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Old Nov 11th, 2012, 07:59 AM   1
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Rant - Feeling so hopeless about sleep!


Ladies, I just need to vent. I'm feeling so hopeless about my LO's sleep. I don't know what to do anymore.

She woke hourly until she was about 10 weeks old. She was a reflux baby and just not a great sleeper all around. DH and I used to sleep in shirts when we were both on leave.

Things got better around 12 weeks and she started sleeping in 7-9 hour stretches. Then 4 month regression hit and that fell apart. Even so, we had some tough nights but she generally would still do a nice long stretch at the beginning of the night of 5/6 hours. Every mom I know assured me it would pass.

We're at 5.5 months now and had wake-ups down to 1-3 times a night. Not perfect, but bearable. Friday night she was up 3 times, but for an entire hour in the middle of the night. Last night it was Every. Single. Hour. On the dot. These nights seem to be increasing recently.

I'm so confused. She goes to bed early, drowsy but awake and seems to know how to self-soothe. She takes good naps. Usually 3 a day of 45 minutes to 1.5 hours. We make sure she gets play/stimulation during the day. She eats extremely well during the day (five 6 or 7 ounce bottles) and we've started solids. I've read every book I can get my hands on. I've even talked to a "sleep coach". Nothing seems to help or make a difference. I tried some CC a few weeks ago and it worked for a few days, but things seemed to get worse after that so I stopped and assumed she wasn't ready.

I guess I'm not really looking for advice, just venting. I feel so totally hopeless right now. Every day I'm so tired I feel ill. I feel like I am losing it and don't feel like I have the energy to be a good mother. LO and I had so much fun yesterday! We went swimming, had a nice long walk around the park and played in her new highchair. She was smiling all day long. Naps were good. I thought for sure she would sleep well, but it was a terrible night.

I work a 55 hour work week and my performance is slipping. My relationship with DH is suffering because we argue about this (he wants to get more aggressive about sleep training). I cry at the drop of a hat. I really didn't think I would be in this position at 5.5 months. With a newborn, okay, sure... I'm not even looking for sleep through the night. Just some consistency and a few good blocks of sleep! I know this will pass eventually, but right now I feel there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Just working on surviving, I guess.

Thanks for listening!



 
Old Nov 11th, 2012, 08:05 AM   2
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So sorry... but I remember 6 months was another doozy It did pass.



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2012, 08:06 AM   3
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So sorry... but I remember 6 months was another doozy It did pass.
Thanks Aliss. I know you understand. Hope you and the little one are doing well!

This "sleep coach" did say 4-5 months was basically one big "Wonder Week". I just hate to have expectations that things will improve if they won't. Better to be realistic.



 
Old Nov 11th, 2012, 08:09 AM   4
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Noelle610 - i know how you feel, my boy is nearly 8 months old and at first he was doing great at sleeping. He got to 6 months old and it all went downhill. He wakes up every night almost every hour on the dot, i don't know how he does it. He just doesn't seem to want to sleep. I also feel like that im losing it .

I just don't know what has happened. There is no difference in his bedtime time routine. Im just hoping it gets better



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2012, 08:23 AM   5
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Noelle610 - i know how you feel, my boy is nearly 8 months old and at first he was doing great at sleeping. He got to 6 months old and it all went downhill. He wakes up every night almost every hour on the dot, i don't know how he does it. He just doesn't seem to want to sleep. I also feel like that im losing it .

I just don't know what has happened. There is no difference in his bedtime time routine. Im just hoping it gets better
It's so frustrating when you just can't figure it out! If I knew the "why" of it, I think it would be easier to cope.

For me, quite honestly, I think I just have a "bad" (hate to use that term) sleeper. I know it just comes more naturally to some babies. When I accept it, it's easier. I truly struggle more when I'm looking for the solution and nothing works.

I was speaking with a client the other day who was encouraging. He told me his first child slept through the night at 6 weeks. He thought it was because they had a great routine and he was doing something right. He parented the next baby in exactly the same way... and he didn't sleep through the night until he was well over a year old and even then it wasn't consistent. He basically, said "All kids are different and you're doing nothing wrong". That helps to hear.



 
Old Nov 11th, 2012, 09:01 AM   6
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Hi ladies, may I join this pity party? I have a terrible sleeper and at times I feel so hopeless. It doesn't help that others around me have terrific babies who have figured out how to sleep. At first I was optimistic when people said he'd get better after 6 weeks, then 12 weeks, then 6 months...he is now 7 months.

I'm in your camp, I can't figure it out and feel like I've tried everything. Hoping things will get better soon.



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Old Nov 11th, 2012, 09:10 AM   7
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Awhh hun it will pass. At least that's what I keep telling myself. You know what a bad sleeper Lilly is, and every time I get up with her in the night I just take a deep breath and keep telling myself this won't last forever. SHE WILL SLEEP! Eventually..
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Old Nov 11th, 2012, 09:13 AM   8
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Hi ladies, may I join this pity party? I have a terrible sleeper and at times I feel so hopeless. It doesn't help that others around me have terrific babies who have figured out how to sleep. At first I was optimistic when people said he'd get better after 6 weeks, then 12 weeks, then 6 months...he is now 7 months.

I'm in your camp, I can't figure it out and feel like I've tried everything. Hoping things will get better soon.
I'm right there with you! That's the tough thing with those ambiguous "it gets better" dates. Everyone is telling me things will work themselves out by 6 months, but I don't want to get my hopes up for a random age that won't mean anything to my LO.



 
Old Nov 11th, 2012, 09:14 AM   9
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Awhh hun it will pass. At least that's what I keep telling myself. You know what a bad sleeper Lilly is, and every time I get up with her in the night I just take a deep breath and keep telling myself this won't last forever. SHE WILL SLEEP! Eventually..
LOL.
When I'm feeling sane, that's my mantra! They won't be waking us at 18, right?! You have such a good attitude, Jessica. Hope it rubs off on me.



 
Old Nov 11th, 2012, 09:35 AM   10
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I really feel for you US ladies going back to work so soon. At 5.5 months my oldest was a nightmare but I didn't have to work! All I know is that when I went back full time when she was 10 months she did sleep through and has ever since. No point to post, just sympathy!



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