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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 12:34 PM   11
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You need to go with what you're comfortable with and no decision you make is set in stone. I'm a big believer in mummy's instinct, you'll know if you need to be in hospital or at home when the time comes x



 
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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 14:37 PM   12
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The hospital has a midwife led unit, but only one birthing pool, my pregnancy was fine no complications, it was only the meconium in my waters when I went into labour that meant I was induced. I'm undecided as of now, we aren't having another for over a year, so I've got time to think about it and would ask the midwife about it obviously. I felt that I was majorly ignored in the hospital, I hated the environment and felt that I was being rushed because of their lack of beds. My df hated the whole thing too. In fact they didn't even noticed I was bleeding so much until I was discharged. Shocking really. This is really pushing me for a home birth with one to one care
The midwife led unit I went to had only one actual birthing pool, but all the other rooms had a full sized bath, which is where I had DS. And the atmosphere couldn't have been more different than 1st time round in the delivery suite - I was allowed the freedom to labour how I chose, with no unnecessary examinations, not hooked up to monitors etc. so it can be totally different eve though it's the same hospital.



 
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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 14:38 PM   13
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My understanding is that if you've haemorrhaged once you're likely to again and potentially worse the next time but feel free to correct me. I had the text book labour and delivery... Got to hospital at 7 cm, gas and air only and no tears yet haemorrhaged a litre within seconds of him coming out, no warning and I'll always be grateful I was In hospital. I've been told not to go for home birth on future. But your situation sounds different as you can identify things that may have led to a bleed.... At the end of the day it has to be what you're comfortable with



 
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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 14:46 PM   14
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Thanks everyone, your opinions are so helpful



 
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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 16:46 PM   15
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Yes you could definitely have a homebirth. Just because you haemorrhaged last time (induced labourer too which you would have at home) doesn't mean you will this time. Don't let it scare you or out you off. If you want a homebirth you'll need to overcome your fears and not let them diced for you what you will do. Are there any NCT homebirth groups near you that you could go to?

Have you read the homebirth.org website?

I had the same fears when planning my second labour. First was an induction, manual removal of placenta, haemorrhage. But the second time was so much different. Induced again yes but all very smooth and lovely (hospital birth in the end due to induction). It takes a long time to haemorrhage badly such that your life is in danger. The chances of haemorrhaging badly such that you'll die before getting to hospital are very low.

The midwife attending you will be experienced no doubt and will know when to pull the plug (ie get you transferred in) long before it's an emergency situation.

Good luck planning your birth. Hope you can get the confidence to do a homebirth if that's at you really want! X



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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 16:51 PM   16
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I had a home birth and it was absolutely the right thing for me. I visited the hospital in advance and felt so uncomfortable I knew I did not want to give birth there. I also visited the MW led unit but I felt uncomfortable with that too...for me it came down to distance: our house is a 5 min drive from the hospital but stupidly the MW led unit was built 40 mins away from the nearest hospital! Wasn't happy with how long it would take for an ambulance to get me then transfer me if necessary.

I can only repeat what irish cob said about getting extra attention - I had 2 MWs the whole time, was carefully monitored etc. They bring tons of equipment witb them and yeah if they think there's a problem they would NEVER let it get to the point of emergency before acting. I did tons of research before making my decision, and no one can force you into hospital, they have to follow your wishes. Homebirth.org.uk is a great site with masses of articles all backed up with studies, scientific evidence etc as to why home birth can be a good option.

My birth went brilliantly and my son was fine, but I haemorraged too and ended up in hospital anyway but was so glad to have had him at home because it was so calm, peaceful and I was just happier being at home. I did suffer a tear and lost 4 pints of blood so needed surgery, a transfusion and a week of intravenous iron treatments but it still wasn't an emergency situation and don't regret my choice for a moment. As long as you do what you feel is right for you that is the main thing.



 
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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 17:29 PM   17
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I'm pleased to hear someone who had a haemorrhage at home (well not pleased you had one lol, but pleased for the original poster that someone has actual experience of this) because I wanted to say something before about the fact that the mws carry the injections to stop bleeding, they can also carry out the same procedures that they are trained to do in hospital - manual removal of clots etc. I've heard quite a few stories where people have said it was so lucky they were in hospital or they surely would have died, and whilst I'm happy they felt well cared-for and I understand that they truly believe this to be the case, I do wonder if actually they might well have been just fine at home or in a mlu also, because as you say very few things go wrong to the point of death within a short space of time, and your story is testament to that.

(I also wonder if some of those emergencies aren't actually created by the hospital staff themselves, overzealous inductions, lack of hands-on midwife care (as the original poster says she was left waiting for 4 hours) and so on; but that is a different topic!)



 
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Old Jun 14th, 2014, 21:05 PM   18
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I haemorrhaged in hospital on my second and wouldn't risk a home birth as it was a pretty horrific experience and there were probably 6 people working on me to stop the bleeding! Also my haemorrhage didn't happen until about 4 hours after the birth and (here, anyway) the midwife would have been long gone by then. I don't think I would have died had it happened at home but my husband is a pretty sound sleeper and all this occurred in the wee hours of the morning so it wouldn't have been good! I had a drug free labour and birth no real reason for the haemorrhage except maybe because it was a fast birth. Doctors told me that it is very common and that it won't necessarily happen to me again.

But if you're comfortable with it then at least the midwife will know your history and I assume would monitor you closely for signs of haemorrhage. Do you live close to a hospital, just in case?



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2014, 02:58 AM   19
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I lost a litre of blood after dd1. The room filled with doctors and mws and it took a while to stop it. I chose (and was advised) not to have a home birth second time around.

I didn't haemorrhage after dd2 but was glad I was in the hospital. I was scared the whole labour that it would happen again.

Only you know how you feel and which environment you want. I was genuinely terrified of not surviving and leaving my girls behind so I wanted to be in the hospital where we would get fast help if we needed it.



 
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Old Jun 15th, 2014, 08:29 AM   20
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I delivered in 14hrs from start to finish and for some reason my doctor gave me Pitocin while I was sleeping (I had an epidural) I was never asked if I was OK with Pitocin...it completely overstimulated my uterus and caused me to bleed out and my daughter was born in respiratory depression (not breathing). I fully believe the Pitocin caused this outcome and I feel that without that drug I would have had a non traumatic birth. However...with that said...I still would not risk a home birth after the experience that I had.



 
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