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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 09:30 AM   1
Floralaura
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I need help :(


I am officially on the edge, LO doesnt sleep and its killing me

Hes 11mths old today and used to be a good sleeper, however now its awful.
He goes into bed at 7.30/8pm, will wake about 10pm then about 12pm )12pm wake I give him 4oz milk). I go to bed about 11pm/12am and get up around 8am..in those 8/9 hours I can be woke up to 20 times.
He cries, I go in and literally have to pat him/tuck him in tighter..walk out and that it. It takes 20 seconds but with then being awake by them time I go back to sleep he is awake again.
Last night was 12am, 1.10am, 2.20am, 2.45am, 3.o8am, 3.50am, 4.40am, 6am and then woke at 7.45am for the day..I count last night as a good one!
I am knackered and he is constantly crying and upset.
He naps in day 2/3 naps of 45min a go.

I have no idea what to do or how to stop this but need to do somehting as cant carry on like this.

Help?!



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 09:56 AM   2
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Oh you poor thing

Have you thought about co sleeping just to save your sanity? It may be a phase he's going through and will go back to being great?

My LO usually sleeps well in his travel cot in my bedroom first half of the night until his feed any time between 3-5, then he struggles to go back down. Lastnight was one of those nights and I couldn't take the crying so I snuggled him in my arms with him on the outside of the bed and he slept from 5-8.30. I know it's not the answer long term but you need sleep to function lovely!



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 10:52 AM   3
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Aw, that sounds tough. I feel for you as I see you have another young one so don't get any rest during the day.
I haven't been in your shoes, but I was just wondering how much he cries before you go in? My baby once in a while wakes and cries, but goes back to sleep after about 5 to 8 minutes. Do you give him a chance to settle himself? I don't mean you have to leave him to cry for an hour, but my good girlfriend would go running into her babies room at the first cry, and wondered why she was having to go in there so many times each night. She eventually let the baby cry a few times and the baby began to self sooth back to sleep.
Again, I'm only trying to be helpful, I really hope it's just a phase and you and your baby can both get more sleep. Best wishes!



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 11:04 AM   4
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Ivy was like this and cosleeping was the only way i could rest at all hun.

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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 12:40 PM   5
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Penny went through this stage but it was on the end of her waking for a minimum of 2hours a night EVERY NIGHT FOR 3 WEEKS!! I totally feel for u regarding ur sleep. Does LO have a dummy? We've found one invaluable for her but i know not everyone wants their LO to have one. Tbh I got so frustrated in the end I did some tough love and sleep trained. We've done CIO in the past and it worked really well for us. Basically I waited for her to wake up, went in gave her some water (we also decided to wean her off her night feed too as this wasn't helping her to sleep), changed her bum and put her back down, where she screamed for the next 3 hours on and off. I would wait until she'd get hysterical and go in, give her her dummy and lie her back down, and repeat. She centrally went back to sleep and she got better almost instantaneously! She still wakes up once or twice now but it's a case of getting up putting her dummy in and she goes back to sleep. We now have her going 7.30 til 6ish where she'll be fed and then go straight back to sleep. Obviously we still have horrid nights but on the whole it's much better. Have u taken him to health visitors to c if they can suggest anything? X



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 13:12 PM   6
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Aw, that sounds tough. I feel for you as I see you have another young one so don't get any rest during the day.
I haven't been in your shoes, but I was just wondering how much he cries before you go in? My baby once in a while wakes and cries, but goes back to sleep after about 5 to 8 minutes. Do you give him a chance to settle himself? I don't mean you have to leave him to cry for an hour, but my good girlfriend would go running into her babies room at the first cry, and wondered why she was having to go in there so many times each night. She eventually let the baby cry a few times and the baby began to self sooth back to sleep.
Again, I'm only trying to be helpful, I really hope it's just a phase and you and your baby can both get more sleep. Best wishes!
This is exactly what I was going to ask. Ciara regularly cries out in her sleep. I only go to her if she continues for more than a few minutes. Most of the time she's not even awake.



 
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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 15:19 PM   7
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Originally Posted by Julesillini8 View Post
Aw, that sounds tough. I feel for you as I see you have another young one so don't get any rest during the day.
I haven't been in your shoes, but I was just wondering how much he cries before you go in? My baby once in a while wakes and cries, but goes back to sleep after about 5 to 8 minutes. Do you give him a chance to settle himself? I don't mean you have to leave him to cry for an hour, but my good girlfriend would go running into her babies room at the first cry, and wondered why she was having to go in there so many times each night. She eventually let the baby cry a few times and the baby began to self sooth back to sleep.
Again, I'm only trying to be helpful, I really hope it's just a phase and you and your baby can both get more sleep. Best wishes!
This is exactly what I was going to ask. Ciara regularly cries out in her sleep. I only go to her if she continues for more than a few minutes. Most of the time she's not even awake.
My LO does this - I think it's a dream. Occasionally he'll whinge for a few moments but when we go in, he's fast asleep. Sometimes we'll hear him wake up and babble to himself before going back to sleep. We only go to him if he's really crying which is almost never!



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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 15:24 PM   8
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My LO was also like this. But he was never a great sleeper.

He did though go into his cot at around 10 weeks as he was so big. This worked for a while then we completely co slept until he was 10 months as we too would be up around 20 times a night.

He went back into his cot and again worked for a while.
Now at 16 months he is in a big bed and generally this is with me.

He just wakes a lot and will cry out if I am not there. I am not able to leave him to cry so that has never been an option for us.

Anyway just thought I would share to let you know you are not alone.



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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 15:30 PM   9
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Just to clarify and I think this applies to the two other ladies who said something along the same lines - I don't leave my LO to cry - he cries for ten seconds at most and often doesn't even wake up!



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Old Dec 13th, 2013, 15:36 PM   10
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Does your LO settle himself to sleep at the beginning of the night?

My LO didn't know how to get herself to sleep and sounded like your LO, waking very often and she would stay awake in the middle of the night for hours. I honestly don't know how I coped, it was awful

At 12.5 months I caved and did some gentle sleep training which had her sleeping through the night on the first night. I think it would only work for a child who can't self settle though.

Lots of for you, you're doing a great job!



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