i WAS adopted help 'may upset'

happygirl666 · Jul 7th, 2010, 16:35 PM

ok i was adopted with my twin sisster from a rough background and was thinking of looking my mum up i am 1 of 14 children that the services know about but have been told there could be nore as she is allways on the run i know my dad is in jail for murder he is out in 2 years but if i fined my mum how to i tell her my twin hung her self when she was 13 or should i say we lost contact or what omg i miss her

AppleBlossom · Jul 7th, 2010, 16:40 PM

Erm, I don't really know what to suggest. Do you mean your mum has 14+ children?

Celesse · Jul 7th, 2010, 16:41 PM

I suggest having some counselling before trying to find her. Maybe talk to your GP.

happygirl666 · Jul 7th, 2010, 16:47 PM

yes my mum has 14pluss none live with her i would have thort she would learn that they will just be taken away i dont under stand how she could keep having them just to get them taken

LesleyP · Jul 7th, 2010, 16:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Celesse

I suggest having some counselling before trying to find her. Maybe talk to your GP.

I agree. Your emotions / hormones are still all over the place from your pregnancy etc... the last thing you'd want to do is for this to push you over the edge.

I'd say talk to someone about it first then go from there.

Pink1981 · Jul 7th, 2010, 16:50 PM

Do you want to find her?? I agree that counselling may be best before you start looking for her

happygirl666 · Jul 7th, 2010, 16:55 PM

i want to but i want to be settled first i am just trying to work out what the hell i should do lol i will speak to some one about it first tho thank god i have darren he is so suportive

PineappleHead · Jul 7th, 2010, 21:11 PM

didn't want to read and run. I agree talking to someone first. Pregnancy and looking for a lost parent can be very emotional things, and you don't want to over-do your emotions or hormones etc. sending

though. Hope everything works out for you.

leelee · Jul 8th, 2010, 02:04 AM

I also think you should speak to someone first

I wish you the best of luck

Scampie · Jul 8th, 2010, 02:10 AM

I agree with everyone else about the counselling. Once you have sorted yourself out you can then try and figure out if it is actually a good idea. As you said, she is always on the run. Will it actually cause you more harm to find her then for her to dissapear again?

Think about your little family for now, and do what is best for them then think about your mum in future.

Best of luck to you hun x

Jul 7th, 2010, 16:35 PM	#1
happygirl666 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: london Posts: 1,692	i WAS adopted help 'may upset' ok i was adopted with my twin sisster from a rough background and was thinking of looking my mum up i am 1 of 14 children that the services know about but have been told there could be nore as she is allways on the run i know my dad is in jail for murder he is out in 2 years but if i fined my mum how to i tell her my twin hung her self when she was 13 or should i say we lost contact or what omg i miss her

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Jul 7th, 2010, 16:40 PM	#2
AppleBlossom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Liverpool, UK Posts: 25,860	Erm, I don't really know what to suggest. Do you mean your mum has 14+ children?

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Jul 7th, 2010, 16:41 PM	#3
Celesse Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: UK Posts: 6,726	I suggest having some counselling before trying to find her. Maybe talk to your GP.

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happygirl666 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: london Posts: 1,692	yes my mum has 14pluss none live with her i would have thort she would learn that they will just be taken away i dont under stand how she could keep having them just to get them taken

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Pink1981 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Suffolk Posts: 2,965	Do you want to find her?? I agree that counselling may be best before you start looking for her

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happygirl666 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: london Posts: 1,692	i want to but i want to be settled first i am just trying to work out what the hell i should do lol i will speak to some one about it first tho thank god i have darren he is so suportive

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Jul 7th, 2010, 21:11 PM	#8
PineappleHead Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Lawrenceville GA USA Posts: 3,589	didn't want to read and run. I agree talking to someone first. Pregnancy and looking for a lost parent can be very emotional things, and you don't want to over-do your emotions or hormones etc. sending though. Hope everything works out for you.

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leelee Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 6,887	I also think you should speak to someone first I wish you the best of luck

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Scampie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 4,927	I agree with everyone else about the counselling. Once you have sorted yourself out you can then try and figure out if it is actually a good idea. As you said, she is always on the run. Will it actually cause you more harm to find her then for her to dissapear again? Think about your little family for now, and do what is best for them then think about your mum in future. Best of luck to you hun x

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