Just come back from Playgroup Sports day in tears!
So angry and upset, was having a lovely time, until i saw Ewan push one of the other kids over. Now the other kid we have known since about 3 months old and he is 6 weeks younger than Ewan.
I saw the mum glare over and called her hubby ' Ewan just pushed him over look' I thought to my self for christ sake they are not even 3 yrs old yet! they are bound to push each other etc but i felt like poo.
The morning went on and ewan had fun and was playing with the other kids between races, but him and this other lad seem to have made friends and the play group have told me they tend to antagonise each other so they try to keep them seperate.
Anywa the mother looked like thunder for the rest of the morning and she came and sat near by me later and i thought i'd just make conversation, so i said, 'sorry i saw Ewan push ++++ over, really sorry he doesnt usually do things like that to other kids' and she turned round and said 'well actually the playgroup has been having alot of problems with Ewan pushing +++++ and other kids around and we are thinking of moving ++++ to another playgroup' so i replied well i didnt know so how can i do anything about it.' and she walked off well i felt like complete shite and have been in tears on and off ever since.
I'm sure if it was that band the playgroup would have spoken to me, am in tears typing this!
So am going to write an email to the playgroup leader to see what is going on, the other mum had no right to make me feel this way.
I've always spoken to her but never reall got on, always had that feeling that i am 'below' her, she had a top of the range silver cross push chair for her first born and now has another posh double buggy.
Suppose its her problem really at the end of the day they are kids, not evern 3 years old, but its just these two who seem to wind each other up.
Luckily they will be in different year groups at school!
im sure if he was causing that much of a problem to the other children you would have been told, sounds to me like she is just up her own arse lol! i wouldnt worry, just email the nursery and see if they think there is a problem and if there is find out why you werent told in the first place.
they are only children at the end of the day and if the other mother was been like that to you she is the immature one in my opinion
sorry to hear your upset. talking to the people that run the playgroup sounds like a good idea and then you can take things forward appropriatley. there may not be a problem at all with your son pushing others and this other mum may just be over protective of her child
Oh i'm so sorry you are upset hun, she sounds like she is right up her own arse!!!
For what it is worth i think she is talking a load of crap as the playgruop would have said something to you if they were finding Ewan to be a problem, they certaimly wouldn't tell other mums that!!!
Well i have just emailed this to the playgroup leader - can't phone at the moment as i will just end up in tears (bloody preg hormones!!)
" Hi ++++, Just wanted to say thank you for a lovely sports day today Ewan really enjoyed it and loved the stickers.
Unfortunatley I came home in tears very upset, half way through I saw Ewan push ++++++ over, I saw that his mum wasn’t too happy so I went and apologised later on in the morning and she was quite abrupt with me saying that it isn’t the first time it has happened and Ewan is always pushing Joshua and other kids over, and that they are thinking of taking Joshua out of playgroup because of Ewan. I know that you mentioned that they tend to wind each other up but I wasn’t aware that it had got to this stage of another child considering leaving because of Ewan. So as you can imagine I was quite upset when I left. I said to Rachel that I wasn’t made aware there was still a problem or that Ewan was bullying other kids. Please could you advise me of the situation, as I am obviously worried, but also consider that Ewan is not yet 3 and is still learning boundaries and what behaviour is acceptable and what isn’t, so I would expect there to be occasional situations between kids. I am keen to help dissolve the situation so if there is anything I can do at home to help or even at playgroup then please let me know..."
I think this sounds ok I am quite willing to do anything to ease problems. Spoke to hubby and he said thats her problem not ours and to speak to the playgroup and see whats going on, she is obviously going to be having serious problems when he goes to school! if she is like that now!
Have had this response from the playgroup leader
" Hi Selena,
Glad you enjoyed the sports day and Ewan did too.
++++++ did come to talk to me before she left. It is easier to talk about this than through e mail so we can ring later. I understand how upsetting this sort of thing is for all concerned. We are experiencing some conflict between them but it is not all coming in one direction and Ewan responds well to direction when we have to intervene in situations. Ewan has little understanding of personal space and we are working on this in group. He is young and is learning the boundaries etc as you rightly say. "
So this sounds like it isnt a big problem and i will ring the leader in a little while.
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