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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 09:14 AM   1
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What does your 4-month-old do apart from eat and sleep?


I don't know whether this is an odd question, but here we go: what do your 4-month-old babies do when they are not sleeping or eating? Mine expects attention pretty much for all of his awake time, which is entirely what I expecting before he arrived. However, what I didn't expect is that the attention must be given almost always while he is being held. If I try to put him on the bed or floor or baby nest or chair or whatever, even if I am still holding on to him he will cry. He tends to scream blue murder each time I put him in the pram even though I am chatting away to him, and he often gets in such a state that he cries for the whole walk. He cries in his carseat and then either falls asleep or cries for the whole car journey. I have found three places where one could describe him as entirely happy: (1) on his nappy changing mat in the corner of our bedroom (he actually loves having his nappy changed so I tend to change it far more than necessary LOL); (2) on a towel on the bathroom floor (he enjoys having a bath, so he associates the bathroom floor with bath time); (3) in his bouncy chair in a particular corner of the kitchen, but only at breakfast time (he loves watching daddy making porridge and me drinking coffee, but he doesn't enjoy being in the same chair at most other times of day. Go figure!).

As I say, I entirely expected to have to devote ALL my waking moments to entertaining my baby, but I am a bit confused as to why he has to be on my hip the whole time, as it's beginning to give me back-ache. Bizarrely, he is far more comfy being carried in my arms than in a sling, so even that isn't an option for much of the time.

Anyway, when he isn't in those three places that I mentioned above or sitting in my arms, he is generally crying. Would you say that's about normal for a baby of this age (nearly four months)? OMG, I ask that "normal" Q so many times, even though I know there's no such thing as normal when it comes to babies LOL. Anyway, always worth asking isn't it!

Thanks girls. OH has got LO for a bit, hence my glut of questions on here this afternoon. Time for a feed now so off I go. xx



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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 09:18 AM   2
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She has a play mat jungle and loves it in there, she goes in her swing and we put stuff on it for her to play with, we go for walks...We sing and dance and sometimes she just chills with me and watches some baby TV....
Today though she is being very fussy and wants to be held all day which means nothing is getting done x



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 09:29 AM   3
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hmmmm, Izzy plays very occasionally in the leapfrog station, has started to hate her play gym, tries to get out of her bouncy chair and gets frustrated. She will watch me in the kitchen when i am cooking dinner but not for long. I usually have to stay in the same room as her otherwise she screams. When we go in her buggy she will often fall asleep which is good (i have to lay her on her front). She likes stories and songs too. She likes watching woolamaloo on the tv. It must be so exhausting for u, i know i am shattered at the end of the day after all the entertaining!



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 10:12 AM   4
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I WISH my LO would love having his nappy changed! I dread nappy times because he screams the house down, thrashes about and then wees all over the place.

I can't offer any advice as my LO is alot younger x



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 10:15 AM   5
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Hi Colsy !! Well Zac is nearly 4 months and he loves playing on his play mat it has toys hanging over his face. he isnt that keen on his chair ( bouncer thing) he will stay in it for maybe 10 mins and then wants out . He loves sitting on my lap and facing the tv and watching it and also we have some talk time on my lap lying his back on a cushion and facing me we talk to each other... I know it must be hard if hey want attention all of the time !!



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 13:46 PM   6
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It must be tough having to carry your LO all the time
My LO loves nappy time too, and hence so do we
He generally loves silly games/rhymes, and being talked to, above all else. Enjoys walks outside in his baby bjorn. I try to read to him on occasion, but he is not a fan yet. And yeah, he also likes being carried around...When he is otherwise inconsolable, we carry him, or put him in his swing (which he also adores)
My mother and MIL actually said that they left us alone as babies (in a different room) for a good part of the time. Sometimes I am worried if the constant one-on-one entertainment of LOs that is so popular these days has contributed to the recent explosion in the diagnosis of ADD and such? Not trying to start an argument, but am a concerned first-time mom
So I also try to encourage playing on his playmat and with his favorite toys by himself - and he will be content anywhere from a few minutes to 15-20 mins or so (sometimes falls asleep playing). That said, he is almost always in the same room with me or OH. Oh, I forgot to mention - just recently (he is now 4.5 mths) he has been content just watching us eat/talk/work on our laptops (I think he loves the keyboard noises)...He can spend quite a while doing that without getting bored Makes you really stop and think about what to do/say - having these innocent and curious baby eyes observe you so carefully.
Thanks for opening this thread - maybe it will give all of us ideas about things to do/try.



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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 13:57 PM   7
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Hiya

Poor you, my LO had a grouchy day today and it was such hard work!

My LO likes his play mat grabbing his hanging toys and putting them in his mouth, he likes his bouncer too (sometimes) as long as he has got something to play with whilst in it. He LOVES his new door bouncer (have you got one?), they are a life saver as I can do bits in the kitchen whilst he bounces away happily. He also likes sitting on my lap watching tv, and when I turn him around to face me and sing nursery rhymes to him with this baby einstein cd that we have. He likes being read to too.

He doesnt really like tummy time but likes being on his back on the rug whilst I talk to him and he has a kickabout.

Hope that helps! x



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 13:58 PM   8
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Ooh and if he likes having his nappy changed, perhaps you could try letting him have nappy off time (if you don't already) on some old towels? My LO loves it



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 14:01 PM   9
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Colsy - have you tried Cranial Osteopathy for your little one. From reading your posts he seems to be very unsettled in a few different ways and cranial oseopathy can be helpful for most of them.

I took Charlie as he had very bad wind and they found that he had a trapped nerve in his neck which was linked to his digestive system, and he also had a twisted diapraghm - after 4 sessions he was like a different baby - it cost 35 a session so not cheap but defo worth it.

Here is a link in case you haven't taken him and you think it may be something you want to look in to

http://www.cranial.org.uk/page3.html

(BTW I'm not an osteopath in case you thought I was just doing some promotion)

I hope things improve for you - it sound like you're having a tough old time of it.

xx



 
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Old Jan 26th, 2010, 14:47 PM   10
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Hello! My LO used to be like this all the time, she's a little better now but still has her days where she cries all the time, maybe once a week or so.

She loves lying on her playmat watching a bit of babyTV after her first morning bottle, and I change her nappy (she loves this too) and leave her some nappy free time for about 30mins.

She then likes to go in door bouncer now, or her swing chair (each she can tolerate for about 20 mins each before getting fed up).

She likes laying beside me on the sofa and me giving her different objects to look at for a while. She also LOVES it when i sit her somewhere and then sing nursery rhymes and dance round the room like a maniac, she proper giggles at me!!

Like your LO she used to scream in the pushchair/car seat, but she's getting a bit better dare I say it. If i put it in the highest sitting position and give her something to hold or look at and a dummy she's more content. Her favourite is going for walks in the baby carrier though.

After being ok for the initial 30mins on her playmat she doesn't really tend to like going on it anymore through the day and likes to be with me pretty much all the time and I'm exhausted at the end of the day. Some days I think to myself how on earth am I going to entertain her all day and the time goes so slowly! Your doing a grand job hun, I know it is hard work xxx



 
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