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Old Jul 20th, 2018, 15:44 PM   1
CharCharxxx
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1 week post partum baby blues :(


It's a week tomorrow since my beautiful little boy was born, this time last week i was being induced and it hadn't even started yet! I know its normal.to feel all over the place especially once your milk kicks in, i just feel really overwhelmed and sad which is horrible because I've been on cloud 9 up until now it's really spoiling it for me this is my last baby as it's number 4 and OH is getting the snip in a few months as we fall pregnant so easily! I spent the whole pregnancy hating it in pain and mentally not in a good place and wishing it by and now i feel really really sad that it's all over and keep getting really tearful. When i left the ward last Sunday it really hit home that it was the last time I'd ever be up there and i felt completely consumed with sadness which shocked me as I was so happy at the thought of it all being over before. Anyway sorry for the pointless post i just had to get my feelings written down. I don't want to tell anyone else this because they will start going on about how they knew i would want 5 kids bla etc which is not the case lol thanks for reading x



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2018, 00:45 AM   2
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Oh darling. x

You're in the 4th trimester - just remember your hormones are still at an 11.

I remember DS being 5ish days old, and waiting in hospital outpatient lab area to have his urine tested (suspected UTI), and my hospital plays this sweet little tune when a baby is born. I cried, cause I was jealous it wasn't for me. I had a newborn and wanted the spotlight again already. Hormones are so-so-so weird.

There's also the finality of thinking you CAN'T do something ever again. I know I don't want #3, financially mentally emotionally, I am done. Said the same about #1 though (heh). But when my midwife handed me the consent form for having my tubes tied, I swear my heart sunk and the room started spinning. Something about saying, "yes I want to commit to never conceiving again! Even though I don't want to, but having the deal sealed forever..." It's daunting as all get out.

As a veteran mom, you know these days are weird. Little sleep, hormones, boobs leaking, baby crying, older children to dote on... *You* get lost in the process. Find yourself.



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2018, 03:13 AM   3
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Thank you so much for that lovely reply, what nice words. I agree hormones are a complete bitch! I keep trying to tell myself most ladies probably feel like this afterwards. It is nice having the spotlight on you and your new baby but once everyone is used to them being here it just becomes the norm and that makes me upset as it shows how shortlived this newborn stage is. X



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2018, 07:58 AM   4
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Congratulations on your new little one!

In all likelihood what you are feeling I normal, hormones at this stage are total hell. I also think that even when you know you’re done it’s completely normal to grieve for moving on past this stage of your life. My second is probably also my last but I had such a bad anxious pregnancy with him I feel robbed of the wonderful experience I had with my first. I know you’re worried people will think it’s all about not being done but if you can talk to someone about it then that might help.



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2018, 12:54 PM   5
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Oh dear, I so know how you feel! After both my babies I felt like I'd made such an awful mistake after the birth high wore off and my milk came in. This is hormones. Just stupid, regular, horrible hormones and it WILL get better. I wouldn't change a thing now. Give it a couple of weeks and everything will be ok.



 
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Old Jul 21st, 2018, 15:14 PM   6
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Thank you ladies im glad you can all relate to how im feeling doesn't make me feel as bad and silly. God these hormones have so much to answer for don't they?! They completely ruined majority of my pregnancy and now this it's so infuritating. I think it is feeling extra tough where i know thats it for sure, whereas the other times i knew i would likely be back up the hospital having another one in a couple of years. I think I'm always going to crave a newborn but I can't just keep having children to have the baby stage when do you stop lol. I do hope by the end of the summer things will feel more normal again and i can really enjoy the kids i have i am so blessed to have 4 i want to enjoy every moment i can xx



 
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