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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 17:49 PM   31
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I had my MIL and mum help out the first three weeks. They'd sit with her first thing in the morning while I grabbed three hours uninterrupted sleep between her feeds. They also made lunch and dinner for me so I didn't have to worry about feeding myself. They also watched her whilst I had a shower and made myself feel human again. By three weeks post partum I'd largely recovered from labour and was then able to cope with her three hourly wakings pretty well til she started STTN at 10 weeks.

No one has been there to help me since her 4 month sleep regression set in and now at 9 months her sleep is the worst it has EVER been. We are beyond exhausted, but somehow manage to get on with things. The parent in you will just accept that sleep is a thing of the past until they're ready to sleep.

(We are contemplating sleep training now though....)



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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 17:58 PM   32
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Honestly, it was a freaking nightmare. It honestly felt like I was losing my mind. But the thing is, you have no choice, so you just get through it. About 10 days in there was a week where my husband and I reckoned I had five hours of sleep - IN A WEEK. How is that humanly possible? I was exclusively pumping and had to do it something like every two hours for 20-30 min, so with that and all the preparation and storage afterwards and sterilising, etc. I'd have like 45 minutes to rest before I had to start all over again. But I'd be so nervous about SIDS or couldn't sleep 'cause the baby was crying (or *I* was crying... those hormones are crazy) that I'd manage maybe 15 minutes kip a couple of times a day. I think I had a permanent headache for three months.

It was only my husband and I, we didn't have any help, so if you do have help available then it may be much easier.



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 18:14 PM   33
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It's the hardest part about being a mom bands down... I knew it was hard but didn't no how hard .. My babe is almost 3 months and still waking up 4 times a night and she's In bed late and usually up for the day at 7am not much sleep for me .., my boyfriend works ngohts and sleeps all day ... So not much help he was off for 2 weeks and helped me with the night ones we both felt fabulous ... Now I'm back to feeling tired some one on here said you find a way to cope and you really do !



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 18:17 PM   34
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It's refreshing to hear a woman who is still pregnant thing about what it's going to be like when lo arrives as I know when I was pregnant I didn't even think about it and it was a shock when lo arrived. I'm not bothered about the lack of sleep as much as I'm a light sleeper but on top of that your emotional, in shock and trying to bond with lo it can be hard. But us women are made for this and we can cope! Remember lots of women go on to have more children. Look back at this post when lo arrives xx



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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 18:23 PM   35
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Oh bumpbear your lucky you had all that help. But sometimes your best chucked in the deep end!! X



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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 19:32 PM   36
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Horrific with bottles but easy with breastfeeding.



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 19:33 PM   37
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Oh bumpbear your lucky you had all that help. But sometimes your best chucked in the deep end!! X
I know! I am forever indebted to our two mothers for the help they gave us. I couldnt have asked for anything more of them! In a way, we're lucky we live across an ocean from them because they flew out especially for the birth of their grandchild, and as they had nothing else to do, they devoted their time to helping me. Fortunately, they are also not overbearing people, so they left me to get on with bonding with my baby and took care of all the day to day practicalities. They were awesome! By the time they left, I was so in tune with my baby I could get on with the other stuff without it being stressful.

OP: if anyone offers to help in this way, take it!



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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 21:08 PM   38
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My LO is almost 6 weeks old and even though the nights are still horrible, me, my OH and baby have a system worked out to make it more manageable. But I won't lie, it is awful. The first 2 weeks were the worst because you are trying to figure it all out and your body is going through a LOT of recovery and adjusting. Tbh, I don't know how people do it by trying to go to sleep at the same then getting up through the night to feed/soothe baby. My OH usually takes over from 8pm-12 or 1am while I sleep, then he sleeps while I handle baby from then until he's home from work. It works pretty well and I am able to get at least 6 hours (4 of those hours being consecutive) of sleep every night, even though I never feel energized anymore during the day. But the amount of energy that babies require is enough to tire anyone out, even if they got 8 hours of sleep in a row every single night. I'm actually glad that I didn't know how awful it would be beforehand, because I probably would have been more scared of what's to come than excited. That being said, I am soooo in love with my baby and wouldn't change a thing. She is perfect and beautiful, but that doesn't mean that I don't question my sanity on a daily basis. Good luck and congrats!



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 22:47 PM   39
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For me, this is still the number one hardest thing about having a baby. My son has had such a rough time getting into a good nightly pattern because of several surgeries and procedures. Just when he gets into a routine, he's back in the hospital and its all screwy again. Frustrating!

Honestly, I havent adapted well and sometimes I want to cry when I finally drift off to sleep only to hear that first little whimper from the crib a moment later. You deal with it though



 
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Old Dec 28th, 2012, 23:05 PM   40
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Your bed will never feel so cozy, lol! Suddenly it felt like we had spent thousands on linens because my bed felt sooooo inviting. The first month or two. Are really hard, I won't lie, then as your body adjusts it gets better. I still get up every 3 hours and I'm quite functional during the day so your body does adapt. It seems that for many, not all, that once you hit 3 months life feels a bit more "normal "



 
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