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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 15:37 PM   21
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This makes me so sad and angry!

Stupid HV. If my HV said this to me I'd be complaining.



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 15:39 PM   22
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I don't suggest this'd this is for everyone but I think it's a great article.

http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 15:45 PM   23
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Your HV sounds like she needs some training TBH. Telling you to leave a tiny baby to cry for 2 hours??! I couldn't manage 2 minutes. What you are doing obviously suits you and your baby and changing it would cause all sorts of disruptions. Follow your instincts. I still feed my nearly 20 month old to sleep most nights as otherwise she cries. I'd rather give her a lovely mummy cuddle than listen to her cry as I am there to comfort her. Do what works for you. Ignore anyone that tells you otherwise.



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 16:03 PM   24
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That is the stupidest advice I've ever heard. My DD was exactly the same at your LOs age - slept 12 hours at night but wouldnt nap. She is by no means "broken" and she got to grips with day time sleep in her own time, with my help. Now at 10 months she's a very happy baby, hitting her milestones and napped 3 hours!



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 16:25 PM   25
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It really bothers me when "professionals" tell us how to parent. Just use your instincts! Everyone says not to feed or rock to sleep...but even if I'm not trying to get my LO to sleep, she will fall asleep anyway! It's just natural! Just take it with a grain of salt and do what you feel is best for your baby.



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 16:28 PM   26
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I would not worry! Least she still sleeps well at night! My lo is 21 weeks and sleeps 40 min to an hour max twice a day during the week! As long as they are happy!



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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 16:34 PM   27
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That is how I put my son to sleep. I don't really know what HVs are and how they compare to what is in the US but after reading numerous posts over their idiotic sounding advice, it makes me glad we just see a pediatrician.

That sounds really stupid to me. I would never leave my 12 week old to cry for two hours straight! Your baby seems pretty dang happy if he sttn at 11 weeks!



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 17:46 PM   28
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I think you are doing an amazing job! Your baby is sttn 5 times out of 7! Wow! She can self settle - that's brilliant! She doesn't need a soother if she can do all that already on her own.
The nap 'problem' just sounds like alot of babies once they get out of the newborn sleepy stage. She will get better at napping as she gets older.
As for the leaving her to cry for 2 hours!! Wow - i advocate sleep training but not at 11 weeks and not leaving her for 2 hours!! Ignore, ignore, ignore!



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 17:53 PM   29
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Hmmmmm, whilst its far too early to leave your baby to cry, I regret feeding my baby to sleep and not putting her down awake so she could drift off to sleep herself at an earlier age. Whilst she
was doing 6 hour stretches from 5 weeks old and slept through the night from 10 weeks with good naps during the day, feeding to sleep became a nightmare because she developed a bad sleep association and would wake hourly needing boob to go back to sleep between age of 4-9 months. At 9.5 months we caved in and had to sleep train her with CC. Anyone who has been through sleep training will tell you that if they could have avoided it, they would have. I certainly would have gone back and done things differently and if I ever have another, I'll avoid feeding to sleep if I can.

LO still feeds to sleep for her naps (haven't had the heart to train her out if that) AND she still naps on my lap which is a pain in the behind in terms of going out/ finding time to get things done, though I do love the cuddles.

Id say your HV has given partially good advice in recommending that its best to put LO down drowsy but awake. However, as mums we should always do what we feel is right as we know our babies best! Sometimes learning through trial and error rather than following random advice is the best way.



 
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Old Apr 10th, 2013, 17:54 PM   30
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Do not listen to that woman... she is crazy!! You are the one who is right, not her. You cannot spoil a baby. They need their parents.



 
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