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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 15:27 PM   11
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Thanks for all the replies and I am in agreence with most of you! I am going to let DH read this!



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 15:28 PM   12
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Please consult the "Evolutionary Parenting" blog for an evidence-based review on CIO as well as a biological guide to normal infant sleep development. Many people make it through child-raising without using it at all. And those who do use it are generally at the end of their tether after months on end of sleep 'problems'. It's not just something you do because "it's done". I have nothing against those who use CIO, and I generally wouldn't post this in response to this kind of question, but it sounds like you're about to do something you might not know very much about and perhaps you think it's a common solution to sleep problems? I would say (imho) it's on the extreme side of sleep parenting and perhaps I could encourage you to learn more about normal infant sleep patterns and routine.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 15:30 PM   13
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LO will be 4 weeks on Sunday (I can't believe it) DH wants to put he in her crib (she sleeps with us ATM) and try to get her on a schedule. I'm all for this, but I'm just not sure about how long we should let her cry for at tis age.
Any advice?
I'll admit I'm in the "never" camp but even those for it, will say she is far too young. You can't teach her anything when object permanence doesn't even exist, she's just so little. She's like a weak helpless little puppy, really no different, milk and warmth is her only source of comfort right now.

If she's with you and you guys aren't happy with the arrangement, you can put the crib right up against the bed where she sleeps now, and slowly transition from there. We're doing this now at 5 months, I find it more age appropriate.

If you leave a 4 week old to cry, she will just hurt her throat and eventually pass out from exhaustion. It would be quite traumatizing, I imagine. We did this at 1 week (from some advice that we shouldn't have taken) and the panic... oh my, I still remember, and it's been almost 3 years. It was the wrong thing to do.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 15:44 PM   14
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 15:48 PM   15
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In my opinion, the age to let them cry it out is NEVER! Please don't make them grow to fast, there is NO NEED for sleep training at this tender newborn age! Do some research, but most sleep training starts at 6 months, I just wouldn't have the heart to do it though....



 
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We just started a bedtime routine this week. I start at 7pm, she is asleep (most of the time) by 8 , on my chest then into her mini crib by my side. We keep the tv and lights off after sundown. I REALLY needed her to learn when nighttime was, and that nighttime is for sleeping. Believe it or not, I think it is working. She slept 4 hours one night, then 5 the next, 5 last night too. Getting her back to sleep when she does wake for feeds has also become easier. Some babies like schedules. LO has been doing very well on her's. You guys may want to try one, it's very early at 4 weeks but a schedule won't harm her...and may make nights easier on you.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 16:13 PM   17
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Please consult the "Evolutionary Parenting" blog for an evidence-based review on CIO as well as a biological guide to normal infant sleep development. Many people make it through child-raising without using it at all. And those who do use it are generally at the end of their tether after months on end of sleep 'problems'. It's not just something you do because "it's done". I have nothing against those who use CIO, and I generally wouldn't post this in response to this kind of question, but it sounds like you're about to do something you might not know very much about and perhaps you think it's a common solution to sleep problems? I would say (imho) it's on the extreme side of sleep parenting and perhaps I could encourage you to learn more about normal infant sleep patterns and routine.
Yes you're correct in saying that I don't know much about it which is why I posted the question. I will definitely check out the blog you suggested. I am not the one wanting to let her CIO or get on the schedule, DH is and Im trying to gather up the evidence to get him to see that she is too little right now and that she needs more time to adjust and just be a baby. I think by 5 or 6 months if she's not settled into a comfortable schedule for all of us then allowing her to cry for some period of time will have to be done, but now is not the time as all of you have confirmed.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 16:19 PM   18
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Its only once LO has got to two that i will leave her for a minute or two. Some times she does this half hearted whine when she thinks shes missing out on something but then settles and goes to sleep. If shes propperly crying il go to her straight away.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 16:22 PM   19
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Hey, its great you asked your question, but as you have got your answers, you can ask a mod to close the thread if you do not want any more replies.



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Old Mar 28th, 2013, 16:27 PM   20
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If you are wanting info for DH this blog post explains not letting babies cry it out from a moms perspective. My DH couldn't understand why I didn't want to do CIO until he read this. http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/

CIO and CC works for some people and may be something to try much later just not yet



 
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