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Old May 6th, 2013, 10:04 AM   11
Siuan
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I'm very firmly of the opinion that babies will sleep better when they're ready! If you've tried all of the above, and they haven't worked, then he's just not ready.

That's not your failure, it's perfectly normal. Even adults don't sleep through, we get up for the loo or wakeup and shift position. We've just learnt how to deal with it. Babies haven't.



 
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Old May 6th, 2013, 10:09 AM   12
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Honestly, what the sleep books won't tell you is that some babies are simply bad sleepers.

Let me ask you this, how do you both get the most rest?

You're not doing anything wrong. Rest assured I know bad sleepers of very competent and relaxed parents and great sleepers of very inexperienced folks. It's just personality and luck of the draw. Even with sleep training, easier babies tend to take to it much faster than those who have a more "passionate" disposion (as I like to say).



 
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Old May 6th, 2013, 10:12 AM   13
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by the sounds of it our sons are twins...getting Parker to sleep is easy peasy...and he will sleep soundly from 7-12 then from 12pm it a completly different story, he will scream, cry or even just sit there playinh for hrs. for a while we been part co sleeping which was working...but nowhe trashes around in our bed, then every hr or so he sit up and startd playing. like u we tried cc and gradual reduction which initally helped getting him to sleep but did nothing for the night wakings.
therr all seems to be endless list of reasons why he could be doing this from starting solids, teething, learning to crawl, issues with food, moving on to cows milk, learning to walk oh and teething again...

i think iv just resided my self that he will sleep when he wants to...and il just have to get naps in when i can...which aint easy when working full time, pregnant and OH started working nights.

sorry hijacked there...but hope u find a soloution and know your not alone.



 
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Sounds rough has he got a comfort toy, or could you introduce one for him to snuggle at night? It's a long shot but it might help in time? Sorry I can't be of much help, but you are by no means failing him. Right now he's just not ready and you are doing the best you can to help him get there.



 
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Old May 6th, 2013, 15:22 PM   15
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I'm very firmly of the opinion that babies will sleep better when they're ready! If you've tried all of the above, and they haven't worked, then he's just not ready.

That's not your failure, it's perfectly normal. Even adults don't sleep through, we get up for the loo or wakeup and shift position. We've just learnt how to deal with it. Babies haven't.
I used to believe that babies could be taught to sleep...but I am not so sure anymore! Thanks for the insight. Xx



 
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Honestly, what the sleep books won't tell you is that some babies are simply bad sleepers.

Let me ask you this, how do you both get the most rest?

You're not doing anything wrong. Rest assured I know bad sleepers of very competent and relaxed parents and great sleepers of very inexperienced folks. It's just personality and luck of the draw. Even with sleep training, easier babies tend to take to it much faster than those who have a more "passionate" disposion (as I like to say).
We tend to sleep better when we co sleep, that way Alex latches on whenever he wants... He's obviously using the boob as a sleep crutch!
Alex is most definitely 'passionate and fiery'!! Or as we call it bloody stubborn!



 
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Sounds rough has he got a comfort toy, or could you introduce one for him to snuggle at night? It's a long shot but it might help in time? Sorry I can't be of much help, but you are by no means failing him. Right now he's just not ready and you are doing the best you can to help him get there.
We have a number of soft toys, blankets etc we have tried over the months, one at a time to see if he would take to anything, but nothing. I've even tried sleepy with them. To have them smell of me, but nothing! Nothing can replace mummy! (Which is lovely in a way!)



 
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I'm very firmly of the opinion that babies will sleep better when they're ready! If you've tried all of the above, and they haven't worked, then he's just not ready.

That's not your failure, it's perfectly normal. Even adults don't sleep through, we get up for the loo or wakeup and shift position. We've just learnt how to deal with it. Babies haven't.
I used to believe that babies could be taught to sleep...but I am not so sure anymore! Thanks for the insight. Xx
Jaybee, this is what I thought too before I had Clara. I now know that sometimes you can really do everything "by the book" and go through sleep training etc. and they still don't sleep well.



 
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Old May 7th, 2013, 01:33 AM   19
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You're not failing at all. I think these are both great articles.


http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/

http://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/sleep/



 
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You're not failing at all. I think these are both great articles.


http://nurshable.com/2012/07/19/the-...leep-training/

http://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/sleep/
tehy are very articles, thankyou.

Just gotta change my attitude towards sleeping i guess!



 
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