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Old Oct 25th, 2017, 17:04 PM   1
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When does the newborn phase get easier?


DD is 6 weeks and 5 days old. Seems like starting around 4.5 weeks she started 'waking up' and has become increasingly fussy whenever she is awake. It's getting harder to put her down for naps. And the last 2 nights she has been awake a lot during the night when previously she would give me 4 hour stretches. I love her to pieces but I look forward to the moment DH gets home from work so I can go take a bath in peace for quiet and alone time. Seems like she is far more fussy when around me than DH for some reason.

She went through a few days of really extreme fussiness at about 5 weeks, which I associated with her first leap. But she never went back to being my quiet and happy baby.

I should amend that I don't think it's colic. She isn't screaming, just constantly fussy. And of course gets fussier as the day goes on. I look forward to mornings as she is the most rested and content.

Is this all 'normal' or do I just have a difficult baby? When does this newborn phase get easier? I'm hoping for some smiling sometime soon. It'll make everything seem a bit easier I think to get some kind of positive feedback that isn't whining, crying, or grumbling.



 
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Old Oct 25th, 2017, 19:38 PM   2
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I think around 3 months I thought my girl was a lot more fun. She was whiny too as a newborn. ..just constantly kind of unhappy unless truly asleep. I wondered at the time if my baby was the only one who was just perpetually unhappy. Now she's almost 5 months and happy a good portion of the time. I can set her down and walk away and she is fine for a while. It's rough but it'll get better!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 04:56 AM   3
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8 weeks things start to get ever so slightly easier. 12 weeks is a more major step change. Hang on in there. You’ll be amazed how quickly those early days become a distant memory (thankfully!)



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 05:10 AM   4
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Mine was absolutely horrible to start with, not going to lie. Crap day-sleeper, fussy feeder, constantly overtired and crying.

I have awful oversupply and aggressive milk let downs, so for us, this was the problem. She wouldn't have a dummy and therefore had nothing to suck on for comfort so she was absolutely miserable, especially when she was trying to fall asleep and just couldn't.

She grew out of gas, stopped suffering so much with general reflux and found her thumb/fingers around 10-ish weeks and has been an utter delight since then. I don't remember the last time she had a screaming fit, or even a fussing fit.

Generally, around the 3-4 month mark they stop being so grizzly and infuriated by everything. Depends what the cause is for the behaviour, but if it's just general frustration, finding their hands really helps.



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 05:55 AM   5
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Thanks ladies, it's nice to read some 'estimates' if when life gets a smidge easier. We will hang in there obviously, but dang if it isn't hard sometimes.

It's funny though.... as a first time mom I heard the newborn stage is hard. You hear about the sleep deprivation.... I never heard a bleeping thing about how newborns can be constantly cranky, grizzly, easily irritated or frustrated beings. THAT would have been great information to know ahead of time. I was told to play and cuddle and do tummy time... how the heck is any of that supposed to happen when you're just surviving and playing damage control all day, especially in the evenings?!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 07:22 AM   6
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I agree, it's shite ...

You do survive it though, and soon enough you have a lovely, cuddly, chuckling baby and all this crap is just an unpleasant blur!



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 07:36 AM   7
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Niko is 13 weeks old and it’s only the last couple of weeks or so that he’s been ‘easy’ really. He is quite happy when awake and will play in his own way and kick his legs etc when left alone whereas before then he needed constant attention or he just wasn’t happy at all. It will pass. X



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 08:18 AM   8
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you should try having 9 no really it does get easier hang on in there hun



 
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Old Oct 26th, 2017, 10:50 AM   9
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Things have gotten easier for us around 3 months old. With bothy my kids, once they had head control and could grab toys they were much happier.

I don't want to be a downer, but just wanted to point out that things might not get better for you around 3 months! My first was an awful sleeper and I kept asking when I could expect her to sleep better. People would say 3 months, then 6 months, then I was told 10 months was the magic age. All these months came and went and things never got better for us. I spent that first year anticipating these times when things were supposed to get better, then when they didn't get better (and sometimes got worse!) it was just so shattering and disappointing. So things might get better for you at 3 months, but they might not, so try not to get your hopes up. It's better to be pleasantly surprised than utterly disappointed!



 
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Old Oct 30th, 2017, 03:01 AM   10
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I agree, 3 months seems to be when things got better.



 
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