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Old Jul 24th, 2013, 10:54 AM   21
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I had almost a full night night away from my LO at a young age... but every weekend just seems like a lot IMO.
I hope you didn't think I meant anything was wrong with that. That's perfectly fine, just (imo) not an every weekend thing.



 
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I couldn't even imagine leaving LO for a few hours at that age, much less over night. I have to agree with the other posters, every weekend is excessive. I know you're young, but parenting is a full time job, and you can't really have the best of both worlds. Sorry if it seems like I'm lecturing you, just giving an opinion.
Why not if everyone is happy with the arrangement?
It's not for me but we don't know ops circumstances. Lots of children have two 'homes' when their parents split. This isn't really any different
Yes, and having 'two homes' has been proven detrimental in a lot of cases. Idk, it just makes me wonder why people have children if they refuse to give up their previous life.

Also, I'm only 21 myself, and when I hear/read about young parents going out too much, it pisses me off because I feel like it makes all of us young parents look bad.



 
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I couldn't even imagine leaving LO for a few hours at that age, much less over night. I have to agree with the other posters, every weekend is excessive. I know you're young, but parenting is a full time job, and you can't really have the best of both worlds. Sorry if it seems like I'm lecturing you, just giving an opinion.
Why not if everyone is happy with the arrangement?
It's not for me but we don't know ops circumstances. Lots of children have two 'homes' when their parents split. This isn't really any different
Likening it to a child that has two "homes" when the parents split puts a bad taste in my mouth. Obviously that is best for some families out of necessity, but why offer a similar situation if you don't have to?

I guess if they, the parents, and the LO is fine with the arrangement, then there really isn't an issue.



 
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It took 3 yrs and an emergency for me to agree on an overnight with my son!
I just will not do it. We've had them watch him for a few hours while we went out, even having a few drinks out, we were still able to come pick him up. We can still go out and do couple things.

If you need the sitter for partying, what's to say you're going to be the best parent the next morning with a hangover?

Dd is 9m, and have been asked for the overnight. There's just no reason to! I'm the parent, I agreed to a lifetime responsibility, even if that means giving up "couple time" with dh.



 
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I had almost a full night night away from my LO at a young age... but every weekend just seems like a lot IMO.
I hope you didn't think I meant anything was wrong with that. That's perfectly fine, just (imo) not an every weekend thing.
No! Not at all, I was just saying that obviously I understand that sometimes after just having a baby, a little "you" time is needed!

And although my mum and pops would (gladly) take her for me every week or weekend if I wanted it, it just doesn't seem right to me? Once again, it's just my opinion based off my life. Obviously I don't know the OP so it may be different.

Because... of course I would LOVE to go out weekends and party and hang out with all my friends... but I don't. Besides, I'm sure I'll have plenty of time for that when she's older and can tell me she wants to go by a friend or grandma and grandpa (who will surely spoil her).




 
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I left my now 2 year old with my mum for overnights from she was 4 days old!

It stopped when she was about 8 weeks old because she began to kick off a lot there, like she just wanted to be home, and she hasn't stayed over anywhere since.

I don't see anything wrong with what your planning at all!



 
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Nothing wrong with it. We left our LO for one night at 4 weeks and recently at 11 weeks. My BIL and SIL have always let their kids have sleepovers and their three are chilled out, happy and confident little boys. Do what you feel is right. Your baby will suffer no adverse effects either way. In fact, he won't even remember!



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I couldn't even imagine leaving LO for a few hours at that age, much less over night. I have to agree with the other posters, every weekend is excessive. I know you're young, but parenting is a full time job, and you can't really have the best of both worlds. Sorry if it seems like I'm lecturing you, just giving an opinion.
Why not if everyone is happy with the arrangement?
It's not for me but we don't know ops circumstances. Lots of children have two 'homes' when their parents split. This isn't really any different
Yes, and having 'two homes' has been proven detrimental in a lot of cases. Idk, it just makes me wonder why people have children if they refuse to give up their previous life.

Also, I'm only 21 myself, and when I hear/read about young parents going out too much, it pisses me off because I feel like it makes all of us young parents look bad.
This is a bit ridiculous. Not all of us are Mother Earths who don't want to spend one night in adult company for months and months. Having the odd night away is surely healthier than wishing you could and being unhappy. If you don't want to fine but there's absolutely nothing wrong with needing a little down time.

You can't equate the odd night away to parents being out all the time.



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I couldn't even imagine leaving LO for a few hours at that age, much less over night. I have to agree with the other posters, every weekend is excessive. I know you're young, but parenting is a full time job, and you can't really have the best of both worlds. Sorry if it seems like I'm lecturing you, just giving an opinion.
Why not if everyone is happy with the arrangement?
It's not for me but we don't know ops circumstances. Lots of children have two 'homes' when their parents split. This isn't really any different
Yes, and having 'two homes' has been proven detrimental in a lot of cases. Idk, it just makes me wonder why people have children if they refuse to give up their previous life.

Also, I'm only 21 myself, and when I hear/read about young parents going out too much, it pisses me off because I feel like it makes all of us young parents look bad.
This is a bit ridiculous. Not all of us are Mother Earths who don't want to spend one night in adult company for months and months. Having the odd night away is surely healthier than wishing you could and being unhappy. If you don't want to fine but there's absolutely nothing wrong with needing a little down time.

You can't equate the odd night away to parents being out all the time.
When did I say months and months? The odd night away is fine. But the OP isn't talking about the odd night away, she wants to do it every weekend.



 
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I couldn't even imagine leaving LO for a few hours at that age, much less over night. I have to agree with the other posters, every weekend is excessive. I know you're young, but parenting is a full time job, and you can't really have the best of both worlds. Sorry if it seems like I'm lecturing you, just giving an opinion.
Why not if everyone is happy with the arrangement?
It's not for me but we don't know ops circumstances. Lots of children have two 'homes' when their parents split. This isn't really any different
Yes, and having 'two homes' has been proven detrimental in a lot of cases. Idk, it just makes me wonder why people have children if they refuse to give up their previous life.

Also, I'm only 21 myself, and when I hear/read about young parents going out too much, it pisses me off because I feel like it makes all of us young parents look bad.
Slightly off topic, but when I hear people say "oh they are young" as a reason why other people need more breaks, I get a little......annoyed isn't the right word, but I certainly feel it feeds in to the stereotype.

The vast majority of the "young" parents I know in person are just as likely as the "older" parents I know to require a crow bar to separate them from their children. They would look perplexed at someone suggesting that they need more relief than an older person.

Not aimed at the OP or anyone in this thread at all. But SaraEmily - no, you shouldn't have a bad name hon



 
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