I am full-time working mom and my 8 month old son is in daycare away from 8am-5:00pm. He has suddenly started rejecting the bottle and will now skip out on milk all day and wait for me to get home to breastfeed him. It sort of happened gradually with him taking less and less breastmilk at daycare, and now he just outright refuses the bottle. They tried giving him breastmilk in a sippy cup too and he gets very upset. The only successful bottle we've had was in the middle of the night a few nights ago when he was tired and "forgot" he didn't like bottles anymore.
He is a pro at eating solids, so hes very happy at daycare and hes not starving. He is self feeding lots of veggies, fruit, and recently I start giving a little cheese. Daycare will spoon feed yogurt if I send that. They always offer milk first before solids.
I'm worried he's not going to get enough milk, even if I nurse him before and after daycare and before bed. Is this common? Should I keep sending bottles to daycare and have them keep trying, and should I keep pumping at work at that time?
Maybe if you try the next size up teat, the milk might not be coming out fast enough and it's just too much work for him. Or if that doesn't work maybe a softer teat I have had to do both of these with my LO and she is fine with bottles again now.
ill give that a try... we are using Medela Medium flow, and i dont know if they make a Fast flow. I havent been able to find one. My husband today tried poking the hole larger to make it flow faster... i guess ill have to see how he did when i pick him up today to see if that helps.
Its been a week now since my last post. He's still pretty much refusing bottles. Sometimes daycare can get him to take 2-3 oz the whole day while I'm gone. If he's with a babysitter at home they cant get him to take any.
I have been nursing him as soon as I get home from work, plus bedtime, middle of night waking, and morning... so he's nursing from me 3 or 4 times depending on if he wakes up in the middle of the night. (5am, 7am, 5pm, 7pm). Plus I send him to daycare with yogurt or cheese to make sure he gets some dairy.
He seems so young to be going all day without breastmilk, but its like he waiting for me. If he has a babysitter he will just totally skip his bedtime bottle and go to bed happily without it. He's happy and healthy and seems fine. Should I stop worrying?
On the weekends he nurses from me plenty of times and eats a little less solids.
Should I stop pumping and stop sending him with bottles of breastmilk to school. They end up pouring like 4 oz of breastmilk down the drain everyday so i feel like I'm wasting my time.
Sounds like my daughter! Well, it's not a constant thing, but over the past 2-3 months really she's slowly decreased her formula intake. Some reasons she drank less were teeth coming through and when she had the sniffles for around 5 days. When she had the sniffles we could barely get 6oz in her. But, even when she's feeling well she rarely ever drinks more than 13-17oz a day. This is a huge change to a few months earlier when she was having double that on average.
Judging by your baby's age and the same ongoing situation with my daughter I'd say he's slowly going off milk. Once solids are given regularly it seems this is pretty common anytime between 7 months to a year. My mom said the same happened with my sister and me around the same time and a friend of mine said the same happened with her kids. I too was and still am a bit worried about it as I've heard they should have at least 17oz of formula a day under 1 year but that's been rare for my daughter lately. In the end you can't force it if they refuse after all.
So, making sure he gets dairy in other forms, like yogurt or a formula mixed oatmeal type puree (not sure the word), that's the best you can do. As long as he seems himself I would try not to get too worried although I know it's hard. This transition onto solids is a big step and one that has taken me by surprise as she used to be such the milk queen.
If you dont feel more full after work then I have to agree with pp I would say he is weaning himself off milk and he probably feeds more from you on weekends as a comfort thing although if you are finding you are more full than you used to be he may just be reverse cycling.
I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry I am sure he knows what he is doing.
8 months is pretty early for a baby to be self-weaning. Maybe it's time to try a different kind of cup? I know some people have recommended doidy cups for BF babies.
We have tried several kinds of bottles for breastmilk. We have also tried a few kinds of sippy cups and even juust a regular cup.
Daycare has been able to get him to drink like 2or 3 oz during the day, but that is all. it doesnt seem to matter what cup it is in...
I think im just going to go with it and nurse him a lot when I'm home with him morning and night, and if he wants to go the whole daycare time with very little milk I guess its ok since I will still nurse him at those other times.
My oldest was 11 months when I went back to work and he never took EBM in any form after that, despite having previously taken a bottle no problem. He refused all bottles, cups, etc. and refused both EBM and cow's milk. So he basically just dropped his daytime feeds but started waking in the night again for a feed when he'd previously been sleeping through. I guess some babies just do this.
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