since ive sadly finshed having children now ive had my 4th, ive been thinking loads about all the women out there that are desperate to have children but for some reason are unable and it breaks my heart

id love to donate eggs and have no attachment to them esp as each month one is lost, although i know any child born from that egg would be 50% my DNA , id do it in a heartbeat for any childless couple

i think if it was a v close friend/sister i could do a surrogate pregnancy too i think it has to be the most amazing , most generous gift you could give,

so how about you lovely ladies , has it ever crossed your mind??

I could donate Eggs.

But I couldn't be a surrogate as I think I would become too attached to the baby when pregnant
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Thats the big worry isn't it, getting too attached to the baby...

I think donating eggs is a great idea.. Have you looked into it much? Whats the procedure like, I wonder if its painful..

I would love to be a surrogate and would defo consider it once I'm finished having my own babies, if I'm not too old by then!

Ooh. A friend of mine has pcos and said maybe one day i could be her surrogate, in a general passing comment. I stopped her right there and then and said sorry mate, but i couldnt do that. For starters, she is in a bad situation right now any way and so a baby shouldnt be brought into that, but also i couldnt give birth to a baby and then give it away, whether it be to a stranger and certainly not to someone i knew. It would be my baby after i had given birth, be it my egg or not. I couldnt carry a baby for 9 months then give it away.

In terms of my eggs. I could consider the idea of annonymously(sp) donating them to someone, but i couldnt do it for someone i knew. I would have an unhealthy attatchment to the baby that would arise after they had been born. Unhealthy in terms of knowing that baby was a part of me. Im a control freak at the best of times and i think watching someone else bringing up a baby which was part of me would tear me apart.

I think anyone who can do these things is a very caring selfless person and i admire them for it. I just know its not for me. If you wish to do something like this, then as long as you have your entire familys support (It would involve them as much as you) Thenb i say best of luck to you, you are a more giving person than me and you will create a miracle for someone one day x

Once I am done having children (I actually think I am now but would need to be sure) I would consider anonymous egg donation definately.

Sadly though I don't think I could be a surrogate, apart from anything I never liked pregnancy and had severe SPD, to go through it again and know that I would have to give the baby up... No I couldn't do it.

Ive looked into donating my eggs before but the only thing that puts me off is knowing that in 18 years time someone could turn up at my door looking for their biological mother. If there was no way the child born as a result could ever find out who i was i would do it in a heartbeat. Im not 100% decided on whether it would be fair to put my own family through it, the child would mean nothing to me, but thats not to say i wouldnt mean anything to the child

I wouldn't. I'm a worrior, & didnt have a pleasant pregnancy or delivery. Holding someone's elses baby inside me & not knwing what's going inside me would drain my nerves, & giving him away at the end would kill me. As for eggs donation, I cant imagine a part of me is raised by someone else.

Oh and I would only do it with the full support of DH. Although polo princess makes a good point about the resulting baby not meaning anything to me but maybe I would mean something to them.

I have great admiration for those women that do it, but personally I don't think I could...if I was a surrogate I'd get way too attached and I couldn't donate my eggs knowing there was a part of me out there. But still like I said well done to the women who do it! X