, 2012, 18:15 PM   2
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Oh my god. I could've written the exact same thing. Last night I could NOT shake the fear of SIDS. Ryland is over 5 months and I've never worried about it before. Then all of a sudden last night, I couldn't stop worrying.

I talk about everything to my bestfriend and husband and talking has really helped me with scary thoughts and dreams etc.

I would suggest that No worries mama is happens to the lot of us. Everything will be fine.



 
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Old Jul 20th, 2012, 18:24 PM   3
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I think this is quite normal but if it is really worrying you (to the point that it is affecting your life), then perhaps see your gp again as anxiety can be treated.



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Old Jul 20th, 2012, 22:56 PM   4
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I think its normal too. Its just knowing you're responsible for your precious baby and wanting the best for her. worrying something will go wrong. I imagine most mums feel similar x



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Old Jul 20th, 2012, 23:08 PM   5
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Yup, could have written this myself. Read the thread about the baby fitting from his sick at night and now I worry about that. I worry if someone has him in the car that they will forget to take him out especially as it's been sooooooo hot here. I worry when he sleeps too long or sleeps too still. I read newspapers of nanny abuse and now the Colorado shooting where a 3 month old baby was shot point blank at the batman movie premier. I worry he's growing up too fast and I don't want to miss anything! I get so excited when he reaches milestones then sad that he's getting to be a big boy and soon won't want to cuddle . I worry if he will do well in school. I worry if he will get ADD like most of our families...

It is normal. I just try to capture all the memories to keep with me forever!



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2012, 00:00 AM   6
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There is such a thing as postpartum anxiety.
Maybe that's what's going on?
Your fears are reasonable, understandable and common but if they are so bad as to interfere with you normal functioning, check with a doctor =)



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2012, 00:31 AM   7
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I sometimes worry what would happen to LO if something happened to me and OH. Like what if we had a car accident or something. We had a chat together about it and thought about who we would want to raise LO for us and we're going to write a will to make this clear. I've also started doing a photo album with all my favourite photos of LO since she was born - I was even thinking with that that if something happened to me she would know I made it and that would help her know me a little. I thought about writing a journal about her that she could keep but I'm not sure where I would find the time. Anyway, I think what you're worrying about are natural worries as a mother, and there are some practical things you can do to help a little x



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2012, 14:58 PM   8
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I am seriously thinking about writing a will as well, especially since I emmigrated to the US and my whole family lives in a different country.
I have a journal that I keep for her. I am planning on giving it to her when she's old enough, but if anything would happen, it's a nice thing for her to have.



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2012, 17:02 PM   9
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Aww thank you ladies, I feel much better now I have read other women have the same feelings, I think the journal will be a brilliant idea, would it matter if I only started at 5 months :/ I think I might look into a will as well and write down everything I would like for my LO if something were to happen



 
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