Not sad to be leaving London, I can only stay in London for a few years at a time last time was 3 years, this time it's been 5. Might even be back again in the future who knows!
Yes we are moving to be closer to family, we also just want to move somewhere warm and where we can do more stuff outdoors as we are finding it harder in the winter now with a toddler. My OH is from here you'd think he'd be used to the cold but he's actually worse than I am
We were Ok the first two years with never having someone to watch our LO but we've had 2 years with no break at all and since I'll only ever leave him with family we decided it was time for a change.
I hope your move goes as smoothly as possible Felix!
Molly went to sleep at 9pm last night after a really hectic day, woke at 10.30 so I bf her to sleep. She then stirred at 3 for another feed and woke up for the day at 6.30!! I couldn't believe it haha! She went to bed at just before 7 tonight, and has only woken once so fingers crossed for another good night. I'm half expecting a crap night because surely I couldn't have three good nights in a row?!
Happy 18 weeks TS! sorry Finn is sick. Awful night here. A**whole neighbour woke her after an hour then she woke at 10:15 and didn't sleep again until 1am but then did sleep until 7am so I did get some sleep just no evening.
I've been twoing and frowing this morning, scanning various threads & not even knowing if I'm looking in the right place. I found this thread & have decided to vent on here in the hope I'm not the only one who feels the way I am now?!
I feel this maybe a long post & if I don't get a reply I think I will just feel better for getting it out there!
I have a 6 1/2 month old baby & i am a 1st time mum.
He currently sleeps in his cot in our bedroom. Every night we do the whole dinner, bath, bottle & bed routine & it was successful, it seems each time he teeths (still no teeth have cut through but he is constantly chewing anything & everything, rosy cheeks, slightly looser nappies etc)
he becomes a nightmare sleeper. Before this bad patch he would go down at 7.30/8pm wake at 3am occasionally for a feed (depending on how well he fed through day) & then sleep through till 6/6.30am. That I could cope with. But for the last week or two he is a been a nightmare. Going down usual time, waking at 10/11pm just fidgety & fussing, again at 2am, again at 3am which is when I will usually feed but instead of going back down to sleep like he would previously he is wide awake & I end up having to rock him to sleep or have him lay on the bed next to us to which he fidgets so much that both of us have a bums hanging out the bed just so he has the space. As you can imagine this is uncomfortable & not helping my situation. He then wakes at 5.30am
When we go through these bad patches & I become sleep deprived I become very emotional & drained & I find it very difficult to be calm & cope.
It all came to a head yesterday & I broke down to my partner who is very supportive but he works long hours & starts very early in the morning & he is just as tired as I am. I then feel guilty when he is awake trying to help. (Silly I know)
My baby is incredibly active, he has been rolling over from 10 weeks, sitting from 4 1/2 months and crawling from 5 months. He is now pulling himself up everywhere & I am trying to keep him occupied all day long. I even walk 2 miles each day with him when I am not at work just to try & get a sleep in during the day as he just will not sleep. I wasn't so bothered about the day naps as he was sleeping ok at night but now I just feel like its took its toll on me a bit & I am exhausted.
I've tried talking to family but most just say to me that they don't know what to say which makes me even more upset. I'm not great at asking for help & I haven't told them the full extent of just how low I am feeling.
I think I am just looking for some reassurance really as I really don't want to have memories of my first child to be miserable ones!
I think I will have a good look through previous posts on this thread for some reassurance.
Hoping i haven't bummed any one out on this Monday, as if Mondays aren't dull enough!
Oh hun so sorry you are feeling so low. I am definitely more grumpy/snappy when I am tired. I have ended up in tears before bedtime because I am so tired before as well.
Will he nap if you rock the buggy/pram in the house. That's how my girl sleeps for naps. I push the pram in the hall for 10 mins maybe and she is out for 1.5-2 hours (she'd sleep longer if I let her). At 6 months my daughter still had 3 shortish naps and I was doing what you do and going for walks constantly. It was when she dropped to two longer naps that I tried the pram in the house thing. Give it a try it means you don't need to go walking just to get him to sleep.
My daughter is an awful teether too. She can be fine all day but has middle of the night parties when she has teeth coming through. It can last months before they actually pop through though (has been my experience anyway) so I just have to ride it out and hope they cut soon.
I go to bed so early just to get an extra hour or so especially after a bad few nights.
What time does your hubby get home. Can he take the baby at the weekend for you to have a lie in or nap to catch up.
Its so hard some of us are still in the thick of it and some have already come out the other side....we will get there too as will you! It will get better and I say that as someone still suffering with sleep deprivation.
Thank you so much for your reply! I have friends whose babies aren't like him. They're always telling me how wonderful their babies are, how laidback they are, how they sleep well & nap during the day. Was making me think I was the only one feeling like it & that there was something wrong with me for feeling this way. I really appreciate your time to reply & it was just what I wanted to hear. My partner leaves at 5am everyday (sometimes Saturdays too) & will be home on a good day by about 6pm so he spends time playing with baby when he gets home & he also baths him too so I get a little break then but I usually spend that time cleaning up lol. This is the 2nd time I've felt like this in less than a month, & when I say "like this" I mean this is the lowest I've felt since I gave birth (really struggled in the beginning) I am normally an upbeat person but I can feel myself getting overwhelmed and probably consumed by what other peoples babies are like. To know that I am no the only one is a relief as there wasn't many people I know who I speak to in person that feels like me which is why I turned to the forum. After my little meltdown my partner did say that at weekends we can take it in turns for lie ins so that we both have chances to catch up on sleep and the other one can take care of baby instead of us both being up or if one does lie laying in bed feeling guilty. I think that will help us both out & especially me to give me back some time.
I will try the buggy in the hall trick this week & see how he gets on. Thanks for the tip! x
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