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Old May 5th, 2013, 13:20 PM   1
IzzyPeanut
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Advice please - should I keep waiting it out?


Sooo... I'll try to keep it short! DD is nearly 17 Months old and won't sleep without boob or me next to her. I go to be with her about 6:30pm every night and watch tv quietly or read until I go to sleep myself about 9pm. She won't go in the cot so sleeps next to me. I work 8-4 most days and she will nap for other people but not me. She wakes frequently in the nite but will Settle after a cuddle or quick feed. Since she was born I've not had a nite out or much time with the DH and I'd just like people's advice. I'm goig to wait until she's around 18
Months and a bit more aware and then start getting her to go in the cot or change it into the toddler bed and see how that goes. Any advice from anyone? I'm not really that bothered about it (most nights although i do feel down sometimes as the nites get shorter and im in bed!) except for the fact that I have literally NO life and DH who is supportive is starting to want his wife back! Am I a fool for waiting it out? I couldn't let her cry at all so maybe I am just a mug and she knows it, lol. I'd be interested to here from others in the same position - maybe it's not just me who has completely put their life on hold! Just hoping it pays off and doesn't backfire... thanks xxx



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Old May 5th, 2013, 13:32 PM   2
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I have to go to bed with my Lo as well and starting to get tired of it. She also doesn't nap well and due to her bad sleep she is grumpy and miserable all the time.

Crying won't hurt her, the longer it goes like this you may not be able to get her to sleep on her own and I know that I don't want to be doing this when my LO is almost 2 years old still. I don't mind cuddling her, I enjoy it but no one gets a good sleep anymore.

My doctor had recommended doing CIO, she said the longer you let it go on the harder it is for them to go in their own bed as they start to understand more. I wish I had tried to get my LO sleeping in the crib when she was 6 months.

To each their own but my marriage is starting to suffer and I'm starting to suffer from lack of alone time and I plan to do full sleep training after my LO's birthday



 
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Old May 5th, 2013, 13:39 PM   3
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I'd ask on the natural parenting section. Lots of ladies there will be able to offer advice. I'd say you've come this far why ruin the hard work? She's close to an age where you can gently encourage her to sleep. I'd def try gentle methods before CIO. She just won't understand. Toddlers to learn to self sooth, she will one day sleep on her own. Maybe get a toddler bed and mane it a nice relaxing place to be. Gently encourage her to start using it and take it from there.

I'm guessing you've read this?

http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/



 
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Old May 5th, 2013, 13:45 PM   4
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There's also a Facebook wait it out group.



 
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Old May 5th, 2013, 13:49 PM   5
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I'd ask on the natural parenting section. Lots of ladies there will be able to offer advice. I'd say you've come this far why ruin the hard work? She's close to an age where you can gently encourage her to sleep. I'd def try gentle methods before CIO. She just won't understand. Toddlers to learn to self sooth, she will one day sleep on her own. Maybe get a toddler bed and mane it a nice relaxing place to be. Gently encourage her to start using it and take it from there.

I'm guessing you've read this?

http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/
Aww this made me feel loads better. This is how I feel when I see her get upset and I realise she doesn't understand and knows her mum is there to make it better - it kind of sums it all up! It'll only be a little while and it's worth it for her thanks xxx



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Old May 5th, 2013, 13:57 PM   6
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aw I've tears in my eyes reading that article that was linked.



 
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Old May 5th, 2013, 15:24 PM   7
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I'd ask on the natural parenting section. Lots of ladies there will be able to offer advice. I'd say you've come this far why ruin the hard work? She's close to an age where you can gently encourage her to sleep. I'd def try gentle methods before CIO. She just won't understand. Toddlers to learn to self sooth, she will one day sleep on her own. Maybe get a toddler bed and mane it a nice relaxing place to be. Gently encourage her to start using it and take it from there.

I'm guessing you've read this?

http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/
Aww this made me feel loads better. This is how I feel when I see her get upset and I realise she doesn't understand and knows her mum is there to make it better - it kind of sums it all up! It'll only be a little while and it's worth it for her thanks xxx
My pleasure. Lots of her posts are brilliant.

Good luck.



 
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Also have you considered side carring her cot to help the transition?



 
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Old May 5th, 2013, 15:35 PM   9
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:') that link was gorgeous! I feel tearful and I'm the "ice-queen-that-didn't-even-cry-at-The-Notebook"



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Also have you considered side carring her cot to help the transition?
That's my next trick I think to get her to sleep a little away from me baby steps at a time. At the moment she feels for me in her sleep with her hands to check I've not left. Ha, it would be comical if it wasn't my Life!



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