Sex one wek post partum - Page 3

JenStar1976 · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:20 AM

Blimey ladies! You lot are brave! It's 8 months since I had Alex and we haven't gone there at all! I had a second degree tear with loads of swelling & stitches, bled for about 6 weeks, and am petrified of "doing it".

Apart from all the post-birth stuff, aren't you all knackered from the night feeds - sex was the last thing on my mind

!!?? xxx

ClaireLouise · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by JenStar1976

Blimey ladies! You lot are brave! It's 8 months since I had Alex and we haven't gone there at all! I had a second degree tear with loads of swelling & stitches, bled for about 6 weeks, and am petrified of "doing it".

Apart from all the post-birth stuff, aren't you all knackered from the night feeds - sex was the last thing on my mind

!!?? xxx

At last! I dont feel so bad for waiting!

amygwen · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:31 AM

I've DTD once in the almost four months Kenny has been born because it was so terrible for me. Still I waited about 10 weeks to have sex. I personally wouldn't. Your body went through a serious surgery and even though you may feel fine you're not completely healed yet.

lynnikins · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:36 AM

considering a c-sec is major abdominal sugery i wouldnt be wanting to upset the healing of it tbh

i waited 6 wks both times after both vaginal births one with episiotomy and stiches and the other with a 3rd degree tear and deep internal stiches and even now 6 months on i have to be careful caus the scar feels tight sometimes

Shwhattam+1 · Sep 28th, 2010, 10:44 AM

I also had a C-Section 11 days ago, and am waiting a bit for the following reason:

When the placenta detaches from the uterus, it leaves a wound which is one of the reasons you bleed after childbirth. Therefore having sex or using tampons prior to proper healing could introduce an infection.

Once my bleeding stops (it almost has) I will assess how I feel about being intimate with my OH and go from there.

Jchihuahua · Sep 28th, 2010, 13:42 PM

I waited a few weeks but had awful tearing internally and an episotomy so had loads of stitches and was so sore.

vegasbaby · Sep 28th, 2010, 13:52 PM

I had a C-section and waited two weeks. My hormones were going crazy and I could not help myself. I made my DH wear protection because even that soon after birth I was afraid of getting pregnant and I figured it was a bit more sanitary. We went really slow, and there were no complications from DTD. My advice would be to listen to your body, if it hurts at all stop.

abigail_71 · Sep 28th, 2010, 14:07 PM

Wow you guys are rampant lol!

I read the average wait is 3 months but any time after about 2 weeks is fine. 2 weeks is how long it takes for the cervix to fully close and so the risk of infection is much reduced.

edited to say i waited longer than 3 months and now feel like an evil wife.....ha ha

Mellage · Sep 28th, 2010, 14:10 PM

2 weeks after Ethan, cant remember after Finlay

Louise23 · Sep 28th, 2010, 14:12 PM

Ur all CRAZY I waited about 2/3months.. Until my periods were back to normal and i got the contraceptive injection.. Mainly for personal reasons.. pill doesnt work for me and he doesnt like "the glove" LOL but even without this i was massivly tired after lat nights and early morning.. i'd snore as soon as me head hit the pillow.

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JenStar1976 Chat Happy BnB Member Alex's Mummy! x Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chelmsford, Essex, UK Country: Posts: 1,050 Thanked others: 168 Thanked 440 times in 398 posts Currently Feeling:	Blimey ladies! You lot are brave! It's 8 months since I had Alex and we haven't gone there at all! I had a second degree tear with loads of swelling & stitches, bled for about 6 weeks, and am petrified of "doing it". Apart from all the post-birth stuff, aren't you all knackered from the night feeds - sex was the last thing on my mind !!?? xxx __________________
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amygwen BnB Addict Mom to Kenny and LTWTT Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: San Antonio, Texas Country: Posts: 9,581 Thanked others: 3,127 Thanked 3,509 times in 2,823 posts Currently Feeling:	I've DTD once in the almost four months Kenny has been born because it was so terrible for me. Still I waited about 10 weeks to have sex. I personally wouldn't. Your body went through a serious surgery and even though you may feel fine you're not completely healed yet. __________________
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lynnikins BnB Elite 3 DS and Bump Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: East Midlands Country: Posts: 15,450 Thanked others: 819 Thanked 4,682 times in 4,318 posts Currently Feeling:	considering a c-sec is major abdominal sugery i wouldnt be wanting to upset the healing of it tbh i waited 6 wks both times after both vaginal births one with episiotomy and stiches and the other with a 3rd degree tear and deep internal stiches and even now 6 months on i have to be careful caus the scar feels tight sometimes __________________
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Shwhattam+1 Chat Happy BnB Member Pregnant - 1st Trimester Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Toronto - Leslieville/Beaches Country: Posts: 1,007 Thanked others: 107 Thanked 260 times in 223 posts Currently Feeling:	I also had a C-Section 11 days ago, and am waiting a bit for the following reason: When the placenta detaches from the uterus, it leaves a wound which is one of the reasons you bleed after childbirth. Therefore having sex or using tampons prior to proper healing could introduce an infection. Once my bleeding stops (it almost has) I will assess how I feel about being intimate with my OH and go from there. __________________
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vegasbaby Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: las vegas& orlando Country: Posts: 1,064 Thanked others: 436 Thanked 771 times in 572 posts Currently Feeling:	I had a C-section and waited two weeks. My hormones were going crazy and I could not help myself. I made my DH wear protection because even that soon after birth I was afraid of getting pregnant and I figured it was a bit more sanitary. We went really slow, and there were no complications from DTD. My advice would be to listen to your body, if it hurts at all stop. __________________
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abigail_71 Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Pembrokeshire Country: Posts: 517 Thanked others: 208 Thanked 150 times in 140 posts Currently Feeling:	Wow you guys are rampant lol! I read the average wait is 3 months but any time after about 2 weeks is fine. 2 weeks is how long it takes for the cervix to fully close and so the risk of infection is much reduced. edited to say i waited longer than 3 months and now feel like an evil wife.....ha ha __________________ Last edited by abigail_71; Sep 28th, 2010 at 14:09 PM..
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Louise23 Chat Happy BnB Member Happy mum of 3girls&a boy Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: S****horpe. Country: Posts: 1,117 Thanked others: 160 Thanked 205 times in 196 posts Currently Feeling:	Ur all CRAZY I waited about 2/3months.. Until my periods were back to normal and i got the contraceptive injection.. Mainly for personal reasons.. pill doesnt work for me and he doesnt like "the glove" LOL but even without this i was massivly tired after lat nights and early morning.. i'd snore as soon as me head hit the pillow.
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