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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 11:24 AM   1
Gidz
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I don't even know why I bother with play dates/groups


All they do is make me feel badly about my parenting choices or that my baby doesn't sttn (she's 5 mo ffs!) or that I need to rock her to sleep and she doesn't self settle. Im tired of defending my baby and my parenting.

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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 12:06 PM   2
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Ah there was a lady at baby group near me making everyone feel bad on Friday. I really wanted to put her in her place but I don't have it in me. P.s. most children don't sttn before 6-12 months. Most I know didn't sleep through until 2.



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 12:32 PM   3
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Sorry you shouldn't have to defend those things to anyone! I wonder if there's a way you could find a more alternative-minded community? Try looking for groups based on breastfeeding, babywearing, cloth diapering...things that more AP moms are likely to do.



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 12:55 PM   4
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I only do baby sensory and see my Nct ladies weekly but I've never been made to feel bad, I'd change groups!



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 13:42 PM   5
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Baby groups definitely shouldn't make you feel bad, and no one should be queestioning your parenting choices. Sure advise if its asked for, but not making you feel like you have to defend your choices.

I think SE is right, try to find a group that might be more in line with your ways. I went to a few, but now I only go to the BF group because all the mums seem more like my style. I really love it as they me feel more "normal" and the support and other ideas the mums have are great. Hope you can find a group like this



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 13:48 PM   6
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You just need to find different people to hang out with. We do different activites with the girls and we have lots of different people we do playdates with. And none of us have ever questioned any parenting styles or decisions, etc.



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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 13:52 PM   7
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Don't defend yourself or your choices. Urgh, I hate when women act like this. the judgements I mean.

I remember someone once saying to me (LO didn't sttn for a long time!!) 'so when your baby is crying in his cot you go to him', 'erm, yes', to which they replied 'so he cries and knows you will go through', again I said 'em, yes that is what I want'.
I realised we were on completely different pages when it came to parenting.
But where I didn't judge her choices, she almost tried to mock me.
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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 14:12 PM   8
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Billy doesn't sleep through the night and he is 15 months. And I have tried every method going! AND he gets up at about quarter to five in the morning. So sod them. Some babies just don't quite fit the mould.



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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 14:16 PM   9
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It's easy to get a baby under 5 months to sttn - ignore its cries! For those of us not comfortable with that our choices are pretty limited - grit teeth and bear on ignoring the 'advice' of those around us (wean at 3 months...um I think not).

Screw them say I!

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Old Jun 22nd, 2013, 15:12 PM   10
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Dont go to many groups but just wanted to add my lo is 10 months and still doesnt self settle! I dont mind cuddling her to sleep, so why not do it we both like it x



 
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