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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 16:31 PM   21
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it changed what he needed while growing up.

first months fall asleep while drinking.

i think at 8 months, or when he stopped falling asleep when drinking we just put him in his bed with thepacifier.

then 10-12 months i had to be in the room holding his hand to fall asleep.

12 months until now he is just fine by himself.

Ds2 is 7 weeks. waiting for him to fall asleep with the pacifier. i put him awake in his bed, coz he gets grumpy if i put him in there asleep, it wakes him up again.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 16:31 PM   22
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We tried PU/PD for a short while but it failed miserably. It was worth a shot, I liked that it didn't involve leaving her to cry but she just didn't respond to it at all.

So we just waited. At around 10 months she was able to self-settle. I will say though that she sometimes needs to fuss a little, not cry, but kind of whine. My biggest mistake was going to her as soon as she made even the slightest sound...I realized eventually that 30 seconds of complaining a bit was all it took for her to fall asleep.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 17:06 PM   23
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At 8 p.m., DH rocks our baby boy to sleep. He still can't "self settle." DH also sleeps on the floor often when lo gets upset. So that works. We both won't do CIO/CC, and DH is fine with sleeping on the floor. We figure he'll self settle in his own time. Oh, but he still does wake at night for a feed, so that's been tough, and tbh, I bet CIO would work, but we both don't feel that we could let him cry alone in his crib.

Every family is different, and what works for one does not work for all.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 17:15 PM   24
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I love this article. Someone posted it in natural parenting last week.

They grow so fast that I cherish every nap LO has on me and cuddling her every night. Once my LOs are bigger I probably won't get that chance until I'm a grandma. Cuddling someone else's baby is lovely but just not the same.

http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/

Edit - sorry maybe doesn't answer your question!!



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 17:48 PM   25
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I start bedtime by reading a book, then turning on the dreamlite and her lullabies cd. Then we rock for a short time until she is relaxed, but usually not yet asleep, and I put her in the crib. If her arms are flailing then I gently hold them to her chest until she calms down, and I leave the room. She falls asleep on her own within 5-10 minutes for the most part. That being said, she has always been a great sleeper so its never been a challenge.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 18:00 PM   26
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We have a bedtime routine, e.g. bath, bottle and he usually falls asleep in daddy's arms. We then transfer him to the cot. If he's teething or fussy, he will wake up and sometimes, he is brought into bed with either parent, but otherwise, we can stroke his head and replace his dummy and he'll fall back asleep. It just depends on the night. In our case and due to the increasing daylight in the mornings, I have put blackout liners on the curtains, but they are only pulled close/together around 5am (he still sleeps with natural night and lights outside), so we might a little more time in the am.

For his naps, I still rock him to sleep, but usually will fall asleep within a few minutes.

However, at creche (am only, I'm home by 2), he will fall asleep without any coaching, so me thinks he milks mummy and daddy for extra cuddles, etc. (LOL!)

Can't do, won't do CIO or CC, so am grateful that our methods seems to work. If he cries before nap and/or night-time sleep, we will hold his hand and/or sing to him, so again, no CC/CIO -- physically, I cannot deal with too much crying as I start to sweat and get flustered (I do breathing exercises and/or sing to LO!) -- silly, I know!

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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 18:24 PM   27
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Another wait it out here.

But right now I'm at the "CIO" level with my almost 3 year old who is refusing to go to bed. I am up all night with the 4 month old and I'm not putting up with this. But he's testing his boundaries to see if he can stay up late and watch cartoons, I don't equate this with the baby.



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 19:42 PM   28
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Another wait it out here.

But right now I'm at the "CIO" level with my almost 3 year old who is refusing to go to bed. I am up all night with the 4 month old and I'm not putting up with this. But he's testing his boundaries to see if he can stay up late and watch cartoons, I don't equate this with the baby.
So sorry you're having a hard time. I think I would be at the CIO level if my lo were three too. My baby boy is one, and is still waking, but I think it may be because he's having a bit of a hard time adjusting to life with a new baby in the house. At three, they can rationalize a lot more though. Maybe try a sticker chart?xx



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 19:50 PM   29
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Another wait it out here.

But right now I'm at the "CIO" level with my almost 3 year old who is refusing to go to bed. I am up all night with the 4 month old and I'm not putting up with this. But he's testing his boundaries to see if he can stay up late and watch cartoons, I don't equate this with the baby.
So sorry you're having a hard time. I think I would be at the CIO level if my lo were three too. My baby boy is one, and is still waking, but I think it may be because he's having a bit of a hard time adjusting to life with a new baby in the house. At three, they can rationalize a lot more though. Maybe try a sticker chart?xx
Thanks! I can imagine it must be hard with a one year old and a baby, I shouldn't be complaining lol!!!

Unfortunately this whoel family has been on a bit of a sugar bender since easter and he had 2 cupcakes tongiht from OH's birthday, I think he's actually affected by it. We're all going cold turkey tomorrow.

I also think we're done with naps



 
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Old Apr 5th, 2013, 20:06 PM   30
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My girls were able to self-settle pretty well by the time they came home from the NICU. They were almost-30-weekers so in the beginning, they weren't picked up/held much because it was stressful and they would get cold outside the isolettes. So from early on, if they cried, someone would come pat them on the back, talk to them, and when they stopped crying, they were left alone. When they were a little older, ~34 weeks gestation/4 weeks old, and they had their sucking reflex, they were given pacifiers. And once they were in open-air cribs, they were given quick cuddles if the nurse had time, or a pacifier or a pat on the back. (Obviously if I was there, they were given more cuddles.)

By the time they came home, I was so used to having to put them back into their isolette/crib in the NICU, that after they ate and had a cuddle, I put them down. It was just habit for me. I did what I had always done if they cried - a cuddle until they were happy and then back into bed with a pacifier.

Now that they're older, it's still mostly the same. They don't usually fall asleep while being held (they get too distracted or want to play so we have to lay them down) so they get their pacifiers and their blanket. If they cry or fuss or drop their paci, we go to them and give a pat or a cuddle, whatever they need. Sometimes if they're really upset (not enough to need to be picked up, but if they seem a little lonely) I will sit with them and hold their hands or stroke their heads.


Gosh, I feel like this makes me sound like an awful mother because I didn't hold my babies all the time when they were tiny I make up for it when they're awake, I promise!



 
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