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Old Aug 31st, 2009, 16:07 PM   11
Missy85
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i was the same hun, and still can get anxious but just try a walk round the block at first... little steps and soon you'll be out for longer!



 
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Old Aug 31st, 2009, 16:16 PM   12
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I was a little nervous first time out alone with Adam, but my OH encouraged me to go, so we went to the park that's 5 mins away. He didn't sleep at all and was quiet till we got a bench; after a minute or two being ok, he started crying and cried all the way home! I coped with it by telling myself that nobody else knew it was my first time out and I was scared and didn't really feel confident. I pretended I was... nobody really cares anyway! And being out in the open I think was a good first trip, no shops or steps or people in an enclosed space to stress me out more.

I'd bite the bullet and go. Even if you literally go round the block and are home in 3 minutes. It'll turn into more of a fear if you put it off further. I've since been to the Co-op with Adam and he was fine, next step is a longer trip, maybe to the shopping centre. We've never attempted to feed or change him away from home and I am nervous of that... but the only way to get over it is to face it and do it.

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Old Aug 31st, 2009, 18:42 PM   13
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I was like this at first, i was petrified of taking him out and him crying because i thought people would stare and think i was a bad mum because he was crying. When i first started going out i just went on short walks to the shop and when i finally had confidence to go into town which is a 30 minute bus ride i took my friend with me as support and it went fine.



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Old Aug 31st, 2009, 22:16 PM   14
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yea... so the first time i went out with friends after lil raydon was born, we got into a car accident... so i am totally scared of going out by myself AND with other people! its dreadful! if my hubbys driving, its not so bad, but i cant have anyone else drive... its either me or my hubbs... i can go to the grocery store and such and i have become comfortable with being in public, its just the driving that scares me...



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Old Sep 1st, 2009, 02:35 AM   15
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Hi

I was really nervous to begin with, so a family member suggested walks around the block to begin with and then go into our local town (short walk away) etc and then I got the courage to get on a bus to my moms and so on.

The bit I got most scared of was feeding him in public (started off bf then went into bottle), even getting him out of the car seat to hold him made me scared as he was tiny! But I soon felt less worried and more confident the more i took him out.

keely.

ps-my baby had (still has) reflux so the sickness was another worry, but again I soon got the hang of dealing with it without getting upset



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Old Sep 1st, 2009, 06:45 AM   16
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I went out with Emma from the very start, because I knew I'd feel scared if I didn't....I'm just like that, a born worrier!! But I still have my moments now where I'll go out and she'll be screaming in a shop, and I get all hot and bothered and zoom back to the car ASAP - but as this happens more frequently, you start to realise it's NOT just you and your baby who this happens to (I felt like it was at first lol) and get more relaxed. You'll get there hun I promise! x x x



 
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Old Sep 1st, 2009, 07:10 AM   17
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I'm the same! I feel fine with OH there but alone - terrified! We haven't done it yet...



 
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Old Sep 1st, 2009, 07:44 AM   18
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Thanks for all the lovely replies girls I went out with DD today so not exactly alone, we went to a local retail park and went in Next and swapped a little outfit then boots to get meal deal lunches then called at iceland for a few bits, Myles woke up briefly when we were in iceland but didn't cry tomorrow DD is back at school so I am going to drive her to school then call at my Mum's for a while, am going to do baby steps and hopefully i will get braver over time



 
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Old Sep 1st, 2009, 08:19 AM   19
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I guess one thing to think about is, what do you think when you hear someone else's baby crying when you're out. No way would you think 'bad mother'! You'd feel sympathy at the very most! More often it doesn't even register in my head.

I used to struggle to change Ruby in public baby changing rooms as she hates the hard changing tables - if your baby is like this too, just take a travel changing mat or an old jumper or towel to go under LO, much nicer. My other tip is to use night time nappies like Pampers BabyDry when you go out if you think it might be tricky to change LO for a while.

If you FF, a small carton, an empty sterilised bottle and a little pair of scissors in your handbag or changing bag will make you feel more relaxed, even if LO not due a feed while you're out, it gives peace of mind!



 
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Old Sep 1st, 2009, 12:56 PM   20
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[QUOTE=Mum2b_Claire;2958053]I guess one thing to think about is, what do you think when you hear someone else's baby crying when you're out. No way would you think 'bad mother'! You'd feel sympathy at the very most! More often it doesn't even register in my head.

I used to struggle to change Ruby in public baby changing rooms as she hates the hard changing tables - if your baby is like this too, just take a travel changing mat or an old jumper or towel to go under LO, much nicer. My other tip is to use night time nappies like Pampers BabyDry when you go out if you think it might be tricky to change LO for a while.

If you FF, a small carton, an empty sterilised bottle and a little pair of scissors in your handbag or changing bag will make you feel more relaxed, even if LO not due a feed while you're out, it gives peace of mind![/QUOTE]

This is so true i BF and FF and i just cant feed her out in public so when we first went out and took the carton, bottle and scissors i felt so much more relaxed!.. she slept the whole time we were out after all that lol!



 
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